daughter broke up with boyfriend over election

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Anonymous wrote:My DS dropped his girlfriend of five years (both in grad school) and informed us of this very casually shortly after the election. We are shocked! They seemed so good together and talked of marriage once school was behind both of them. Of course I asked why even though it’s not something I would normally do. I’m more of the are you okay and let me know if you need anything kind of parent. His answer, I cannot take four years or longer out of my life of being told men are evil and I f g hate them. He said life’s just too short and he just wants to enjoy it, enjoy his work and enjoy his friendships without over analyzing every single moment or person. People really need to stop making politics the center of their personal being. It’s just not healthy.

He's a big baby.

I would say he is the embodiment of what the girlfriend is upset about. So steeped in his own privilege he doesn't want to be bothered to have to (gasp) think about these things. Well la-di-dah. How nice for him that he doesn't have to. What a selfish person.

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Anonymous wrote:I can't imagine being with someone who had such different core values than me.

I mean, I know how hard it is being with my wife who is an ultra liberal as simply a liberal. Even we have differing opinions but they aren't vastly different.

+100. I'm liberal and my husband is ultra liberal (as in, he was very close to voting for Stein in a swing state).
It's completely exhausting. Your daughter dodged a bullet.

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Anonymous wrote:Waiting for OP to say DD voted for Trump and he voted for Harris.

Still not a good fit.

Strong political beliefs are not exactly attractive in a woman. OP's daughter will probably replace the bf easily, but the issue is whether the next guy will be an upgrade or downgrade.

What a gross outlook. I'm glad women have a political voice and choice. People who don't care about this stuff are lacking depth of character.

Caring and obsession are two different vehicles in life. Crossing that line is damaging in so many ways.

Yes, the obsessive worship of Trump by MAGA to the point where they deny reality and defend his easily-debunked lies is so damaging to them and to our country. It's cult-like behavior and so hard to deprogram.

MAGA/President Trump are dealing with reality. VP Kamala Harris lied repeatedly during the 107 day campaign in an attempt to trick voters. VP Harris lives in a fantasy world of celebrities and the ultra-wealthy who thrive on telling others what to think & believe rather than focusing on listening to voters' real world concerns.

The right person & party won. The far left was just focusing on silly issues that are a sure sign of a society's downfall. And, before you guess/assume my politics, I am a registered Democrat (which will change soon) and I respect & adore Independent Senator
Bernie Sanders, Elizabeth Warren, Nicki Haley, Joe Manchin,and many others holding opposing positions.

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Anonymous wrote:Waiting for OP to say DD voted for Trump and he voted for Harris.

Still not a good fit.

Strong political beliefs are not exactly attractive in a woman. OP's daughter will probably replace the bf easily, but the issue is whether the next guy will be an upgrade or downgrade.

What a gross outlook. I'm glad women have a political voice and choice. People who don't care about this stuff are lacking depth of character.

Caring and obsession are two different vehicles in life. Crossing that line is damaging in so many ways.

Yes, the obsessive worship of Trump by MAGA to the point where they deny reality and defend his easily-debunked lies is so damaging to them and to our country. It's cult-like behavior and so hard to deprogram.

MAGA/President Trump are dealing with reality. VP Kamala Harris lied repeatedly during the 107 day campaign in an attempt to trick voters. VP Harris lives in a fantasy world of celebrities and the ultra-wealthy who thrive on telling others what to think & believe rather than focusing on listening to voters' real world concerns.

The right person & party won. The far left was just focusing on silly issues that are a sure sign of a society's downfall. And, before you guess/assume my politics, I am a registered Democrat (which will change soon) and I respect & adore Independent Senator
Bernie Sanders, Elizabeth Warren, Nicki Haley, Joe Manchin,and many others holding opposing positions.

Wow, you’ve been brainwashed. Wild.

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YES, it's normal to break up over whether someone voted for Trump. Trump is not a normal politician.

My husband is more conservative than I am, and we've voted for different candidates before. But they were all respectful of women and had no fascist or authoritarian tendencies. We can agree to disagree on policy differences, but we will always be on the side of democracy and the rule of law.

If your child or her SO voted for Trump, that should be a deal breaker for the other.

