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Anonymous wrote:Friend’s son left TJ. What to say when we meet?

Saying ‘I’m sorry’ feels wrong.

Asking why, also feels wrong.

Saying nothing also feels wrong.

My kid left too. Asking where they went is appropriate. If they want to talk they will elaborate.

My kid was a straight A student and had trouble with the peers. She saw rampant cheating and bragging/lying about grades was based on pure lack of integrity. It wasn't a good fit. Most of the kids don't have any social skills, which combined with the lack of integrity made it difficult for her to find a solid group of friends. I also didn't like the parents. I felt they were overbearing, pushy, braggy (like their kids), and lacked social skills. She went back to private school that screens these kids out. They are smart, no doubt, but they don't have what it takes to be really successful outside an academic environment - which is what we, as parents, are training them for.

Re: the parents, is this really true of everyone? I'm asking as someone who would like for my child to go to TJ one day, if he wants to and can get in. We are not super competitive/cut throat. Just thought it would be a cool learning experience, better than a typical highschool. Child is a rising 3rd grader and likes math, coding, engineering... Maybe I'm naive and child doesn't have a chance unless he emulates those who are like what you describe?

Well.... you see how mean people are to my story of my daughter. You get everything from 'it didn't happen and Im a troll' to 'I'm a liar and my my kid couldn't cut it' or 'this refects badly on us not the school'. I think the responses here totally reflect the school and their children. You need to just decide if these are the people whose children you want your kid to be friends with and be in class with. I wish I had known that going in and we would have never applied. Honestly, I do think your kid (and most gifted children) are better placed in a private that stimulates their curiosity in a nurturing environment that is free from the people you see responding to me. In my DD's school there are lots of gifted kids, but many are just bright, some are even (gasp) average. I think they all contribute positively to the environment.

I mean, if we could afford private it would be a different story...

I have no doubt that there are some seriously annoying parents and kids at TJ, but what I'm wondering about is whether there are also some down-to-earth parents and kids, which would be all we'd need.

I'm sorry your dd had a negative experience though. What did she say were her reasons specifically for not wanting to stay and how long did she stay?

You are meeting parents right now because you're kid is in 3rd grade. That will stop by the time they go to middle school. You might continue to meet a few parents through your kids sports activities but by the time your kids is in high school, is not really happening anymore. You don't interact with the parents very much unless you already knew them from your base pyramid.

There are 550 kids in each class. If you're kid is nerdy (and I mean that in the most positive sense), they will find their tribe at TJ.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Friend’s son left TJ. What to say when we meet?

Saying ‘I’m sorry’ feels wrong.

Asking why, also feels wrong.

Saying nothing also feels wrong.

My kid left too. Asking where they went is appropriate. If they want to talk they will elaborate.

My kid was a straight A student and had trouble with the peers. She saw rampant cheating and bragging/lying about grades was based on pure lack of integrity. It wasn't a good fit. Most of the kids don't have any social skills, which combined with the lack of integrity made it difficult for her to find a solid group of friends. I also didn't like the parents. I felt they were overbearing, pushy, braggy (like their kids), and lacked social skills. She went back to private school that screens these kids out. They are smart, no doubt, but they don't have what it takes to be really successful outside an academic environment - which is what we, as parents, are training them for.

So you came here to say your daughter left because "Most of the kids don't have any social skills, which combined with the lack of integrity made it difficult for her to find a solid group of friends" so "She went back to private school?"

GTFOH. Getting straight A's as a freshman isn't rare but it's not common either. Coming from a private school is relatively rare. Going BACK to that private school after a year at TJ is exceedingly rare. A straight A student from a private school returning to a private school hasn't happened in recent memory.

High school parent don't hang out with each other unless their kids went to elementary school together or maybe if their kids are on a team together. The freshmen parents are not a very "braggy" group.

I don't know if you had a child that went to TJ but if so, she was not a straight A student that left to go back to a private school. I suspect you don't have kids at all.

You just happen to know ALL kids who’ve attended in recent years? NP.

There are literally a small handful of private school kids admitted since the new admissions policy was put in place and even before that many of the private school admits were from NYSMITH which doesn't have a high school division to go "back" to.

The straight A students stand out and none of them left last few years to go back to a private school. You're full of shit. You're mistake was adding so much fukn detail in an attempt to buy credibility that you narrowed the population to zero.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Friend’s son left TJ. What to say when we meet?

