So you let your kids read at the dining table

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Anonymous wrote:We allow it. No devices, but books are fine. It's not every meal, but I'll never say no to a kid's nose in a book.

While it may be better for the brain, it is every bit just as rude to be engaged in a book as a device. And every bit as distracting with the potential to cause delays even if you are alone. There are indeed many times when it would be better parenting to say "no to a kids nose in a book".

Maybe better parenting to YOU. Not better parenting to every kid or every situation. MYOB.

This is why kids are mostly brats and uncivilized these days. Manners used to be pretty universally understood and it mattered that we brought up kids with good manners. Now everyone is so unique they can't possibly learn manners.

Fine, but when they are expected to know these things don't be surprised if they lose opportunities.

While you are right there is no point fighting this battle. People don't care about manners anymore and love repeating "you do you" as if it's an original sentiment. Kids who are well mannered will stand out more though and will have advantages as a result..

Discouraging reading just to prove to randoms that your kids have "manners" (which apply to far more than just reading) is incredibly short sighted. Kids who are avid readers are more likely to be successful in life and have fewer mental health issues. Your version of manners is probably not going to do that. But at least your dumb kids will get praised by other boomers for sitting at the table looking bored AF!

So no reading at the dinner table means discouraging reading? With those critical thinking skills (and trashy tone) it doesn't sound like you are much of a reader yourself.

"Trashy tone"? OK lol. I was an avid reader as a kid, and encourage my children to read as much as possible. I don't really GAF if that bothers randos on the internet.

You cared enough to reply.

I speak three languages and have a high-paying, intellectually challenging job. Of course I encourage reading as much as possible. But I also understand that being well mannered and able to engage in conversation—yes even when you think the person is boring—is a critical skill that helps both in relationships and at work. That skill is cultivated through daily conversations during dinner where I also encourage my kids to focus on mindfully eating—another important life skill.

You were the one that replied to me and called me trashy, but ok. I'm sure you do, everyone on the internet is a millionaire success
Just because a child reads at the table doesn't mean they aren't able to engage in conversation. It's interesting that you seem to directly equate the two. Life isn't black and white, what a limiting mindset.

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Anonymous wrote:We allow it. No devices, but books are fine. It's not every meal, but I'll never say no to a kid's nose in a book.

While it may be better for the brain, it is every bit just as rude to be engaged in a book as a device. And every bit as distracting with the potential to cause delays even if you are alone. There are indeed many times when it would be better parenting to say "no to a kids nose in a book".

Maybe better parenting to YOU. Not better parenting to every kid or every situation. MYOB.

This is why kids are mostly brats and uncivilized these days. Manners used to be pretty universally understood and it mattered that we brought up kids with good manners. Now everyone is so unique they can't possibly learn manners.

Fine, but when they are expected to know these things don't be surprised if they lose opportunities.

While you are right there is no point fighting this battle. People don't care about manners anymore and love repeating "you do you" as if it's an original sentiment. Kids who are well mannered will stand out more though and will have advantages as a result..

Discouraging reading just to prove to randoms that your kids have "manners" (which apply to far more than just reading) is incredibly short sighted. Kids who are avid readers are more likely to be successful in life and have fewer mental health issues. Your version of manners is probably not going to do that. But at least your dumb kids will get praised by other boomers for sitting at the table looking bored AF!

So no reading at the dinner table means discouraging reading? With those critical thinking skills (and trashy tone) it doesn't sound like you are much of a reader yourself.

"Trashy tone"? OK lol. I was an avid reader as a kid, and encourage my children to read as much as possible. I don't really GAF if that bothers randos on the internet.

I both encourage my kids to read as much as possible, and teach them that the dining room table is not the right place to do so. It's nor either or. You can be a fullsome parent and teach both.

Exactly!!!!! I think so many of DCUM parents are highly insecure and allow this kind of thing out if fear. I never allowed it at the dinner table and my child loves to read.

It seems a lot more like the manners crew are afraid their kids will grow up to be "low class" if they're allowed to read at the table sometimes.

