Women don't want men over 45 who have never been married or have no kids

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP: you should have bought a ticket to Thailand this morning. You will do much better there.

If you insist on dating here, date younger. I now realize I was wasting my time with women around my age. I currently have a 26 year old GF, we have been together for three years.

You think she’ll stick around when she’s 56 and you are 76?

A woman at 56 looks about the same as a man at 76 if he is active and in shape.

Liar!

Tell it to mother Nature.

[Anonymous]

46 is getting up there, but it's not too late. I married my single, childless husband when he was 41 and I was 29.

I'd never marry a man with kids. That's a nightmare if you also want your own children.

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I will add that you should be upfront about any long term relationships you’ve had. By 40, most men and women don’t want to put in that much work in educating someone of the opposite sex. Things like basic hygiene, cleanliness, how to care for someone, how our bodies work. I would date a 45+ man if he has had several long term relationships that for legitimate reasons, never worked out. It seems like it would be a huge leap to see eye to eye with someone who has never seriously dated anyone by 45. I would consider divorced men with kids more of an advantage from this perspective - at least they know what they are getting into with women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would prefer a divorced man with no kids at 45+. No marriage at all by that age is a red flag for both men and women.

Spoiler: It’s massive red flag by 35.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Many of the women are lying when they say that they would prefer a 46 years old man who has never been married and has no kids over a man the same age who is divorced with kids. I have not observed this in the real world, instead it's like there is something wrong with you for being this age and never had a wife and/or kids. Maybe I should have a had a kid out of wedlock in my 20s/30s lol it would have given me more "clout"

Sorry I am just venting this saturday morning. Went to the bar yesterday got rejected, been getting rejected on OLD. In the meantime this guy I know who is recently divorced came with us with his new date.

Luckily we have an anonymous forum we can vent because for us men we can't really share these kind of feelings among us.

Women do not want 90% of men.

If you don’t have 6-6-6-6, don’t bother trying to get the interest of any American woman in 2025. Without those attributes, you are dead to them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP: you should have bought a ticket to Thailand this morning. You will do much better there.

If you insist on dating here, date younger. I now realize I was wasting my time with women around my age. I currently have a 26 year old GF, we have been together for three years.

You think she’ll stick around when she’s 56 and you are 76?

When I'm 76 she will be 35.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP: you should have bought a ticket to Thailand this morning. You will do much better there.

If you insist on dating here, date younger. I now realize I was wasting my time with women around my age. I currently have a 26 year old GF, we have been together for three years.

You think she’ll stick around when she’s 56 and you are 76?

A woman at 56 looks about the same as a man at 76 if he is active and in shape.

Liar!

Tell it to mother Nature.

Sorry the mind goes rigid at that age. I think it would be very boring for most 50 yo women.

[Anonymous]

From my observation, people (men and women) who've never had either kids or been married are usually emotionally stunted in some way. It doesn't always show right away, but it eventually does. Being married and/or having kids is a tool that helps you grow in ways that being single without kids can't.

Men who've been married have already been "broken in," which is why they are often more appealing once they are divorced. They don't need training wheels.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP: you should have bought a ticket to Thailand this morning. You will do much better there.

If you insist on dating here, date younger. I now realize I was wasting my time with women around my age. I currently have a 26 year old GF, we have been together for three years.

You think she’ll stick around when she’s 56 and you are 76?

When I'm 76 she will be 35.

Do you think she’ll enjoy sleeping with 76 yo you? Does it matter for you when your partner is satisfied and happy or only your need matter ? Do you plan kids (because otherwise she won’t stick around unless you can provide $5m+ in your will for her in current present value).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:46 is getting up there, but it's not too late. I married my single, childless husband when he was 41 and I was 29.

I'd never marry a man with kids. That's a nightmare if you also want your own children.

I agree 100%. I am divorced with 2 kids and you are correct. I love my daughter but she is very high maintenance and adding another woman as "completion" will be a nightmare for everyone involved.

[Anonymous]

PP competition*

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I'd be very concerned about a man with no prior relationship experience who spent most of his 20s and 30s in Africa. One would have to assume he engaged in risky sex with prostitutes during that period and was probably exposed to HIV.

[Anonymous]

OP meant to say “settle down”, not “settling”. Let’s get that out of the way.

I know someone like OP and I admit that I’ve been intrigued. The biggest red flag for me is that someone in his position has never had to put anyone else first before. If we got together, my children would come first. Could OP understand this? The person I’m thinking of is good looking, financially stable and seems to have a lot to offer. I don’t know why he hasn’t been taken, yet, other than he’s socially awkward. There must be more to the story than meets the eye. Only you know why, OP, unless you want to share more details.

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Anonymous wrote:It just baffles me that people think of marriage as this huge accomplishment in life. Most people complain about their marriages, nonstop, especially on here so avoiding marriage actually seems like the way to go.

many mental health medical professionals consider those who are married, in non-abusive, low-conflict partnerships, healthier than those who are not married

Please post your source

Do your own work

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Did your date actually say she had concerns about your history?

Because it seems far more likely that she just didn't vibe with you for whatever reason.

OP here. Yes I'll agree with you we probably didn't vibe. But when I have been on dates before, I always feel like they think there is something wrong with me because I am single no kids never married at this age. I understand it's part of the vetting process, but it's frustrating nevertheless because there is nothing wrong me I just didn't want to settle in my 30s.

Do you mean settle in you didn’t want to settle down or you didn’t want to compromise just to get married? If the former then that is a huge red flag.