If you were to do it again, marry for money or love?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Realistically, neither love and hotness nor money are guaranteed to last but good education, decent personality, compatibility and strong character are forever.

This.

[Anonymous]

I would not marry for either.
But if someone close to me asked that question, I would say marry someone who respects you, cares, has compatible values, is family oriented, and ideally had a happy childhood.

Chemistry fades over time and you're left with the personality and family baggage, pick wisely, you got only this one life to live, make it count.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MONEY

+1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:100% money. Marrying for love did not work out so now I have neither.

Then it wasn't love, just infatuation.

[Anonymous]

I married for both, and so far its worked out. 23 years together, married for 20. I was completely upfront, well before engagement, that I hoped to be a SAHM. I am very grateful that my DH is a good guy, and we still have a spark all these years later.

[Anonymous]

Love. Just because you have money doesn’t mean you will be happy.

[Anonymous]

I married for love but he had potential to be successful and he succeeded beyond whatever one could hope for. I'm still very much in love. FWIW, I also had a very successful career.

[Anonymous]

I tell my girls to look for both. Of course you need compatibility, but nobody wants a scrub.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I tell my girls to look for both. Of course you need compatibility, but nobody wants a scrub.

Lol, please do report back when they are 30 and you tell your girls to freeze their eggs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MONEY

+1000

+1001. I married for love and that didn’t last. Now I have neither love nor money.

[Anonymous]

Why not both? My DH lived in a crappy apartment when I met him but we had incredible chemistry and I knew he’d be very successful. 30 years later and it’s all good!

[Anonymous]

Married for love, money arrived through hard work later in. Would not have it any other way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Married for love, money arrived through hard work later in. Would not have it any other way.

Same. I could have married for money several times but knew I would be miserable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I tell my girls to look for both. Of course you need compatibility, but nobody wants a scrub.

Lol, please do report back when they are 30 and you tell your girls to freeze their eggs.

I don’t know anyone who has kids before 30…and I am 47. That is ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I tell my girls to look for both. Of course you need compatibility, but nobody wants a scrub.

Lol, please do report back when they are 30 and you tell your girls to freeze their eggs.

I don’t know anyone who has kids before 30…and I am 47. That is ridiculous.

Average maternal age in the US is 27.5. You live in a bubble