Saying ‘I’m sorry’ feels wrong.

Asking why, also feels wrong.

Saying nothing also feels wrong.

My kid left too. Asking where they went is appropriate. If they want to talk they will elaborate.

My kid was a straight A student and had trouble with the peers. She saw rampant cheating and bragging/lying about grades was based on pure lack of integrity. It wasn't a good fit. Most of the kids don't have any social skills, which combined with the lack of integrity made it difficult for her to find a solid group of friends. I also didn't like the parents. I felt they were overbearing, pushy, braggy (like their kids), and lacked social skills. She went back to private school that screens these kids out. They are smart, no doubt, but they don't have what it takes to be really successful outside an academic environment - which is what we, as parents, are training them for.

So you came here to say your daughter left because "Most of the kids don't have any social skills, which combined with the lack of integrity made it difficult for her to find a solid group of friends" so "She went back to private school?"

GTFOH. Getting straight A's as a freshman isn't rare but it's not common either. Coming from a private school is relatively rare. Going BACK to that private school after a year at TJ is exceedingly rare. A straight A student from a private school returning to a private school hasn't happened in recent memory.

High school parent don't hang out with each other unless their kids went to elementary school together or maybe if their kids are on a team together. The freshmen parents are not a very "braggy" group.

I don't know if you had a child that went to TJ but if so, she was not a straight A student that left to go back to a private school. I suspect you don't have kids at all.

You just happen to know ALL kids who’ve attended in recent years? NP.

There are literally a small handful of private school kids admitted since the new admissions policy was put in place and even before that many of the private school admits were from NYSMITH which doesn't have a high school division to go "back" to.

The straight A students stand out and none of them left last few years to go back to a private school. You're full of shit. You're mistake was adding so much fukn detail in an attempt to buy credibility that you narrowed the population to zero.

DP. The poster didn't say her kid went back to the same private school, just that she went back to private.

The fact that you'd misread the post suggests you were just looking for an excuse to discredit PP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Friend’s son left TJ. What to say when we meet?

Saying ‘I’m sorry’ feels wrong.

Asking why, also feels wrong.

Saying nothing also feels wrong.

My kid left too. Asking where they went is appropriate. If they want to talk they will elaborate.

My kid was a straight A student and had trouble with the peers. She saw rampant cheating and bragging/lying about grades was based on pure lack of integrity. It wasn't a good fit. Most of the kids don't have any social skills, which combined with the lack of integrity made it difficult for her to find a solid group of friends. I also didn't like the parents. I felt they were overbearing, pushy, braggy (like their kids), and lacked social skills. She went back to private school that screens these kids out. They are smart, no doubt, but they don't have what it takes to be really successful outside an academic environment - which is what we, as parents, are training them for.

So you came here to say your daughter left because "Most of the kids don't have any social skills, which combined with the lack of integrity made it difficult for her to find a solid group of friends" so "She went back to private school?"

GTFOH. Getting straight A's as a freshman isn't rare but it's not common either. Coming from a private school is relatively rare. Going BACK to that private school after a year at TJ is exceedingly rare. A straight A student from a private school returning to a private school hasn't happened in recent memory.

High school parent don't hang out with each other unless their kids went to elementary school together or maybe if their kids are on a team together. The freshmen parents are not a very "braggy" group.

I don't know if you had a child that went to TJ but if so, she was not a straight A student that left to go back to a private school. I suspect you don't have kids at all.

You just happen to know ALL kids who’ve attended in recent years? NP.

There are literally a small handful of private school kids admitted since the new admissions policy was put in place and even before that many of the private school admits were from NYSMITH which doesn't have a high school division to go "back" to.

The straight A students stand out and none of them left last few years to go back to a private school. You're full of shit. You're mistake was adding so much fukn detail in an attempt to buy credibility that you narrowed the population to zero.

DP. The poster didn't say her kid went back to the same private school, just that she went back to private.

The fact that you'd misread the post suggests you were just looking for an excuse to discredit PP.

DP. Nah, that poster discredited herself.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Friend’s son left TJ. What to say when we meet?

Saying ‘I’m sorry’ feels wrong.

Asking why, also feels wrong.

Saying nothing also feels wrong.

My kid left too. Asking where they went is appropriate. If they want to talk they will elaborate.

