STRUGGLING as an empty nester

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to volunteer more and maybe look into some anti-anxiety meds.

Seriously. I barely saw my kids when they were home because we both worked, and I’ll likely never retire.

Gain some perspective on how wonderful your life is, and giving to others is a good start.

Dang, we both worked and we saw our kids all the time. You’ll probably transition to empty nesters easily since . It won’t feel empty because you never saw your kids.

So they weren’t in daycare and you picked them up at 3pm from school every day?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is me, too, OP, except I don’t have a husband. I’m all alone.

It’s hard.

I’m a widow and empty nester. I hate it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe join a gym to exercise more nights and always have a place to go?

The thing about the pic is now you’re just alone at a gym.

People need human connection

Didn't she just have human connection all day at work? I'm an introvert so I can't relate at all. But if they OP wants to enjoy coming home to quiet, become a teacher. You'll crave quiet like a junkie craves smack. My DS left for college two years ago and he's home more than I thought. School ended the first week of May and he will go back the last weekend in August. He has 3-4 weeks off for winter break and another week for spring break.

Op doesn’t work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is me, too, OP, except I don’t have a husband. I’m all alone.

It’s hard.

I’m a widow and empty nester. I hate it.

Could you get a roommate? It’ll be extra cash and companionship. That’s what my mom did when I left home. Her roommates became her friends and they would eat meals together, socialize, car pool, etc…

[Anonymous]

Dogs are awesome. Unconditional love, and a lot less work than a kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe join a gym to exercise more nights and always have a place to go?

The thing about the pic is now you’re just alone at a gym.

People need human connection

Didn't she just have human connection all day at work? I'm an introvert so I can't relate at all. But if they OP wants to enjoy coming home to quiet, become a teacher. You'll crave quiet like a junkie craves smack. My DS left for college two years ago and he's home more than I thought. School ended the first week of May and he will go back the last weekend in August. He has 3-4 weeks off for winter break and another week for spring break.

Op doesn’t work.

Well then, get a job! Work in a school and I guarantee you will come home exhausted and seeking quiet.

[Anonymous]

How long have you been an empty nester?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is me, too, OP, except I don’t have a husband. I’m all alone.

It’s hard.

I’m a widow and empty nester. I hate it.

Could you get a roommate? It’ll be extra cash and companionship. That’s what my mom did when I left home. Her roommates became her friends and they would eat meals together, socialize, car pool, etc…

I had an acquaintance who got a roommate in a similar situation once.

The roommate murdered him.

No thanks.

[Anonymous]

This is a great chance to spend some time with yourself. Evaluate your life thus far. Set some goals for yourself. If you learn to enjoy your own company you will never be lonely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am STRUGGLING. I do stay busy. I work. Everyone said to find hobbies, and I did, and it helps. I have a book club one evening a week, joined an evening fitness class, plan dinner a couple times a month with friends, do little hobbies and occasionally find a home project to keep me busy. My main issue is that my DH travels for work quite often, so I’m alone. I stay busy, but no matter how busy I am, I come home to a quiet house, alone. He can’t do anything about his work schedule right now because he’s so close to retirement. But I feel like I’m struggling to stay afloat in this situation. I don’t know what else I can do. Does anyone have any advice?? Please be kind!



*I didn’t know where to post this, so please move if this isn’t the place!

Travel with him! Change of venue. Or maybe on trips that are 3+ days long or that you can both tack on a weekend.