Ladies when did you stop turning heads?
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Anonymous
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When I gained too much weight after going on a med that causes weight gain. At 38.
I still get some interest though. |
Anonymous
| Right there with you, OP. Don’t really have any tips for you, but wanted to respond so you didn’t see just the wall of “I’m 50 and still have all the pretty privilege!” and feel bummed. I think I let go of a lot of appearance-related stuff during Covid, and gradually realized I wanted to try a little bit harder and do better for myself. But it’s been a hit like an elimination diet for vanity, so I do feel like it’s maybe a little more in my own terms |
Anonymous
| 44 I started feeling less attractive. Something with perimenopause. Our biology doesn’t need us to be as attractive when we can no longer be fertile. |
Anonymous
| 1993. I think I only “turned heads” because j crew was selling really short shorts that year. But I’ve always had dates, and have now been happily married for 20 years. |
Anonymous
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I'm normal pretty or pleasant-looking at least but really nobody ever said anything, especially because I always wore modest clothes and little makeup. So I guess never?
I'd say I never turned heads but got friendly smiles. I used to dress sharper and got more clothing compliments. Business casual killed that. |
Anonymous
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I was always the most beautiful in the room when I was younger. The way I cope now that I’m not as beautiful is that my self worth and identity was never tied up in my ability to turn heads. My mother specifically said to me growing up that being beautiful is luck, but treating others with kindness is remarkable.
You need to look inward OP. This is the circle of life. We all have our moment in the sun for one reason or another. I wouldn’t go back to being 25. I’m far more confident and content now that I’m a bit older. |
Anonymous
LOL I don’t feel that way if a creep talks to me. His lack of game is a him problem. I’m pretty, why should I feel humiliated? |
Anonymous
For YOU not some of us |
Anonymous
Sorry to hear. When did you start perimenopause? |
Anonymous
So they looked at you for all the wrong reasons? |
Anonymous
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I’m 39 and turned heads in DC over the weekend (I am no longer local). I turned the most heads when I put a lot of effort into my hair and makeup and wore a sundress.
OP, I also felt I was going invisible after gaining quite a lot of weight from my last baby. I started working out last summer and have lost about 20 pounds and while I have many pounds to go, I look fit and am slimmer, which has helped. I wish I didn’t care about turning heads but I do. |
Anonymous
What are the right reasons? |
Anonymous
I think some women actually are at their personal prettiest in their late 30s. I think I was this way. I knew how to dress and take care of my hair, I had no wrinkles, etc. that’s when I got the most male attention. |
Anonymous
| I think sometimes women think that they are turning head but they really aren't. And these days every younger woman I see looks like a clone of another woman. They all dress the same, same hairstyle, same makeup, and they are found in groups. Maybe if a woman walks into a room where she is the only woman then she will turn head. Otherwise nobody is paying attention. And if you turn head it will only last only until the next attractive woman walks in. |
Anonymous
| 37 because I got fat after I had a baby. |