My kid was a straight A student and had trouble with the peers. She saw rampant cheating and bragging/lying about grades was based on pure lack of integrity. It wasn't a good fit. Most of the kids don't have any social skills, which combined with the lack of integrity made it difficult for her to find a solid group of friends. I also didn't like the parents. I felt they were overbearing, pushy, braggy (like their kids), and lacked social skills. She went back to private school that screens these kids out. They are smart, no doubt, but they don't have what it takes to be really successful outside an academic environment - which is what we, as parents, are training them for.

I'll take things that didn't happen for $800 Alex.

You don't even have a high school kid. And certainly not a straight A TJ kid.

It's not like elementary school where all the parents get to know each other.

Thank you for exhibiting the exact lack of social skills referenced. You and OP both are low in that area, perhaps it is your kids that give the school the bad reputation for social skills...

OP - it's appropriate to say nothing. Maybe Sanjay is sad that Said is leaving. And drop it.

NP. I agree with the "things that didn't happen" poster.

High school isn't preschool. SMH

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As a TJ parent, I am quite involve in my kid ECs as volunteer… and I still barely know any parents, let alone say “ I also didn't like the parents. I felt they were overbearing, pushy, braggy (like their kids), and lacked social skills. ”

How do you barely know any parents? Doesn't sound like you are that involved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Really?
Do you have to create a new thread just for that question?
Or do you have any other intention?

There is already 27 TJ bashing threads already.

Yeah; there are several TJ-hating people on DCUM who create all these nasty, mean-spirited, threads intended to trash TJ.

It’s not just parents trying to cause movement on the wait list. It appears to be a mentally ill person with an axe to grind.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Friend’s son left TJ. What to say when we meet?

Saying ‘I’m sorry’ feels wrong.

Asking why, also feels wrong.

Saying nothing also feels wrong.

My kid left too. Asking where they went is appropriate. If they want to talk they will elaborate.

My kid was a straight A student and had trouble with the peers. She saw rampant cheating and bragging/lying about grades was based on pure lack of integrity. It wasn't a good fit. Most of the kids don't have any social skills, which combined with the lack of integrity made it difficult for her to find a solid group of friends. I also didn't like the parents. I felt they were overbearing, pushy, braggy (like their kids), and lacked social skills. She went back to private school that screens these kids out. They are smart, no doubt, but they don't have what it takes to be really successful outside an academic environment - which is what we, as parents, are training them for.

I'll take things that didn't happen for $800 Alex.

You don't even have a high school kid. And certainly not a straight A TJ kid.

It's not like elementary school where all the parents get to know each other.

Thank you for exhibiting the exact lack of social skills referenced. You and OP both are low in that area, perhaps it is your kids that give the school the bad reputation for social skills...

OP - it's appropriate to say nothing. Maybe Sanjay is sad that Said is leaving. And drop it.

NP. I agree with the "things that didn't happen" poster.

High school isn't preschool. SMH

+1
As a TJ parent, I am quite involve in my kid ECs as volunteer… and I still barely know any parents, let alone say “ I also didn't like the parents. I felt they were overbearing, pushy, braggy (like their kids), and lacked social skills. ”

How do you barely know any parents? Doesn't sound like you are that involved.

NP.

TJ parent. The parents who know many other parents are the stay-at-home mommies or the Longfellow cohort who already knew each other before their kids got it.

Spouse and I work full time jobs. We dont have all day to nothing but hang around the school volunteering for everything. We also dont speak any foreign languages, which can also lead to other parents not approaching you much.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Friend’s son left TJ. What to say when we meet?

Saying ‘I’m sorry’ feels wrong.

Asking why, also feels wrong.

Saying nothing also feels wrong.

My kid left too. Asking where they went is appropriate. If they want to talk they will elaborate.

My kid was a straight A student and had trouble with the peers. She saw rampant cheating and bragging/lying about grades was based on pure lack of integrity. It wasn't a good fit. Most of the kids don't have any social skills, which combined with the lack of integrity made it difficult for her to find a solid group of friends. I also didn't like the parents. I felt they were overbearing, pushy, braggy (like their kids), and lacked social skills. She went back to private school that screens these kids out. They are smart, no doubt, but they don't have what it takes to be really successful outside an academic environment - which is what we, as parents, are training them for.

