Boyfriend dog sitting for ex

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here with update. I woke up to a random breakup text this morning. Coincidence? I think not. Always trust your gut.

He was shady in multiple ways. He never mentioned his cheating incidence until very late in our relationship, then this dog pops up without even speaking to me about it. There were also times where he got calls from her late at night recently.

All of it is poor boundaries and crappy behavior. There’s no excuse for it, and I’m glad he dumped me because after processing it all last night I realized I was done with him.

Nobody in their right mind should tell you about a cheating incident. That's just stupid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here with update. I woke up to a random breakup text this morning. Coincidence? I think not. Always trust your gut.

He was shady in multiple ways. He never mentioned his cheating incidence until very late in our relationship, then this dog pops up without even speaking to me about it. There were also times where he got calls from her late at night recently.

All of it is poor boundaries and crappy behavior. There’s no excuse for it, and I’m glad he dumped me because after processing it all last night I realized I was done with him.

No, not a coincidence - but not what you're thinking.

If you'd gotten pissy with me about watching the dog, I'd have given serious thought to breaking up with you, too.

BS : men always have an exit plan they don’t leave until they secured a backup

Sometimes. Or, OP's reaction to the dog was sufficiently . . . vehement that he decided that it was better to bail and be alone than continue with her.

Breaking up via text after a year is all I need to know about this cheating man-child. OP 100% dodged a bullet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Today I visited my boyfriend and there was a dog at his house. he says his ex needed dog sitting for the next couple of weeks.

This makes me uncomfortable. How would you approach this?

I would be excited because that means he might dogsit for me, too!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Sorry I shared very few details. he was with her for 5 years they used to live together. I don’t know if the dog was around then. After they ended he had a new relationship and cheated with her once according to him.

Because of this history I just feel uncomfortable about it all.

I would dump him because he is a known cheater, not because of the dog.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here with update. I woke up to a random breakup text this morning. Coincidence? I think not. Always trust your gut.

He was shady in multiple ways. He never mentioned his cheating incidence until very late in our relationship, then this dog pops up without even speaking to me about it. There were also times where he got calls from her late at night recently.

All of it is poor boundaries and crappy behavior. There’s no excuse for it, and I’m glad he dumped me because after processing it all last night I realized I was done with him.

I wonder if his ex reads DCUM and told him about this thread...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here with update. I woke up to a random breakup text this morning. Coincidence? I think not. Always trust your gut.

He was shady in multiple ways. He never mentioned his cheating incidence until very late in our relationship, then this dog pops up without even speaking to me about it. There were also times where he got calls from her late at night recently.

All of it is poor boundaries and crappy behavior. There’s no excuse for it, and I’m glad he dumped me because after processing it all last night I realized I was done with him.

No, not a coincidence - but not what you're thinking.

If you'd gotten pissy with me about watching the dog, I'd have given serious thought to breaking up with you, too.

BS : men always have an exit plan they don’t leave until they secured a backup

Sometimes. Or, OP's reaction to the dog was sufficiently . . . vehement that he decided that it was better to bail and be alone than continue with her.

Breaking up via text after a year is all I need to know about this cheating man-child. OP 100% dodged a bullet.

This. What a spineless coward. It totally sucks to look someone in the eyes and end a relationship but that’s what mature people do. I agree with the PPs. Bullet soooooo dodged.

[Anonymous]

OP talk to your bf about it. You will get lots of different views and responses here. All that matters is how you are feeling about the situation and how your BF is feeling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP talk to your bf about it. You will get lots of different views and responses here. All that matters is how you are feeling about the situation and how your BF is feeling.

Read the thread. Sheesh.

[Anonymous]

Women are extremely territorial when it comes to their "man". And they are not doing it because they are jealous, annoying, controlling etc. it just the female nature. Women do not want any woman who could pose a threat to their relationship near their man. And an ex is a threat. Some of you guys on this forum are so stupid for real. Any man who has dated or is dating knows this very basic fact. Even if your wife, gf, claims that she is cool about it. No she is not. She will bring up 120 days later. And again there is nothing wrong with that. It's now women are in a relationship.

OP tell him not to do it again. And if he can't stop, he can go back and date her. He will then access to the dog 24/7. If he is a dog guy, he can adopt or buy a dog

Don't listen to the idiots here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women are extremely territorial when it comes to their "man". And they are not doing it because they are jealous, annoying, controlling etc. it just the female nature. Women do not want any woman who could pose a threat to their relationship near their man. And an ex is a threat. Some of you guys on this forum are so stupid for real. Any man who has dated or is dating knows this very basic fact. Even if your wife, gf, claims that she is cool about it. No she is not. She will bring up 120 days later. And again there is nothing wrong with that. It's now women are in a relationship.

OP tell him not to do it again. And if he can't stop, he can go back and date her. He will then access to the dog 24/7. If he is a dog guy, he can adopt or buy a dog

Don't listen to the idiots here.

Our resident incel is back!

Learn how to read yet? Doesn't look like you did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women are extremely territorial when it comes to their "man". And they are not doing it because they are jealous, annoying, controlling etc. it just the female nature. Women do not want any woman who could pose a threat to their relationship near their man. And an ex is a threat. Some of you guys on this forum are so stupid for real. Any man who has dated or is dating knows this very basic fact. Even if your wife, gf, claims that she is cool about it. No she is not. She will bring up 120 days later. And again there is nothing wrong with that. It's now women are in a relationship.

OP tell him not to do it again. And if he can't stop, he can go back and date her. He will then access to the dog 24/7. If he is a dog guy, he can adopt or buy a dog

Don't listen to the idiots here.

Hey OP said they broke up. So her judgement was on point.

[Anonymous]

He should not be watching his ex’s dog unless maybe they share mutual kids together.

I would just tell him that I was not comfortable w/him doing favors for his ex & that he shouldn’t be doing these types of things again.