Menopause rage makes me hate my nice husband

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Has anyone actually left their nice husband because of menopausal rage? The sound of his voice and his every habit makes me want to strangle him. It doesn't help that we both work from home (with two teens around this summer to boot), so I have essentially no break, but every single thing he does makes me insane. I fantasize constantly about getting my own apartment where I don't have to deal with his clutter and habits. I probably just need therapy/antidepressants/more yoga....

Hello, me. My husband is delightful. But he breathes, and chews, and moves in bed. He makes stupid jokes, lets the grass get too long before mowing, and weighs 60 pounds more than he should. He doesn't brush his teeth enough, he won't exercise, and he cooks for the whole family. He creates clutter, has big shoes, and he takes out the trash & recycling of his own volition. He won't take his own antidepressants, he still likes to have sex with me, and his breath smells bad in the morning.

As you can see it is a hopeless case and I definitely need a getaway from this horrible man and life we've created together.

Why do they breathe so LOUDLY? Mine sniffs with every inhale. I want to throat punch him. -.-
But he makes coffee and brings it to me. Washes the dogs. Still has a 6 pack. (not beer, abs!) Yes, clutter and leaves his shoes where I trip on them. But is so calm and sweet. I wish he would never eat in my earshot though....

So yeah, I feel you.

Has a 6 pack and you want to throat punch him?

Punching him in the belly might hurt her knuckles!

[Anonymous]

Some of these humorless responses are a site to behold. The couples dealing with menopause are probably old enough to understand, "lighten up, Francis!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Has anyone actually left their nice husband because of menopausal rage? The sound of his voice and his every habit makes me want to strangle him. It doesn't help that we both work from home (with two teens around this summer to boot), so I have essentially no break, but every single thing he does makes me insane. I fantasize constantly about getting my own apartment where I don't have to deal with his clutter and habits. I probably just need therapy/antidepressants/more yoga....

Yeah. You really should do something about this nasty attitude of yours. You sound like a real see you next Tuesday. I certainly hope you aren’t here seeking sympathy.

[Anonymous]

I see women blame menopause too much for their actions. It’s a convenient foil and a luxury men aren’t afforded.

[Anonymous]

OP, have your doctor put you on Buspirone to take the edge off

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:^I'm sure your husband is happy too.

I’ve never cheated on him during 20+ years of our marriage, and I told him that I’m going to date other men when I move out!
Just got a message from a 38 y.o. man asking if I “might like to explore younger man”. I’m petite, and the guy that I’m planning a date with said that I look over a decade younger than my listed age 🤣 I’m going to explore them one at a time, no plan to date multiple men simultaneously.

Wow, the 'you look much younger than your age' line. That's a new one! I'm sure he's being quite sincere and isn't just trying to sleep with you (but you seem pretty gullible, so it looks like he won't have to try too hard).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^I'm sure your husband is happy too.

I’ve never cheated on him during 20+ years of our marriage, and I told him that I’m going to date other men when I move out!
Just got a message from a 38 y.o. man asking if I “might like to explore younger man”. I’m petite, and the guy that I’m planning a date with said that I look over a decade younger than my listed age 🤣 I’m going to explore them one at a time, no plan to date multiple men simultaneously.

Wow, the 'you look much younger than your age' line. That's a new one! I'm sure he's being quite sincere and isn't just trying to sleep with you (but you seem pretty gullible, so it looks like he won't have to try too hard).

DP, but pretty sure that is all that PP is looking for. She's posting on a thread about how she's done taking care of men. Isn't a younger man for something casual exactly what you want, PP?

[Anonymous]

My menopausal wife is really mean and condescending to me. Even sometimes when I’m just trying to make conversation with her. I’ve been a good partner for 24 years - equal (or damn close) split of household/parenting, we’ve both worked hard and have tons of money, own 9 houses outright (Historic home downtown, lake house for family and 7 rentals) when we both grew up poor, a wonderful son who’s now in college and I’m still tall, good looking and in good shape. The regular beatings really get old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I see women blame menopause too much for their actions. It’s a convenient foil and a luxury men aren’t afforded.

That's not entirely true.

Men blame hormones when it comes to cheating on women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The women on here thinking their husband isn't counting the days like a prisoner doing time. Commute his sentence already.

Husbands are always unhappy on their 20th anniversary because even a murderer would be paroled then.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Bet you don’t mind his paycheck.

OP - I guess it’s ok but I make three times his salary. You’re one of the men on here I imagine.

I am mad at others too (my male law partners are at the top of the list) but not everyone. Though I definitely have a short fuse in general. Lots of good advice on here!

I guess you married poorly then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ugh, I’m 48, in menopause and on HRT, empty nester, got so tired of my husband that I rented an apartment in a different state and moved there last weekend.

I downloaded a dating app on Sunday and have been exchanging numerous messages with a 36 y.o. man yesterday and today. We are making plans to meet on Saturday and already agreed to go walking, kayaking, rock climbing, and skydiving if we like each other in person. I’m happy with my decision thus far.

Nothing wrong with that. You are divorced. Enjoy this time. It's a new beginning.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^I'm sure your husband is happy too.

I’ve never cheated on him during 20+ years of our marriage, and I told him that I’m going to date other men when I move out!
Just got a message from a 38 y.o. man asking if I “might like to explore younger man”. I’m petite, and the guy that I’m planning a date with said that I look over a decade younger than my listed age 🤣 I’m going to explore them one at a time, no plan to date multiple men simultaneously.

Wow, the 'you look much younger than your age' line. That's a new one! I'm sure he's being quite sincere and isn't just trying to sleep with you (but you seem pretty gullible, so it looks like he won't have to try too hard).

DP, but pretty sure that is all that PP is looking for. She's posting on a thread about how she's done taking care of men. Isn't a younger man for something casual exactly what you want, PP?

Sounds like she'll still be "taking care" of a man. This time though the man can just leave when it's over (on to the next).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The women on here thinking their husband isn't counting the days like a prisoner doing time. Commute his sentence already.

Husbands are always unhappy on their 20th anniversary because even a murderer would be paroled then.

#freehubby

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^I'm sure your husband is happy too.

I’ve never cheated on him during 20+ years of our marriage, and I told him that I’m going to date other men when I move out!
Just got a message from a 38 y.o. man asking if I “might like to explore younger man”. I’m petite, and the guy that I’m planning a date with said that I look over a decade younger than my listed age 🤣 I’m going to explore them one at a time, no plan to date multiple men simultaneously.

Wow, the 'you look much younger than your age' line. That's a new one! I'm sure he's being quite sincere and isn't just trying to sleep with you (but you seem pretty gullible, so it looks like he won't have to try too hard).

DP, but pretty sure that is all that PP is looking for. She's posting on a thread about how she's done taking care of men. Isn't a younger man for something casual exactly what you want, PP?

PP here. Exactly! I’m not looking for a new husband among the mid-30s men. It would just be great to spend some active time with him outdoors and if we like each other, indoors as well. Of course I don’t look a decade younger, just good enough for my age - otherwise it’s unlikely that the much younger men would want to spend time with me even casually.