Re: the parents, is this really true of everyone? I'm asking as someone who would like for my child to go to TJ one day, if he wants to and can get in. We are not super competitive/cut throat. Just thought it would be a cool learning experience, better than a typical highschool. Child is a rising 3rd grader and likes math, coding, engineering... Maybe I'm naive and child doesn't have a chance unless he emulates those who are like what you describe?

Well.... you see how mean people are to my story of my daughter. You get everything from 'it didn't happen and Im a troll' to 'I'm a liar and my my kid couldn't cut it' or 'this refects badly on us not the school'. I think the responses here totally reflect the school and their children. You need to just decide if these are the people whose children you want your kid to be friends with and be in class with. I wish I had known that going in and we would have never applied. Honestly, I do think your kid (and most gifted children) are better placed in a private that stimulates their curiosity in a nurturing environment that is free from the people you see responding to me. In my DD's school there are lots of gifted kids, but many are just bright, some are even (gasp) average. I think they all contribute positively to the environment.

You literally say most of the TJ kids have no social skills or integrity. And then proceeded to make ridiculously insulting claims about the parents too.

And you think there is something wrong with everybody else?

DP

Lots of people on this forum have pointed out the cheating culture and lack of integrity at TJ - its a known thing. Many of those remarks come from people with their kids at the school out of frustration. The fact that many people vigorously defend it means that on some level it's supported. Can you not see that?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Friend’s son left TJ. What to say when we meet?

Saying ‘I’m sorry’ feels wrong.

Asking why, also feels wrong.

Saying nothing also feels wrong.

My kid left too. Asking where they went is appropriate. If they want to talk they will elaborate.

My kid was a straight A student and had trouble with the peers. She saw rampant cheating and bragging/lying about grades was based on pure lack of integrity. It wasn't a good fit. Most of the kids don't have any social skills, which combined with the lack of integrity made it difficult for her to find a solid group of friends. I also didn't like the parents. I felt they were overbearing, pushy, braggy (like their kids), and lacked social skills. She went back to private school that screens these kids out. They are smart, no doubt, but they don't have what it takes to be really successful outside an academic environment - which is what we, as parents, are training them for.

I'll take things that didn't happen for $800 Alex.

You don't even have a high school kid. And certainly not a straight A TJ kid.

It's not like elementary school where all the parents get to know each other.

You are wrong. I have a friend whose kid is not going back for sophomore year for similar reasons. Coming back to our private school. True story whether you want to believe it or not.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Friend’s son left TJ. What to say when we meet?

Saying ‘I’m sorry’ feels wrong.

Asking why, also feels wrong.

Saying nothing also feels wrong.

My kid left too. Asking where they went is appropriate. If they want to talk they will elaborate.

My kid was a straight A student and had trouble with the peers. She saw rampant cheating and bragging/lying about grades was based on pure lack of integrity. It wasn't a good fit. Most of the kids don't have any social skills, which combined with the lack of integrity made it difficult for her to find a solid group of friends. I also didn't like the parents. I felt they were overbearing, pushy, braggy (like their kids), and lacked social skills. She went back to private school that screens these kids out. They are smart, no doubt, but they don't have what it takes to be really successful outside an academic environment - which is what we, as parents, are training them for.

So you came here to say your daughter left because "Most of the kids don't have any social skills, which combined with the lack of integrity made it difficult for her to find a solid group of friends" so "She went back to private school?"

GTFOH. Getting straight A's as a freshman isn't rare but it's not common either. Coming from a private school is relatively rare. Going BACK to that private school after a year at TJ is exceedingly rare. A straight A student from a private school returning to a private school hasn't happened in recent memory.

High school parent don't hang out with each other unless their kids went to elementary school together or maybe if their kids are on a team together. The freshmen parents are not a very "braggy" group.

I don't know if you had a child that went to TJ but if so, she was not a straight A student that left to go back to a private school. I suspect you don't have kids at all.

You just happen to know ALL kids who’ve attended in recent years? NP.

There are literally a small handful of private school kids admitted since the new admissions policy was put in place and even before that many of the private school admits were from NYSMITH which doesn't have a high school division to go "back" to.

The straight A students stand out and none of them left last few years to go back to a private school. You're full of shit. You're mistake was adding so much fukn detail in an attempt to buy credibility that you narrowed the population to zero.