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Anonymous wrote:I've been married a long time, we never discuss politics. I have no idea who my spouse has ever voted for.

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Look at our pres being presidential here.
This alone should have been enough.

https://www.reddit.com/media?url=https%3A%2F%2Fpreview.redd.it%2Fptfw2djjvjyd1.gif%3Fwidth%3D480%26format%3Dmp4%26s%3D876d4550585b28f724cc04e40c64adb8092face4

https://knowyourmeme.com/memes/donald-trump-miming-sex-act-on-microphone

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Disgusting.

Yeah, kudos to your daughter OP. She needs to find someone with similar values.

I broke up with one set of friends over this and am boycotting DH’s family gatherings.

The family is putting pressure on DH to roll that back. It’s really funny how for Trumpers/ fake Christians, the most important part is not genuine relationships, but keeping up appearances, to make them look like they’re legit.

No sir, your are the product of your environment and the people you spend most time with. So choose wisely, don’t let the trash into your environment.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, of course. When you discover that you don't share basic values, that can be a deal breaker. Sometimes you learn that through an election cycle, sometimes during a medical crisis, sometimes during holidays, etc.

+1000

Be glad she learned now that they share a very different value system (versus after being married and having kids).

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Anonymous wrote:I cannot fathom ending a relationship because someone didn't want to vote for Kamala Harris.

It's not that. It's about different values. And the other person being willing to vote for a man who is 34 x convicted criminal, rapist (27+ accusations), paid off a porn star for an incident that happened while his 3rd wife was at home with their young child, incited violence when he lost an election, someone who doesn't believe in women's right to choose and women's right to healthcare for themselves (without the govt involved), etc. This is about general morals and values. Good for her!

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Anonymous wrote:My DS dropped his girlfriend of five years (both in grad school) and informed us of this very casually shortly after the election. We are shocked! They seemed so good together and talked of marriage once school was behind both of them. Of course I asked why even though it’s not something I would normally do. I’m more of the are you okay and let me know if you need anything kind of parent. His answer, I cannot take four years or longer out of my life of being told men are evil and I f g hate them. He said life’s just too short and he just wants to enjoy it, enjoy his work and enjoy his friendships without over analyzing every single moment or person. People really need to stop making politics the center of their personal being. It’s just not healthy.

Easy to say when you are a white male (or any male). Shocking how many people cannot have empathy if it does not literally personally affect them.

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How can you tell that politics IS religion ti a liberal?
They will champion anyone who breaks up with a bf over politics but will frequently argue that marrying someone of a different faith is no big deal at all.

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Anonymous wrote:Meh it depends. Reasonable people I know voted for trump. I think they are wrong and will regret it but it’s not like the democrats are perfect by any stretch. Hopefully it wasn’t a knee jerk reaction on her part or she might come to regret it someday.

Not Perfect v. Trump?

Yeah, this was not 2000 where we were given Bush V Gore. Didn't really like either, but voted Gore as the "better choice". But there is no comparison between choosing then vs with Trump. Totally different universe.

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There's nothing wrong with doing this especially if you're young, unmarried and figuring out what you want from a partner. Better now than later. I think it's worse to stay with someone when you have fundamental differences. They will become a source of contention later. And I also think there are apolitical people who don't care and don't understand why she would. But I think it's not unusual. It's more important than liking the same music which was a dumb concern of me and my friends in my 20s.

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Anonymous wrote:My DS dropped his girlfriend of five years (both in grad school) and informed us of this very casually shortly after the election. We are shocked! They seemed so good together and talked of marriage once school was behind both of them. Of course I asked why even though it’s not something I would normally do. I’m more of the are you okay and let me know if you need anything kind of parent. His answer, I cannot take four years or longer out of my life of being told men are evil and I f g hate them. He said life’s just too short and he just wants to enjoy it, enjoy his work and enjoy his friendships without over analyzing every single moment or person. People really need to stop making politics the center of their personal being. It’s just not healthy.

Easy to say when you are a white male (or any male). Shocking how many people cannot have empathy if it does not literally personally affect them.

Meh it doesn’t affect her either. She just chooses to have it affect her. And the son is free to decide he doesn’t want that negativity dictating his life. Good for him!