How to invite people and tell them not to bring their kids?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Most of them probably won’t come if you tell them they can’t bring the kids.

This. Its expensive and not everybody has family to watch kids. I save the babysitters for date nights or big events.
But its also okay to say adults only. Just dont be surprised if people with small kids cant do that.
You may have moved on from that phase in your life but some are still deep in the trenches.

Tons of parents are cheap a$$es and enjoy adult gatherings with their friends. Not everything has to be peppa pig and paw patrol themed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just be really clear! “Adults only please” etc. Don’t beat around the bush.

I was once invited to a baby shower that was actually in a private room at a bar that did not allow children. I showed up with my kid and was denied entrance; because it was me alone, we just had to go home. I was pretty mortified. But also— it was a baby shower! Why not say something?! In that case, there was no message, tactful or otherwise, about leaving kids at home. I still think that was pretty weird.

I think this is on you. If you attend a birthday party at a strip club or honkey tonk do you assume your kids are invited? It's a birthday, it should be kid friendly! But no, clearly it's at an adult venue. Bizarre that someone needs to tell you that a bar is not child friendly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We want to host a small garden party with friends. The thing is, most of our friends have very young children and we don’t; we have a teenager. We have nothing to occupy small children, I don’t want to make my teenager have to keep an eye on them, and I don’t want them wandering around our house while we are all outside (I’m imagining parents suggesting they watch TV or sit inside on devices.) And honestly, I don’t even want them in the backyard with us. I just want an adult gathering. The thing is, our DD will be home and is inviting a friend over, though they won’t be outside with us.

What’s the best way to inform everyone that kids aren’t invited?

"adults only" with the invite.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just be really clear! “Adults only please” etc. Don’t beat around the bush.

I was once invited to a baby shower that was actually in a private room at a bar that did not allow children. I showed up with my kid and was denied entrance; because it was me alone, we just had to go home. I was pretty mortified. But also— it was a baby shower! Why not say something?! In that case, there was no message, tactful or otherwise, about leaving kids at home. I still think that was pretty weird.

I think this is on you. If you attend a birthday party at a strip club or honkey tonk do you assume your kids are invited? It's a birthday, it should be kid friendly! But no, clearly it's at an adult venue. Bizarre that someone needs to tell you that a bar is not child friendly.

Please work on your reading comprehension. I didn’t think I was bringing my kid to a bar. I thought we were going to a private room in a restaurant, like many other parties we’ve been to, including other baby showers. Even looking at it on Google maps didn’t make clear that it was a bar that does not serve food (and so cannot legally admit anyone under 18). Also, it was a 2-4pm party. At a bar. With no food. For a baby shower?!

All of that is a weird, weird choice for a baby shower, and weirder not to say anything like “adults only”— which again, would’ve been fine with me had I known.

[Anonymous]

Put adults only but expect some to ignore and bring their kids anyway. Unless you know your friends won’t do this.

I’d host it at a local bar as a happy hour and say you are meeting there to give your teen the house and avoid the kids coming.

[Anonymous]

Baby showers are for losers. They are just a big money grab.

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I’ve never seen anyone bring their kids to a baby shower. Why would you think this is a place for kids?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Adults only is great.

Women only also works really well. I've been to a lot of well attended women only events. I think they're better attended because then the husband can stay home with kids and no babysitter is needed.

So weird to socialize by gender. Are you a person or a set of reproductive organs?

Not weird at all.

Very weird. Let me guess, when you go to “co-ed” parties, the little women are in the kitchen fixing food, while the menfolk gather in the living room, drinking beer and talking sports?

NP. You seem to have a bone to pick with people who like to socialize primarily with members of the same gender, it's kind of strange.

[Anonymous]

Just say adults only.

In our case, you’d probably get just the spouse you’re closer to, who would have a great time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve never seen anyone bring their kids to a baby shower. Why would you think this is a place for kids?

I think this really depends on the event. Obviously a fancy brunch at a nice restaurant would be an adults only baby shower. However, I went to one where kids were invited and it was actually one of the more fun ones I've attended. It was a backyard BBQ with both new mom and new dad in attendance.

[Anonymous]

Yeah I’m not booking a babysitter for a “garden party.” A dinner would be different.

[Anonymous]

This is an adult (18 +/21+) only party.
Short sweet easy .. Maybe even make it bold.

Have Fun!!! I'd def attend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just be really clear! “Adults only please” etc. Don’t beat around the bush.

I was once invited to a baby shower that was actually in a private room at a bar that did not allow children. I showed up with my kid and was denied entrance; because it was me alone, we just had to go home. I was pretty mortified. But also— it was a baby shower! Why not say something?! In that case, there was no message, tactful or otherwise, about leaving kids at home. I still think that was pretty weird.

Since when do baby showers involve children as guests?

I have never attended a baby shower where people bring their children.

+1

[Anonymous]

What’s garden party?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve never seen anyone bring their kids to a baby shower. Why would you think this is a place for kids?

DP- In our family, all kids go to baby showers.