How to make peace with not being a wife and mother

Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Feel your feelings, and then start listing out the positives. You can still be a mother, though your ideal of motherhood might be different. You can still become a wife, but take your time before rushing into another relationship. You are being gifted the chance to make a clean break and start over. Wishing you strength!


So much this, OP. I'm sorry for the loss of this dream and this plan. I'm not sorry you're getting out of a terrible situation with fewer ties to this POS.

It's okay to mourn what isn't going to be, but there will be new dreams and new plans. Good things can still happen. I promise that getting out is the first step to a better future.


Anonymous
It sounds like you are moving on. Good for you! Talk therapy could help a lot as you manage these feelings.
Anonymous
how many times have you posted OP? Leave the pity party in the past, you can easily have a child or two still. Put this in your rear view, move on, find a donor, and have a baby if you want one.
Anonymous
Related "I Waited for You to be Ready but Now I’m 40 and Childless I Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel"

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EvuQPpDPM4A
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:My niece just had a baby at 37 without a man.

It’s even cheaper cause it’s not IVF. It’s just IUI. All you need is sperm.

What’s your income?

Truthfully, it’s in many ways easier to raise a baby without a man because there’s less communication, there’s less expecting the other person to do something, there’s less compromising on the way you think a baby should be raised versus the way he thinks the baby should be raised. Also, don’t have to cater to some dude who’s like what about me when good attention. Also, your house is cleaner., and there’s less dishes.

Why are men great till they need to be great?


I feel bad for the kid
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My niece just had a baby at 37 without a man.

It’s even cheaper cause it’s not IVF. It’s just IUI. All you need is sperm.

What’s your income?

Truthfully, it’s in many ways easier to raise a baby without a man because there’s less communication, there’s less expecting the other person to do something, there’s less compromising on the way you think a baby should be raised versus the way he thinks the baby should be raised. Also, don’t have to cater to some dude who’s like what about me when good attention. Also, your house is cleaner., and there’s less dishes.

Why are men great till they need to be great?


I feel bad for the kid


That is ridiculous. Kids only need one loving parent. I would never have a kid with a man if I could do it over: it is easier to do it alone and prevent bad influences of poor parenting.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My niece just had a baby at 37 without a man.

It’s even cheaper cause it’s not IVF. It’s just IUI. All you need is sperm.

What’s your income?

Truthfully, it’s in many ways easier to raise a baby without a man because there’s less communication, there’s less expecting the other person to do something, there’s less compromising on the way you think a baby should be raised versus the way he thinks the baby should be raised. Also, don’t have to cater to some dude who’s like what about me when good attention. Also, your house is cleaner., and there’s less dishes.

Why are men great till they need to be great?


I feel bad for the kid


That is ridiculous. Kids only need one loving parent. I would never have a kid with a man if I could do it over: it is easier to do it alone and prevent bad influences of poor parenting.


+1
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My niece just had a baby at 37 without a man.

It’s even cheaper cause it’s not IVF. It’s just IUI. All you need is sperm.

What’s your income?

Truthfully, it’s in many ways easier to raise a baby without a man because there’s less communication, there’s less expecting the other person to do something, there’s less compromising on the way you think a baby should be raised versus the way he thinks the baby should be raised. Also, don’t have to cater to some dude who’s like what about me when good attention. Also, your house is cleaner., and there’s less dishes.

Why are men great till they need to be great?


I feel bad for the kid


Why?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My niece just had a baby at 37 without a man.

It’s even cheaper cause it’s not IVF. It’s just IUI. All you need is sperm.

What’s your income?

Truthfully, it’s in many ways easier to raise a baby without a man because there’s less communication, there’s less expecting the other person to do something, there’s less compromising on the way you think a baby should be raised versus the way he thinks the baby should be raised. Also, don’t have to cater to some dude who’s like what about me when good attention. Also, your house is cleaner., and there’s less dishes.

Why are men great till they need to be great?


I feel bad for the kid


You harpies are so delusional. Yeah, I'm sure your kids will turn out great with their bitter, harpy single mothers.
Anonymous
I had a baby at 40. I am 60 now. There is zero reason why your dream of a family should be over.
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