No, no. You are the definition of low class if you allow this while worrying whether your nails or a piece of clothing will make you look low class.

I don't do that.

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Anonymous wrote:We allow it. No devices, but books are fine. It's not every meal, but I'll never say no to a kid's nose in a book.

While it may be better for the brain, it is every bit just as rude to be engaged in a book as a device. And every bit as distracting with the potential to cause delays even if you are alone. There are indeed many times when it would be better parenting to say "no to a kids nose in a book".

Maybe better parenting to YOU. Not better parenting to every kid or every situation. MYOB.

This is why kids are mostly brats and uncivilized these days. Manners used to be pretty universally understood and it mattered that we brought up kids with good manners. Now everyone is so unique they can't possibly learn manners.

Fine, but when they are expected to know these things don't be surprised if they lose opportunities.

While you are right there is no point fighting this battle. People don't care about manners anymore and love repeating "you do you" as if it's an original sentiment. Kids who are well mannered will stand out more though and will have advantages as a result..

Discouraging reading just to prove to randoms that your kids have "manners" (which apply to far more than just reading) is incredibly short sighted. Kids who are avid readers are more likely to be successful in life and have fewer mental health issues. Your version of manners is probably not going to do that. But at least your dumb kids will get praised by other boomers for sitting at the table looking bored AF!

So no reading at the dinner table means discouraging reading? With those critical thinking skills (and trashy tone) it doesn't sound like you are much of a reader yourself.

"Trashy tone"? OK lol. I was an avid reader as a kid, and encourage my children to read as much as possible. I don't really GAF if that bothers randos on the internet.

I both encourage my kids to read as much as possible, and teach them that the dining room table is not the right place to do so. It's nor either or. You can be a fullsome parent and teach both.

Exactly!!!!! I think so many of DCUM parents are highly insecure and allow this kind of thing out if fear. I never allowed it at the dinner table and my child loves to read.

Insecure and fear of what?? What an odd projection.

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No we don't "allow" reading when everyone is sitting down together.

We are all avid readers and could easily be sitting there an hour later with our food cold in front of us. DS would probably have not touched his food at all.

Also, it gives us some time to chat about their day. With teens now, we take any opportunity we can get. Since we have checked the "avid reader" box, we feel comfortable asking for this.

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Anonymous wrote:We allow it. No devices, but books are fine. It's not every meal, but I'll never say no to a kid's nose in a book.

While it may be better for the brain, it is every bit just as rude to be engaged in a book as a device. And every bit as distracting with the potential to cause delays even if you are alone. There are indeed many times when it would be better parenting to say "no to a kids nose in a book".

Maybe better parenting to YOU. Not better parenting to every kid or every situation. MYOB.

This is why kids are mostly brats and uncivilized these days. Manners used to be pretty universally understood and it mattered that we brought up kids with good manners. Now everyone is so unique they can't possibly learn manners.

Fine, but when they are expected to know these things don't be surprised if they lose opportunities.

While you are right there is no point fighting this battle. People don't care about manners anymore and love repeating "you do you" as if it's an original sentiment. Kids who are well mannered will stand out more though and will have advantages as a result..

Discouraging reading just to prove to randoms that your kids have "manners" (which apply to far more than just reading) is incredibly short sighted. Kids who are avid readers are more likely to be successful in life and have fewer mental health issues. Your version of manners is probably not going to do that. But at least your dumb kids will get praised by other boomers for sitting at the table looking bored AF!

So no reading at the dinner table means discouraging reading? With those critical thinking skills (and trashy tone) it doesn't sound like you are much of a reader yourself.

"Trashy tone"? OK lol. I was an avid reader as a kid, and encourage my children to read as much as possible. I don't really GAF if that bothers randos on the internet.

I both encourage my kids to read as much as possible, and teach them that the dining room table is not the right place to do so. It's nor either or. You can be a fullsome parent and teach both.

Exactly!!!!! I think so many of DCUM parents are highly insecure and allow this kind of thing out if fear. I never allowed it at the dinner table and my child loves to read.

