Ladies when did you stop turning heads?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m 38 and feeling a bit unmoored as I’m no longer the young hot woman in most rooms. I’m beginning to feel invisible.

How did you guys cope? When did it start for you?

Do you have big…?

[Anonymous]

I am 40 definitely turn less heads than I used to back in my 20s and 30s. I don't mind it too much so far but I'm starting to understand why my mom and grandma had cosmetic procedures in their late 40s/early 50s.

[Anonymous]

Late 40s and I got a decent amount of attention when I went out to the bars with my girlfriends on a girls getaway. Only one of the guys was objectively attractive. I'm a white woman with a thin waist and a huge butt.... Facially, I'm going downhill like everyone else

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m 38 and feeling a bit unmoored as I’m no longer the young hot woman in most rooms. I’m beginning to feel invisible.

How did you guys cope? When did it start for you?

I was rarely the hot woman in most rooms so not a big drop. In some ways becoming invisible is liberating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Before, the brave and the stupid came up to me. Now I get the characters.

Love this!

Anonymous wrote:
As a 50 years old man I have found women to be far more confident in their looks and attractiveness as they age. Women still have a dedicated skincare/makeup routine well into old age. That kind of dedication must have results else women won't keep doing it.

Sir, that is so far from the truth. Women keep doing it because society keeps telling them that youth is the only currency that matters, and then capitalism sells them promises of youth. You may be aware that Korea is absolutely obsessed with skincare. It's everywhere; the government subsidizes it. And they have exactly the same amount of acne/ wrinkles etc as any other country. It's all a scam. Most women acknowledge this, but say "well it makes me feel better". This only "skincare" that matters is sunscreen. Full stop.

This^ and moisturizer.

[Anonymous]

I don't get why women are supposed to doll up, wear revealing clothes, make up, jewelry, designer duds, perfume, hair dye, nail paint etc etc.

Why just basic cleaning and grooming like men isn't enough by society's standards?

[Anonymous]

It feeds into gender issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is an interesting topic for me (and one I have been cogitating on, examining my new role in the world). I am 57 and was very attractive when I was younger. Pretty hot until late 40s I think it is fair to say. Not just good looking, but charismatic; witty, engaging, super smart. (Being honest here in an anonymous forum). I am still decent looking but let’s get real - no woman at 57 is “hot” ….and I am finding that is okay! But it is interesting to ponder the change in the way one interacts with the world. Mulling further, I am still smart and witty and fun (again trying to be frank about how I navigate the world as an older woman) so that gives me currency - but it is absolutely different than when I had the “it”/hot factor. But not worse different (since other things have come to replace that urgency of youth to be desired), just different. It happens to everyone, OP - embrace it! .

At 63, I don’t miss being admired, but there is a slow and steady realization that men don’t really engage with women they aren’t attracted to. All joking and intellectual banter between the sexes is just gone. I thought I was smart and funny, but I was just younger and attractive. Men don’t really want to have just normal everyday conversations with me. It’s okay- I have been married forever and I am not interested in any new intimacies. Now I just talk to women, who don’t scan the room when I speak.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is an interesting topic for me (and one I have been cogitating on, examining my new role in the world). I am 57 and was very attractive when I was younger. Pretty hot until late 40s I think it is fair to say. Not just good looking, but charismatic; witty, engaging, super smart. (Being honest here in an anonymous forum). I am still decent looking but let’s get real - no woman at 57 is “hot” ….and I am finding that is okay! But it is interesting to ponder the change in the way one interacts with the world. Mulling further, I am still smart and witty and fun (again trying to be frank about how I navigate the world as an older woman) so that gives me currency - but it is absolutely different than when I had the “it”/hot factor. But not worse different (since other things have come to replace that urgency of youth to be desired), just different. It happens to everyone, OP - embrace it! .

[Anonymous]

I have a different set of circumstances. I was objectively hot in my 20s, but looked rough in my 30s - first, pregnancy took its toll, then, I developed an autoimmune disorder, then, perimenopause. I had grown used to being invisible. But then, I lost all of the weight at 43-44. The heads that turn now are older, but I definitely get much more attention than I have in many years. Even full body scans. I figure I have another 3-4 years, max, before I become invisible again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a different set of circumstances. I was objectively hot in my 20s, but looked rough in my 30s - first, pregnancy took its toll, then, I developed an autoimmune disorder, then, perimenopause. I had grown used to being invisible. But then, I lost all of the weight at 43-44. The heads that turn now are older, but I definitely get much more attention than I have in many years. Even full body scans. I figure I have another 3-4 years, max, before I become invisible again.

This is me. Got hot again at 40 after the right dx and treatment. I'm 47 now, still look great and get a ton of attention, especially at the gym from younger guys ,which has been interesting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is an interesting topic for me (and one I have been cogitating on, examining my new role in the world). I am 57 and was very attractive when I was younger. Pretty hot until late 40s I think it is fair to say. Not just good looking, but charismatic; witty, engaging, super smart. (Being honest here in an anonymous forum). I am still decent looking but let’s get real - no woman at 57 is “hot” ….and I am finding that is okay! But it is interesting to ponder the change in the way one interacts with the world. Mulling further, I am still smart and witty and fun (again trying to be frank about how I navigate the world as an older woman) so that gives me currency - but it is absolutely different than when I had the “it”/hot factor. But not worse different (since other things have come to replace that urgency of youth to be desired), just different. It happens to everyone, OP - embrace it! .

At 63, I don’t miss being admired, but there is a slow and steady realization that men don’t really engage with women they aren’t attracted to. All joking and intellectual banter between the sexes is just gone. I thought I was smart and funny, but I was just younger and attractive. Men don’t really want to have just normal everyday conversations with me. It’s okay- I have been married forever and I am not interested in any new intimacies. Now I just talk to women, who don’t scan the room when I speak.

YES!!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m 38 and feeling a bit unmoored as I’m no longer the young hot woman in most rooms. I’m beginning to feel invisible.

How did you guys cope? When did it start for you?

Never!

[Anonymous]

2020, during pandemic. early 40's, gained weight that haven't been able to take off.

[Anonymous]

I love the invisibility of menopause,.and I started in my 40s. When I "turned heads" it was usually pervs, so this has been wonderful.

Never understood women who enjoyed attracting as many men as possible.