Women don't want men over 45 who have never been married or have no kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would prefer a divorced man with no kids at 45+. No marriage at all by that age is a red flag for both men and women.

I agree. Kids are a complication, divorce is not, especially over 40 because so many single folks over 40 are divorced.

I suspect kids become less of an issue in your 50s and 60s because custody issues go away.

But no marriage at all by 45 raises questions. If the questions can be answered in a reasonable way (say, foreign service officer stationed in dangerous places, maybe a serious relationship that didn't work due to moves) might not matter.

But someone who has been dating normally for 25ish year and never settled down? Why? And what's different now?

In my family's case, my handsome, charismatic brother was very enmeshed with my mom. The women got fed up with waiting for him. Now he dates divorced women with grown kids.

[Anonymous]

OP: you should have bought a ticket to Thailand this morning. You will do much better there.

If you insist on dating here, date younger. I now realize I was wasting my time with women around my age. I currently have a 26 year old GF, we have been together for three years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP: you should have bought a ticket to Thailand this morning. You will do much better there.

If you insist on dating here, date younger. I now realize I was wasting my time with women around my age. I currently have a 26 year old GF, we have been together for three years.

You think she’ll stick around when she’s 56 and you are 76?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP: you should have bought a ticket to Thailand this morning. You will do much better there.

If you insist on dating here, date younger. I now realize I was wasting my time with women around my age. I currently have a 26 year old GF, we have been together for three years.

You think she’ll stick around when she’s 56 and you are 76?

Or when that ED kicks in soon..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP: you should have bought a ticket to Thailand this morning. You will do much better there.

If you insist on dating here, date younger. I now realize I was wasting my time with women around my age. I currently have a 26 year old GF, we have been together for three years.

You think she’ll stick around when she’s 56 and you are 76?

Only if she has a kid with him.

I know a number of middle aged women who would be fine with dating a never married childless man - they are all over the age 50.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Im a divorced woman w kids. I dont date men who dont have kids bc they dont understand what this stage of my life is like. I tried dating childless men when I first got divorced but they just didnt get where I was coming from sometimes. I would assume childless women wouldnt think that way.

They are not women either, so do you not date men because they could not understand what being a woman is like??

Women. OR men, who think like this are either clueless and being lead by social media trends, or simply mentally unwell.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It just baffles me that people think of marriage as this huge accomplishment in life. Most people complain about their marriages, nonstop, especially on here so avoiding marriage actually seems like the way to go.

many mental health medical professionals consider those who are married, in non-abusive, low-conflict partnerships, healthier than those who are not married

Yes, but you said low conflict and most people are probably living like roommates, sexless and it’s just way lonlier in a bad relationship than to be on your own. People just act like not getting married is some red flag, um no way.
Kirk Russell and goldie hawn did it right

[Anonymous]

If women are rejecting you when you approach them at a bar or on OLD, it has nothing to do with you never being married. Previous marriages shouldn’t even be a topic of conversation until the first or second date.

Something else is causing women to reject you, and my guess based on your initial post is that it’s your attitude. You come across as bitter.

Can you post your OLD profile and some examples of exchanges you’ve had? I’ve found most men have terrible profiles and even worse conversations. Happy to give feedback.

[Anonymous]

OP, I've worked around a lot of engineers. I am guessing your social skills with women aren't the greatest. That's probably the main issue you are facing.

I was doing online dating in my early forties and I would have LOVED to date unmarried men with no kids. There were so few of them, I resorted to dating men with kids, which is so much more complicated.

Do you want kids of your own? Or no kids? Or could you go either way?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP: you should have bought a ticket to Thailand this morning. You will do much better there.

If you insist on dating here, date younger. I now realize I was wasting my time with women around my age. I currently have a 26 year old GF, we have been together for three years.

Ew how old are you? 🤢🤢🤢

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP: you should have bought a ticket to Thailand this morning. You will do much better there.

If you insist on dating here, date younger. I now realize I was wasting my time with women around my age. I currently have a 26 year old GF, we have been together for three years.

You think she’ll stick around when she’s 56 and you are 76?

A woman at 56 looks about the same as a man at 76 if he is active and in shape.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP: you should have bought a ticket to Thailand this morning. You will do much better there.

If you insist on dating here, date younger. I now realize I was wasting my time with women around my age. I currently have a 26 year old GF, we have been together for three years.

You think she’ll stick around when she’s 56 and you are 76?

A woman at 56 looks about the same as a man at 76 if he is active and in shape.

Liar!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP: you should have bought a ticket to Thailand this morning. You will do much better there.

If you insist on dating here, date younger. I now realize I was wasting my time with women around my age. I currently have a 26 year old GF, we have been together for three years.

You think she’ll stick around when she’s 56 and you are 76?

A woman at 56 looks about the same as a man at 76 if he is active and in shape.

Liar!

In what universe? Lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It just baffles me that people think of marriage as this huge accomplishment in life. Most people complain about their marriages, nonstop, especially on here so avoiding marriage actually seems like the way to go.

many mental health medical professionals consider those who are married, in non-abusive, low-conflict partnerships, healthier than those who are not married

Please post your source

[Anonymous]

OP, you're not going to find Miss Right at a bar. Take a class in ballroom dancing or line dancing, rock climbing, cooking, wine tasting, etc. You need to find a fun activity where you are not expected to keep up a conversation the whole time.