It seems a lot more like the manners crew are afraid their kids will grow up to be "low class" if they're allowed to read at the table sometimes.

No, no. You are the definition of low class if you allow this while worrying whether your nails or a piece of clothing will make you look low class.

I don't do that.

You may not but a hell of a lot posters on DCUM do daily. Are you new here?

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Anonymous wrote:We allow it. No devices, but books are fine. It's not every meal, but I'll never say no to a kid's nose in a book.

While it may be better for the brain, it is every bit just as rude to be engaged in a book as a device. And every bit as distracting with the potential to cause delays even if you are alone. There are indeed many times when it would be better parenting to say "no to a kids nose in a book".

Maybe better parenting to YOU. Not better parenting to every kid or every situation. MYOB.

This is why kids are mostly brats and uncivilized these days. Manners used to be pretty universally understood and it mattered that we brought up kids with good manners. Now everyone is so unique they can't possibly learn manners.

Fine, but when they are expected to know these things don't be surprised if they lose opportunities.

While you are right there is no point fighting this battle. People don't care about manners anymore and love repeating "you do you" as if it's an original sentiment. Kids who are well mannered will stand out more though and will have advantages as a result..

Discouraging reading just to prove to randoms that your kids have "manners" (which apply to far more than just reading) is incredibly short sighted. Kids who are avid readers are more likely to be successful in life and have fewer mental health issues. Your version of manners is probably not going to do that. But at least your dumb kids will get praised by other boomers for sitting at the table looking bored AF!

So no reading at the dinner table means discouraging reading? With those critical thinking skills (and trashy tone) it doesn't sound like you are much of a reader yourself.

"Trashy tone"? OK lol. I was an avid reader as a kid, and encourage my children to read as much as possible. I don't really GAF if that bothers randos on the internet.

I both encourage my kids to read as much as possible, and teach them that the dining room table is not the right place to do so. It's nor either or. You can be a fullsome parent and teach both.

Exactly!!!!! I think so many of DCUM parents are highly insecure and allow this kind of thing out if fear. I never allowed it at the dinner table and my child loves to read.

It seems a lot more like the manners crew are afraid their kids will grow up to be "low class" if they're allowed to read at the table sometimes.

No, no. You are the definition of low class if you allow this while worrying whether your nails or a piece of clothing will make you look low class.

I don't do that.

You may not but a hell of a lot posters on DCUM do daily. Are you new here?

And a lot of DCUM posters are worried about their kids reading at the table, maybe they're the same people, who knows.

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Anonymous wrote:No we don't "allow" reading when everyone is sitting down together.

We are all avid readers and could easily be sitting there an hour later with our food cold in front of us. DS would probably have not touched his food at all.

Also, it gives us some time to chat about their day. With teens now, we take any opportunity we can get. Since we have checked the "avid reader" box, we feel comfortable asking for this.

You know not all families have that issue, right?

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No reading of phones at the table. We chat all together. Kids can be excused after about 15 min if they are done. But usually they stick around for 30 min if it's a good evening and fun conversation. Kids are 5 and 9

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For those who allow it when eating as a family, I'd be curious to know how this works in practice?

Multiple kids reading while parents talk? One kid reading while others stare at their plate? Are the readers engaging with others sporadically?

(I'd also be curious to know whether toddlers are/were allowed to come and go from the table during meals.)

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Anonymous wrote:For those who allow it when eating as a family, I'd be curious to know how this works in practice?

Multiple kids reading while parents talk? One kid reading while others stare at their plate? Are the readers engaging with others sporadically?

(I'd also be curious to know whether toddlers are/were allowed to come and go from the table during meals.)

We've got an only child, so one kid reads while we talk. Sometimes we all read. It's not an everyday thing, most dinners don't involve books, but when they do that's what it looks like.

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Anonymous wrote:No we don't "allow" reading when everyone is sitting down together.

We are all avid readers and could easily be sitting there an hour later with our food cold in front of us. DS would probably have not touched his food at all.

Also, it gives us some time to chat about their day. With teens now, we take any opportunity we can get. Since we have checked the "avid reader" box, we feel comfortable asking for this.

