Left TJ

[Anonymous]

np but the vitriolic reaction to this mom suggests more than a bit of defensiveness.

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Anonymous wrote:I asked my kid if he thinks TJ kids braggy, he said well mom all HS kids is braggy.

Personally, I think TJ kids is actually extraordinary nice.

This has been my experience as well.

I'm sure there are jerks but the social structure doesn't really encourage or even tolerate that sort of behavior very well. These are not generally the kids engaged in social jockeying at your base schools. They are pretty focused on academics and if they weren't before they got there they become focused in order to survive.

The social aspect of TJ is extremely subdued. Everybody is from different neighborhood and everybody is academically focused. There are a lot of negative aspects to TJ but "braggy" arrogant freshman is not one of them, TJ is a pretty humbling place for almost all the students.

They are braggy and arrogant about grades rather than vacations or shoes. Yes, social jockeying is more prevalent at base schools but it is also necessary to learn that skill for success in the workplace - arguably it's more important than academics. Being braggy about being smart and putting others down the way other people have done on this thread is a recipe for failure in the workplace. Our job as parents is to set them up for success at life, not just in the academic setting.

To the PP consistently saying "$hit".... yeah, exactly what we mean by lack of social skills.... and probably a terrible vocabulary too.

oh wait ..
Are you that religious mom whose kids is transferring to private because they couldn't make the transition from home schooling to TJ?

Nope.

....I think there's several kids leaving TJ or that have left.

Yes, 40-50 kids, going back to their private schools.

I believe you but do you have a cite or sources for this information

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Anonymous wrote:I asked my kid if he thinks TJ kids braggy, he said well mom all HS kids is braggy.

Personally, I think TJ kids is actually extraordinary nice.

This has been my experience as well.

I'm sure there are jerks but the social structure doesn't really encourage or even tolerate that sort of behavior very well. These are not generally the kids engaged in social jockeying at your base schools. They are pretty focused on academics and if they weren't before they got there they become focused in order to survive.

The social aspect of TJ is extremely subdued. Everybody is from different neighborhood and everybody is academically focused. There are a lot of negative aspects to TJ but "braggy" arrogant freshman is not one of them, TJ is a pretty humbling place for almost all the students.

They are braggy and arrogant about grades rather than vacations or shoes. Yes, social jockeying is more prevalent at base schools but it is also necessary to learn that skill for success in the workplace - arguably it's more important than academics. Being braggy about being smart and putting others down the way other people have done on this thread is a recipe for failure in the workplace. Our job as parents is to set them up for success at life, not just in the academic setting.

To the PP consistently saying "$hit".... yeah, exactly what we mean by lack of social skills.... and probably a terrible vocabulary too.

oh wait ..
Are you that religious mom whose kids is transferring to private because they couldn't make the transition from home schooling to TJ?

Nope.

....I think there's several kids leaving TJ or that have left.

Yes, 40-50 kids, going back to their private schools.

I believe you but do you have a cite or sources for this information

😀 That PP is meant to be sarcastic.

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Anonymous wrote:Friend’s son left TJ. What to say when we meet?

Saying ‘I’m sorry’ feels wrong.

Asking why, also feels wrong.

Saying nothing also feels wrong.

My kid left too. Asking where they went is appropriate. If they want to talk they will elaborate.

My kid was a straight A student and had trouble with the peers. She saw rampant cheating and bragging/lying about grades was based on pure lack of integrity. It wasn't a good fit. Most of the kids don't have any social skills, which combined with the lack of integrity made it difficult for her to find a solid group of friends. I also didn't like the parents. I felt they were overbearing, pushy, braggy (like their kids), and lacked social skills. She went back to private school that screens these kids out. They are smart, no doubt, but they don't have what it takes to be really successful outside an academic environment - which is what we, as parents, are training them for.

I'll take things that didn't happen for $800 Alex.

You don't even have a high school kid. And certainly not a straight A TJ kid.

It's not like elementary school where all the parents get to know each other.

You are wrong. I have a friend whose kid is not going back for sophomore year for similar reasons. Coming back to our private school. True story whether you want to believe it or not.

Yeah, your full of shit.
Either you were not a straight A students; or
You were not from a private and going back to a private; or
Both

But most likely, you don't even have a kid.

...or they want to escape you and your poor social skills. You use of curse words tells me you have no social skills, which you can therefore not pass onto your children. This degrades the culture.

Goodness you sound like my TJ freshman/senior year English teacher (and a former crew coach). Barb Nelson, is that you? If so, hi! You're the best.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, don’t bring it up. But if it comes up, just congratulate the kid on making a good decision for themselves. That’s actually an important life skill: knowing how to assess, evaluate, prioritize, and pivot.

This

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Anonymous wrote:I asked my kid if he thinks TJ kids braggy, he said well mom all HS kids is braggy.

Personally, I think TJ kids is actually extraordinary nice.

This has been my experience as well.

I'm sure there are jerks but the social structure doesn't really encourage or even tolerate that sort of behavior very well. These are not generally the kids engaged in social jockeying at your base schools. They are pretty focused on academics and if they weren't before they got there they become focused in order to survive.

The social aspect of TJ is extremely subdued. Everybody is from different neighborhood and everybody is academically focused. There are a lot of negative aspects to TJ but "braggy" arrogant freshman is not one of them, TJ is a pretty humbling place for almost all the students.

+1. After going to TJ my rising sophomore is more grounded than ever. You cannot flatter or even praise is met with skepticism.
Social skills meaning self promoting and other tricks there’s time they’ll learn all that. These are smart kids there’s time for thst god bless. They worked so hard all of them. DC got As and A-s. She’s not even that brilliant but has Potential and not underprepared for math rigor.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, don’t bring it up. But if it comes up, just congratulate the kid on making a good decision for themselves. That’s actually an important life skill: knowing how to assess, evaluate, prioritize, and pivot.

This

Perfect advice.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, don’t bring it up. But if it comes up, just congratulate the kid on making a good decision for themselves. That’s actually an important life skill: knowing how to assess, evaluate, prioritize, and pivot.

It's also a bit brave.
I don't know if I could cut my losses and go someplace I could thrive rather than gut it out and drown.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, don’t bring it up. But if it comes up, just congratulate the kid on making a good decision for themselves. That’s actually an important life skill: knowing how to assess, evaluate, prioritize, and pivot.

It's also a bit brave.
I don't know if I could cut my losses and go someplace I could thrive rather than gut it out and drown.

Well, self awareness and being able to act on that is part of the socio-emotional intelligence required for success (EQ). Some people have that, clearly you do not.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, don’t bring it up. But if it comes up, just congratulate the kid on making a good decision for themselves. That’s actually an important life skill: knowing how to assess, evaluate, prioritize, and pivot.

It's also a bit brave.
I don't know if I could cut my losses and go someplace I could thrive rather than gut it out and drown.

Well, self awareness and being able to act on that is part of the socio-emotional intelligence required for success (EQ). Some people have that, clearly you do not.

Clearly? Why clearly?

With the way you talk, you sure, you're in a position to lecture about EQ?