If you were to do it again, marry for money or love?

[Anonymous]

I’m not sure. I married for a little bit of each and that’s what I have gotten.
I do wish I had had a take my breath away torrid love of my life. I also wish we had more money. That said, I am neither super happy or super unhappy.i married a good stable, boring guy. At least the sex is good.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I tell my girls to look for both. Of course you need compatibility, but nobody wants a scrub.

Lol, please do report back when they are 30 and you tell your girls to freeze their eggs.

I don’t know anyone who has kids before 30…and I am 47. That is ridiculous.

The point is that your daughters will still have zero long-term relationship experience and no one on the horizon because you've taught them to be materialistic. So they will start panicking at 30.

[Anonymous]

Love always fades over time. Problems involving love and emotions are very difficult to deal with.
You should marry for money. Money problems are easier to solve. Just throw money at it.

[Anonymous]

Marry DH. I make my own money.

Actually maybe a hotter DH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sister married for love. They both started with nothing and have built a great life together. The wealthy guy our parents hoped she would marry is even richer now and divorcing his second wife after getting a neighbor’s young daughter pregnant.

Ick

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think I had this distinction. If I were to marry again, I would find a man who had my same physical touch love language. My husband likes sex, which I thought was the same thing, but he never wants to be touched or cuddle outside of that.

That’s the absolute worst. My DH doesn’t really cuddle in the summer and I hate that. He keeps it freezing cold then doesn’t want to cuddle because he’s still hot.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Love. I make the money.

Same. Female breadwinner. I don’t need him to provide UMC lifestyle when I’ve done it already. Love + Friendship is happiness.

I know I'd be happy living with my husband in a crappy apartment because we did it. We met in college, worked through grad/law school together.

Same here. He fixed a lot of things in our crappy apartment just to make me happy. Definite keeper.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Marrying for money is always a mistake.

I married for love.

If I could do it again, I'd marry for sex.

😧 are you male or female?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Marrying for money is always a mistake.

I married for love.

If I could do it again, I'd marry for sex.

We married for sex. We're still going strong, but sex at 47 is very different from sex at 27.

lol what would your spouse say if they saw that you said this 🤣

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I learned that marrying a rich person doesn’t mean they will share their wealth.

This they rather spend it on an attorney to keep it from someone they actually know and their own children

[Anonymous]

Love, I married for love and I would only marry for love. There is no money in the world that can make up for love and a happy marriage.

[Anonymous]

Neither. Would never marry if I knew what it was like. It's just so banal.

[Anonymous]

Love. I did, and I don’t regret it 25 years later.

[Anonymous]

DH here. My wife has said that if something were to happen to me, if she remarried, it would definitey be to someone “private jet rich”. Lol.

Funny, we both came from pretty much nothing. I literaly lived in a 50 ft dilapidated trailer home from age 10-17 when I moved out to make my own way. I’d say our net worth is in the $15-16M range. We live in a historic home, have a lake house, several paid off rental properties, plus liquid wealth. We don’t worry about money and we could retire or stop working any time we want. I guess there’s just something more glamourous about being really rich.

[Anonymous]

Both 😁