First of all, I'm sorry you are so angry. This is true and many people don't know my kid was a private school kid. She used the code "out of district" so she wouldn't get picked on - she unfortunately learned that "fancy private schools kids" get picked on from one of her first interactions (with a teacher!) at the school. She never made the mistake to tell anyone else. And yes it is difficult to get straight As and she did. She also didn't share that nugget with others because of the braggy culture around grades. The majority of students' attitudes were kinda like yours. You keep reminding us why we left... that said- not all the kids and parents are a$$holes, just a critical number to make it uncomfortable.

And yes, since socio-economic standing is one of the things submitted to the admissions there is a reason not a lot of private school kids there. For those that want to move hear this - I know there are other kids at TJ that hate the culture PP epitomizes- apply for financial aid at some of top private schools. You kid has a real chance at a much better school if the parents and kids go through the interview process the opposite way PP is interacting on this board. Remember- integrity is doing the right thing when no one is looking - or when you are anonymous..

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Friend’s son left TJ. What to say when we meet?

Saying ‘I’m sorry’ feels wrong.

Asking why, also feels wrong.

Saying nothing also feels wrong.

My kid left too. Asking where they went is appropriate. If they want to talk they will elaborate.

My kid was a straight A student and had trouble with the peers. She saw rampant cheating and bragging/lying about grades was based on pure lack of integrity. It wasn't a good fit. Most of the kids don't have any social skills, which combined with the lack of integrity made it difficult for her to find a solid group of friends. I also didn't like the parents. I felt they were overbearing, pushy, braggy (like their kids), and lacked social skills. She went back to private school that screens these kids out. They are smart, no doubt, but they don't have what it takes to be really successful outside an academic environment - which is what we, as parents, are training them for.

I'll take things that didn't happen for $800 Alex.

You don't even have a high school kid. And certainly not a straight A TJ kid.

It's not like elementary school where all the parents get to know each other.

Thank you for exhibiting the exact lack of social skills referenced. You and OP both are low in that area, perhaps it is your kids that give the school the bad reputation for social skills...

OP - it's appropriate to say nothing. Maybe Sanjay is sad that Said is leaving. And drop it.

NP. I agree with the "things that didn't happen" poster.

High school isn't preschool. SMH

+1
As a TJ parent, I am quite involve in my kid ECs as volunteer… and I still barely know any parents, let alone say “ I also didn't like the parents. I felt they were overbearing, pushy, braggy (like their kids), and lacked social skills. ”

How do you barely know any parents? Doesn't sound like you are that involved.

NP.

TJ parent. The parents who know many other parents are the stay-at-home mommies or the Longfellow cohort who already knew each other before their kids got it.

Spouse and I work full time jobs. We dont have all day to nothing but hang around the school volunteering for everything. We also dont speak any foreign languages, which can also lead to other parents not approaching you much.

Which is completely irrelevant to the post to which you responded. The prior poster claimed to be quite involved at the school and yet somehow barely know any parents.

[Anonymous]

I am not getting this… few people here commenting on cheating at TJ.
How on earth does this happen? I am not being sarcastic but am having hard time understanding if all the parents “know this” , then why isn't the school doing anything about it?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Friend’s son left TJ. What to say when we meet?

Saying ‘I’m sorry’ feels wrong.

Asking why, also feels wrong.

Saying nothing also feels wrong.

My kid left too. Asking where they went is appropriate. If they want to talk they will elaborate.

My kid was a straight A student and had trouble with the peers. She saw rampant cheating and bragging/lying about grades was based on pure lack of integrity. It wasn't a good fit. Most of the kids don't have any social skills, which combined with the lack of integrity made it difficult for her to find a solid group of friends. I also didn't like the parents. I felt they were overbearing, pushy, braggy (like their kids), and lacked social skills. She went back to private school that screens these kids out. They are smart, no doubt, but they don't have what it takes to be really successful outside an academic environment - which is what we, as parents, are training them for.

I'll take things that didn't happen for $800 Alex.

You don't even have a high school kid. And certainly not a straight A TJ kid.

It's not like elementary school where all the parents get to know each other.

Thank you for exhibiting the exact lack of social skills referenced. You and OP both are low in that area, perhaps it is your kids that give the school the bad reputation for social skills...

OP - it's appropriate to say nothing. Maybe Sanjay is sad that Said is leaving. And drop it.

NP. I agree with the "things that didn't happen" poster.

