Can we hash out the who is a single parent nonsense here?

[Anonymous]

People really hate single women, and they hate single mothers even more. Especially married women. They either need someone to feel superior over OR they’re in a miserable marriage and feel jealous of the single moms that got out of theirs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Single mom means your child has a single parent.

No, single means you don't have a spouse. It has nothing to do with whether you have kids or not. Single mom just means an unmarried woman who is also a mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People really hate single women, and they hate single mothers even more. Especially married women. They either need someone to feel superior over OR they’re in a miserable marriage and feel jealous of the single moms that got out of theirs.

No, we hate that some women get child support and/or alimony, the house and much more along with help and play victim. It was obviously not their fault if they were cheated on but it was if they cheated. If dad is involved or wants to be and refused these kids have two parents and you are not doing it alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People really hate single women, and they hate single mothers even more. Especially married women. They either need someone to feel superior over OR they’re in a miserable marriage and feel jealous of the single moms that got out of theirs.

No, we hate that some women get child support and/or alimony, the house and much more along with help and play victim. It was obviously not their fault if they were cheated on but it was if they cheated. If dad is involved or wants to be and refused these kids have two parents and you are not doing it alone.

So, you attack victims of DV for using the term single parent because. . . I can’t fathom the link you are making here.

Is your goal for this woman you resent for having an affair that led to you marrying your DH (is he really that awful?) to stop getting alimony (which I can see as a goal) or to stop self describing with the term “single parent”.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People really hate single women, and they hate single mothers even more. Especially married women. They either need someone to feel superior over OR they’re in a miserable marriage and feel jealous of the single moms that got out of theirs.

No, we hate that some women get child support and/or alimony, the house and much more along with help and play victim. It was obviously not their fault if they were cheated on but it was if they cheated. If dad is involved or wants to be and refused these kids have two parents and you are not doing it alone.

Because you perceive that they have it easy? Are you jealous (that they get the house + money and you're married and don't want to be)?

Are they playing victim? Or are you reading a lot more into interactions when someone says they're a single mom? When people post here they are asking for advice on something that isn't going well - you're welcome to stick to the boards that are NOT about single parenting if it's that triggering for you.

[Anonymous]

wow wow wow

yes 100% lets beat up on women with the adjectives they have mom, wife, single, etc.

the only issue I have with people saying single mom is how they say it - is it a woe is me because their ex is someone they don't like but is 50/50 on everything or is it woe is me because he is abusive, doesn't lift his weight, etc.

there are too many people on here going woe is me but not doing the work

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:wow wow wow

yes 100% lets beat up on women with the adjectives they have mom, wife, single, etc.

the only issue I have with people saying single mom is how they say it - is it a woe is me because their ex is someone they don't like but is 50/50 on everything or is it woe is me because he is abusive, doesn't lift his weight, etc.

there are too many people on here going woe is me but not doing the work

I would say that you don't know who is or is not doing the work (whatever you mean by that). You're posting on a website of anonymous gripes. As is everyone else.

[Anonymous]

Divorced women like to say they are single moms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Divorced women like to say they are single moms.

They ARE single moms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People really hate single women, and they hate single mothers even more. Especially married women. They either need someone to feel superior over OR they’re in a miserable marriage and feel jealous of the single moms that got out of theirs.

No, we hate that some women get child support and/or alimony, the house and much more along with help and play victim. It was obviously not their fault if they were cheated on but it was if they cheated. If dad is involved or wants to be and refused these kids have two parents and you are not doing it alone.

So you are in charge of determining whether a woman's life is difficult enough that she is allowed to call herself a single mom? You get to evaluate how much support she is getting, whether she got the house, whether anyone else is helping her, who (if anyone) cheated, how involved or uninvolved the dad is, and then you will decide whether she is allowed to call herself a single mom? Sounds like you need a hobby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People really hate single women, and they hate single mothers even more. Especially married women. They either need someone to feel superior over OR they’re in a miserable marriage and feel jealous of the single moms that got out of theirs.

No, we hate that some women get child support and/or alimony, the house and much more along with help and play victim. It was obviously not their fault if they were cheated on but it was if they cheated. If dad is involved or wants to be and refused these kids have two parents and you are not doing it alone.

Ah yes, we found the bitter second wife/AP. Sorry your husband has to pay child support to support his children that he is also responsible for. Should have thought of that before you married him!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People really hate single women, and they hate single mothers even more. Especially married women. They either need someone to feel superior over OR they’re in a miserable marriage and feel jealous of the single moms that got out of theirs.

No, we hate that some women get child support and/or alimony, the house and much more along with help and play victim. It was obviously not their fault if they were cheated on but it was if they cheated. If dad is involved or wants to be and refused these kids have two parents and you are not doing it alone.

Except in some very rare instances, being a single parent is hardly the path to riches and leisure. Quite the opposite

PP was right, grow some guts and fix your own miserable existence, dump the DH, find a man who doesn’t already have kids and CS payments, or just get out and do it on your own, at least then you can give opinions on “single parenting” from a place of informed experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People really hate single women, and they hate single mothers even more. Especially married women. They either need someone to feel superior over OR they’re in a miserable marriage and feel jealous of the single moms that got out of theirs.

No, we hate that some women get child support and/or alimony, the house and much more along with help and play victim. It was obviously not their fault if they were cheated on but it was if they cheated. If dad is involved or wants to be and refused these kids have two parents and you are not doing it alone.

So you are in charge of determining whether a woman's life is difficult enough that she is allowed to call herself a single mom? You get to evaluate how much support she is getting, whether she got the house, whether anyone else is helping her, who (if anyone) cheated, how involved or uninvolved the dad is, and then you will decide whether she is allowed to call herself a single mom? Sounds like you need a hobby.

She has a hobby. Judging single moms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one wants to use the word "divorced" parent

I never married my kids dad...so I wasn't a divorced parent. I was a single parent.

The fact is that every single parent has a slightly different situation (all have different custody arrangements, child support is dependent on many factors as well so differs for everyone), and arguing about who is what is stupid.

We need another name for hoe parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is stupid. Truly.

My friend single Mom whose ex makes $25 million per year gets dragged to court with litigation every year so he can try to claim he's too poor to pay child support.

He's an evil, manipulative SOB.

Mine, who makes substantially less, was convicted of DV and also has been a decade of drama - getting arrested, knocking up more women.

You're going to argue that being a single Mom without a Dad in the picture is worse than the trauma of a coparent that is sick and whose mission it is to burn down your life and your children's lives?

Ok, sure.

You have it better & easier than a mother with no dad around at all.