No one said we were dominating the grievance space in our relationship. We know these are non-issues, and have to do with us, rather than our husbands. When I'm this ragey, I kiss him goodnight, and tell him I need to put myself to bed. Hot shower plus cozy bed will usually do the trick. |
+1 |
I'm a husband with a wife right on the cusp of menopause. Thanks for letting me peak into your mental space.
I'm a decent husband, I think; but I also chew and breathe at times. So it's good to know what my wife might (soon) be going through. |
07/09/2025 11:55 Here. I'm 58. Depending on your wife's age, it might be a while. ![]() ![]() |
Ladies, stop being so hard on yourselves and MAKE CHANGES.
No, don’t go get a divorce…but DO get therapy. In an individual setting to help reevaluate your values and live better in the present. In couples, to reconnect with the smelly male humans you married. Learn new communication strategies, deal with childhood trauma. The rage is coming from veils coming off of the oppressive system we are in that expects women to be the caregivers and shoulder the burden. Many of us don’t want to escape that role altogether but overtime it does become too much and our strategies need shifting around. And our partners need to shift with us. |
This would require introspection but most women don't want to do that.they would rather blame someone else |
At what age does menopause start? Sure I can Google it, but would love to hear some experiences. DW just turned 41 and she hasn't talk about this at all. She recently stated taking a weight loss drugs called zepbound and is also more into skincare and shopping for new outfits? Please don't tell me she is cheating, I rather you tell me it's mid life crisis or the beginning of menopause. She has also been looking for things about me to criticize. I don't know she has been aging weird. For now, I am just being patient and avoiding reacting to every little thing that bothers me. Maybe she is staying menopause? |
Estrogen (and progesterone) and fluoxetine for luteal stage. |
Oh, shut up. This thread is just a fun way to commiserate about something. Nobody needs therapy for a hormonal shift. |
Has a 6 pack and you want to throat punch him? |
The beginning of menopause is called perimenopause. She's a bit young, but that happens with some people. I'm 58 and not actually through menopause yet. (Officially you are post menopause when you haven't had a period in a year). What does "aging weird" mean? She's shopping for new outfits because she's losing weight, I'd suspect. And getting more into skincare is likely because she's noticing signs of aging. |
Hi VP Vance!! |
Only when he breathes. ![]() Ok, I am clearly not being serious and just pointing out how irrational it is sometimes when things annoy you. He's a great guy, and pretty hot (as evidenced by the looks he gets at the pool). You can love someone and still be annoyed by them! |
I get you. I was literally considering making a doc appointment to say that I CANNOT STAND my family right now so maybe something is wrong with me. I feel like I spend most of every day screaming at one of them. It’s so stressful.
Does estrogen really help? Is there a blood test to do first? |
Life sure is easy when born beautiful. |