High school isn't preschool. SMH

+1
As a TJ parent, I am quite involve in my kid ECs as volunteer… and I still barely know any parents, let alone say “ I also didn't like the parents. I felt they were overbearing, pushy, braggy (like their kids), and lacked social skills. ”

How do you barely know any parents? Doesn't sound like you are that involved.

NP.

TJ parent. The parents who know many other parents are the stay-at-home mommies or the Longfellow cohort who already knew each other before their kids got it.

Spouse and I work full time jobs. We dont have all day to nothing but hang around the school volunteering for everything. We also dont speak any foreign languages, which can also lead to other parents not approaching you much.

Which is completely irrelevant to the post to which you responded. The prior poster claimed to be quite involved at the school and yet somehow barely know any parents.

I am the poster you referred too who said I am quite involve but “barely know any parents”. I know quite few parents, but not to the extent that I would declare “they were overbearing, pushy, braggy (like their kids), and lacked social skills. ” That is judgmental when you just meet them occasionally on random events and having light chit chat.

As a freshmen parent, to accuse of other parents as “ they were overbearing, pushy, braggy (like their kids), and lacked social skills” you have to known them really well. That is not happening.

[Anonymous]

I asked my kid if he thinks TJ kids braggy, he said well mom all HS kids is braggy.

Personally, I think TJ kids is actually extraordinary nice.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Friend’s son left TJ. What to say when we meet?

Saying ‘I’m sorry’ feels wrong.

Asking why, also feels wrong.

Saying nothing also feels wrong.

My kid left too. Asking where they went is appropriate. If they want to talk they will elaborate.

My kid was a straight A student and had trouble with the peers. She saw rampant cheating and bragging/lying about grades was based on pure lack of integrity. It wasn't a good fit. Most of the kids don't have any social skills, which combined with the lack of integrity made it difficult for her to find a solid group of friends. I also didn't like the parents. I felt they were overbearing, pushy, braggy (like their kids), and lacked social skills. She went back to private school that screens these kids out. They are smart, no doubt, but they don't have what it takes to be really successful outside an academic environment - which is what we, as parents, are training them for.

So you came here to say your daughter left because "Most of the kids don't have any social skills, which combined with the lack of integrity made it difficult for her to find a solid group of friends" so "She went back to private school?"

GTFOH. Getting straight A's as a freshman isn't rare but it's not common either. Coming from a private school is relatively rare. Going BACK to that private school after a year at TJ is exceedingly rare. A straight A student from a private school returning to a private school hasn't happened in recent memory.

High school parent don't hang out with each other unless their kids went to elementary school together or maybe if their kids are on a team together. The freshmen parents are not a very "braggy" group.

I don't know if you had a child that went to TJ but if so, she was not a straight A student that left to go back to a private school. I suspect you don't have kids at all.

You just happen to know ALL kids who’ve attended in recent years? NP.

There are literally a small handful of private school kids admitted since the new admissions policy was put in place and even before that many of the private school admits were from NYSMITH which doesn't have a high school division to go "back" to.

The straight A students stand out and none of them left last few years to go back to a private school. You're full of shit. You're mistake was adding so much fukn detail in an attempt to buy credibility that you narrowed the population to zero.

First of all, I'm sorry you are so angry. This is true and many people don't know my kid was a private school kid. She used the code "out of district" so she wouldn't get picked on - she unfortunately learned that "fancy private schools kids" get picked on from one of her first interactions (with a teacher!) at the school. She never made the mistake to tell anyone else. And yes it is difficult to get straight As and she did. She also didn't share that nugget with others because of the braggy culture around grades. The majority of students' attitudes were kinda like yours. You keep reminding us why we left... that said- not all the kids and parents are a$$holes, just a critical number to make it uncomfortable.

And yes, since socio-economic standing is one of the things submitted to the admissions there is a reason not a lot of private school kids there. For those that want to move hear this - I know there are other kids at TJ that hate the culture PP epitomizes- apply for financial aid at some of top private schools. You kid has a real chance at a much better school if the parents and kids go through the interview process the opposite way PP is interacting on this board. Remember- integrity is doing the right thing when no one is looking - or when you are anonymous..

You know for sure that privates school bragging culture is way worse than TJ.
Your kids might have a hard time listening to her TJ peers brag about grades, but have no issue if the brag is about fancy vacation every weeks. Is her privates school friends all humble kids?

Maybe TJ is just not for you and we are actually glad you left. Best of luck to your kid.