Mother in law won't get pertussis vaccine
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Anonymous
| I took the pertussis vaccine and asked DH and my MIL (who took care of DS fulltime from age 6 weeks to 6 months, during pertussis season) to get it. Neither of them took the vaccine. I was really disappointed, but eventually I had to accept that I couldn't control them. |
Anonymous
My children are already vaccine damaged. I have tests that prove it. How am I responsible to my children in sacrificing their health for the herd? Your beloved science renders 1 in 100 children autistic. And your science has no idea how to undo the damage. I fail to see the science in any of it. |
Anonymous
| The fact that you have more than one child who has been "damaged" by vaccines points out that it is more likely a complex, inherited genetic issue than a vaccine reaction. Vaccine reactions are exceedingly rare, and to have more than one in a single family boggles the statistical mind. I am sorry thtt your children have been diagnosed with autism, but perhaps you should read the errata in the original scientific journal that published the autism story and read more recent research that points to genetic underpinnings. |
Anonymous
| op - I am going through this now. DD was born 9/1 and my mother, brother, myself, and DH all got the pertussis booster....but my MIL is refusing. She just got back from a trip to the West Coast (where the epidemic is), and wants to fly directly here to visit her new granddaughter. I am FURIOUS that she has refused, and DH isn't backing me up on it. A little sting in the arm is nothing compared to what the illness can do for a newborn. I would send her links to the youtube videos of infants with whooping cough, as well as the link to the CDC website. I basically told my MIL that she couldn't hold DD....just look from afar. |
Anonymous
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And another MIL example. I can't tell if all all MILs are hard headed, or if the daughters in law just latch onto any excuse to exert power over them.
Let it go. As I said before, I am all pro-vax, but you are drawing a line in the sand here that does not need to be drawn and setting up unnecessary battles. |
Anonymous
| Personal choice - we never even got the flu shots last year as I don't handle anything well and I couldn't risk getting a reaction from the shot caring for a newborn. My son never got sick, we took him out starting week one and he is just a year old and as never so much has had a cold. She needs to take care of herself and its a good idea to do the major vaccinations for your child but you have no right to dictate what others do for themselves or their children. (we will do most vaccinate but not do flu shots) |
Anonymous
| Good God, I hope my sons are gay. You women are insufferable. |
Anonymous
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I know. I think they forget that someday they are going to be the mother in law.
Karma's a bitch. |
Anonymous
| You people who think we're anti-mother-in-law for following our doctors' advice are idiots. I listened to my daughter's pediatrician (and got a second opinion from another pediatrician we're friends with who lives in another state), and we decided not to let our not-flu-vaccinated MIL visit with our daughter until flu season was over unless she was willing to wear a mask and gloves. She wasn't. DH and I love his mother, and we will likely be the people caring for her when she's older. And at that point, we'll take her doctor's advice as to how best to care for her. But on this decision, our daughter's health is more important than my MIL's feelings (or our inconvenience in having to deal with the conflict). You know what that makes us? GOOD PARENTS. Not MIL-haters. |
Anonymous
WOW....will you be using masks and gloves when you care for her in her old age? After all, her immunity will be down and you could be a danger to HER. HOLY CRAP!! I can honestly say I didn't think people like you actually existed. I thought it was some made-up drama you'd only see on tv. |
Anonymous
| My MIL refused to get the H1N1 vaccine last year because she had a "bad reaction" to a flu shot 20 years earlier. We wouldn't let her around our newborn. Guess what? She and my FIL got H1N1, and so did her other two grandchildren. Jackasses. |
Anonymous
I have two friends who's mothers became paralyzed from the H1N1 vaccine. One, after a year now, is beginning to feel her legs again. The other one went downhill fast and died. So, you take your chances either way. |
Anonymous
| 14:21 -- First of all, if my MIL's doctor said I needed to get a certain vaccine to care for her, I would do that. In fact, we did that for my SIL when she was dying and we were helping to care for her. And if for some reason I couldn't be vaccinnated and the doctor said the next best thing was wearing a mask and gloves, I'd absolutely do that. You wouldn't? Then you're a selfish jerk. |
Anonymous
| My mom, who has asthma, contracted pertussis a few years ago and it was a terribly scary time. She was super sick and we ended up having to call the ambulance 2x during her illness. |
Anonymous
| How do you know if your family member actually gets the vaccine when you ask them to? They could just lie and say they got it, right? |