You know not all families have that issue, right?

Did I say you did?
I'm not seeing where I put out a mandate for other families

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Anonymous wrote:For those who allow it when eating as a family, I'd be curious to know how this works in practice?

Multiple kids reading while parents talk? One kid reading while others stare at their plate? Are the readers engaging with others sporadically?

(I'd also be curious to know whether toddlers are/were allowed to come and go from the table during meals.)

We've got an only child, so one kid reads while we talk. Sometimes we all read. It's not an everyday thing, most dinners don't involve books, but when they do that's what it looks like.

Appreciate the response, it was a sincere question.

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Anonymous wrote:We allow it. No devices, but books are fine. It's not every meal, but I'll never say no to a kid's nose in a book.

While it may be better for the brain, it is every bit just as rude to be engaged in a book as a device. And every bit as distracting with the potential to cause delays even if you are alone. There are indeed many times when it would be better parenting to say "no to a kids nose in a book".

Maybe better parenting to YOU. Not better parenting to every kid or every situation. MYOB.

This is why kids are mostly brats and uncivilized these days. Manners used to be pretty universally understood and it mattered that we brought up kids with good manners. Now everyone is so unique they can't possibly learn manners.

Fine, but when they are expected to know these things don't be surprised if they lose opportunities.

While you are right there is no point fighting this battle. People don't care about manners anymore and love repeating "you do you" as if it's an original sentiment. Kids who are well mannered will stand out more though and will have advantages as a result..

Discouraging reading just to prove to randoms that your kids have "manners" (which apply to far more than just reading) is incredibly short sighted. Kids who are avid readers are more likely to be successful in life and have fewer mental health issues. Your version of manners is probably not going to do that. But at least your dumb kids will get praised by other boomers for sitting at the table looking bored AF!

So no reading at the dinner table means discouraging reading? With those critical thinking skills (and trashy tone) it doesn't sound like you are much of a reader yourself.

"Trashy tone"? OK lol. I was an avid reader as a kid, and encourage my children to read as much as possible. I don't really GAF if that bothers randos on the internet.

I both encourage my kids to read as much as possible, and teach them that the dining room table is not the right place to do so. It's nor either or. You can be a fullsome parent and teach both.

Exactly!!!!! I think so many of DCUM parents are highly insecure and allow this kind of thing out if fear. I never allowed it at the dinner table and my child loves to read.

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Corrected this for you: I think so many of DCUM parents who are highly insecure and forbid this kind of behavior out of fear. I allow it because my children love to read and it has not damaged the family dynamic. In fact it can enrich it.

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Anonymous wrote:We allow it. No devices, but books are fine. It's not every meal, but I'll never say no to a kid's nose in a book.

While it may be better for the brain, it is every bit just as rude to be engaged in a book as a device. And every bit as distracting with the potential to cause delays even if you are alone. There are indeed many times when it would be better parenting to say "no to a kids nose in a book".

Maybe better parenting to YOU. Not better parenting to every kid or every situation. MYOB.

This is why kids are mostly brats and uncivilized these days. Manners used to be pretty universally understood and it mattered that we brought up kids with good manners. Now everyone is so unique they can't possibly learn manners.

Fine, but when they are expected to know these things don't be surprised if they lose opportunities.

While you are right there is no point fighting this battle. People don't care about manners anymore and love repeating "you do you" as if it's an original sentiment. Kids who are well mannered will stand out more though and will have advantages as a result..

Discouraging reading just to prove to randoms that your kids have "manners" (which apply to far more than just reading) is incredibly short sighted. Kids who are avid readers are more likely to be successful in life and have fewer mental health issues. Your version of manners is probably not going to do that. But at least your dumb kids will get praised by other boomers for sitting at the table looking bored AF!

So no reading at the dinner table means discouraging reading? With those critical thinking skills (and trashy tone) it doesn't sound like you are much of a reader yourself.

Many apps who allow reading during meals have said they don’t allow at the dinner table or family dinner.

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^*Many PPs. Sorry, autocorrect.