daughter broke up with boyfriend over election

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Anonymous wrote:I cannot fathom ending a relationship because someone didn't want to vote for Kamala Harris.

Nor can I, but I can certainly fathom ending a relationship because someone voted for Trump.

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter broke up with her boyfriend mostly because he voted for a different person than she did..
She had no idea he felt the day he did, is it normally to brake up with someone mostly because of politics reasons? She's a 25 year old preschool teacher.

What are your daughter's values?

Maybe she doesn't want to be a preschool teacher at home after a while day at work.

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Anonymous wrote:Team daughter

Yep, new way to screen out potential partners and I'm all for it. (While it can go both ways, I suspect it will be mostly one way. And yes, I am ok with it either way).

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Anonymous wrote:My DS dropped his girlfriend of five years (both in grad school) and informed us of this very casually shortly after the election. We are shocked! They seemed so good together and talked of marriage once school was behind both of them. Of course I asked why even though it’s not something I would normally do. I’m more of the are you okay and let me know if you need anything kind of parent. His answer, I cannot take four years or longer out of my life of being told men are evil and I f g hate them. He said life’s just too short and he just wants to enjoy it, enjoy his work and enjoy his friendships without over analyzing every single moment or person. People really need to stop making politics the center of their personal being. It’s just not healthy.

He's a big baby.

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Anonymous wrote:Good for her.

+1
Hooray for her! She dodged a bullet.

[Anonymous]

I wish my DD had broken up with her boyfriend over the election. Not over who each of them supported, but rather the boyfriend was not engaged at all, he had no opinion.

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Anonymous wrote:My DS dropped his girlfriend of five years (both in grad school) and informed us of this very casually shortly after the election. We are shocked! They seemed so good together and talked of marriage once school was behind both of them. Of course I asked why even though it’s not something I would normally do. I’m more of the are you okay and let me know if you need anything kind of parent. His answer, I cannot take four years or longer out of my life of being told men are evil and I f g hate them. He said life’s just too short and he just wants to enjoy it, enjoy his work and enjoy his friendships without over analyzing every single moment or person. People really need to stop making politics the center of their personal being. It’s just not healthy.

Good for him to free her from him

I'm sure she feels the same way. Let me ask you if Harris was saying that she was going to make sure men's bodies and force every man to have a vasectomy...how would you feel if your girlfriend/wife was like YEAH! Let's do this!!! And then say but, you're eggs will be cheaper!

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Anonymous wrote:My DS dropped his girlfriend of five years (both in grad school) and informed us of this very casually shortly after the election. We are shocked! They seemed so good together and talked of marriage once school was behind both of them. Of course I asked why even though it’s not something I would normally do. I’m more of the are you okay and let me know if you need anything kind of parent. His answer, I cannot take four years or longer out of my life of being told men are evil and I f g hate them. He said life’s just too short and he just wants to enjoy it, enjoy his work and enjoy his friendships without over analyzing every single moment or person. People really need to stop making politics the center of their personal being. It’s just not healthy.

Good for him to free her from him

This response is exactly what DS was talking about, I see how it can and is exhausting to live with for anyone. You sound like you may need some anger management help. Good luck.

dp The above response does not seem 'angry' but, to be honest anger is an appropriate response and does not need to be 'managed' Unless you think women should be walking around with a smile planted on their faces all day long. Women are going to die because of this election.

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Anonymous wrote:I've been married a long time, we never discuss politics. I have no idea who my spouse has ever voted for.

And you think that's something to be proud of?

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Anonymous wrote:Not sure if you're trolling or not, but for many people, this election wasn't just about "politics," it was about core values. I can't imagine a starker difference in values than those that exist between a MAGA voter and an anti-MAGA voter. Why date someone whose core values you don't share?

You think this but it is not true. I am a never trumper and voted against him three times but the differences between the two sides are not as great as people on both sides think. Both sides have blown everything out of proportion. I do not see this stark difference. Even on the abortion issue Trump would if he can get away with it support some level of abortion rights. The 16 week federal law is a real possibility over his term.

So your daughter can do what she likes. For a long term partner there are lots of factors and lots of give and take. Maybe this was the last straw.

The difference in values is a separate issue from the difference in policy positions. Even if you were correct that there is policy overlap, which I’m not sure is correct (have you read Project 2025?), I wouldn’t say I didn’t vote for Trump solely because of his policy positions. I didn’t vote for him because of his limited fidelity to the truth and the democratic process, his disregard for the rule of law, his statements that he will use the office of President for personal gain, and his role in the events of January 6, 2021. I don’t think he is trustworthy and I believe his actions are in service of self, not in service of the public. I place a lot of value in these characteristics, and I would say a person who voted for Trump does not share my values.

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Anonymous wrote:I've been married a long time, we never discuss politics. I have no idea who my spouse has ever voted for.

But you must have other life experiences that have shown you who is and what he values. In this case, the election served that purpose.

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Anonymous wrote:Waiting for OP to say DD voted for Trump and he voted for Harris.

Still not a good fit.

Strong political beliefs are not exactly attractive in a woman. OP's daughter will probably replace the bf easily, but the issue is whether the next guy will be an upgrade or downgrade.

What a gross outlook. I'm glad women have a political voice and choice. People who don't care about this stuff are lacking depth of character.

Caring and obsession are two different vehicles in life. Crossing that line is damaging in so many ways.

Yes, the obsessive worship of Trump by MAGA to the point where they deny reality and defend his easily-debunked lies is so damaging to them and to our country. It's cult-like behavior and so hard to deprogram.

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Anonymous wrote:Not sure if you're trolling or not, but for many people, this election wasn't just about "politics," it was about core values. I can't imagine a starker difference in values than those that exist between a MAGA voter and an anti-MAGA voter. Why date someone whose core values you don't share?

You think this but it is not true. I am a never trumper and voted against him three times but the differences between the two sides are not as great as people on both sides think. Both sides have blown everything out of proportion. I do not see this stark difference. Even on the abortion issue Trump would if he can get away with it support some level of abortion rights. The 16 week federal law is a real possibility over his term.

So your daughter can do what she likes. For a long term partner there are lots of factors and lots of give and take. Maybe this was the last straw.

The difference in values is a separate issue from the difference in policy positions. Even if you were correct that there is policy overlap, which I’m not sure is correct (have you read Project 2025?), I wouldn’t say I didn’t vote for Trump solely because of his policy positions. I didn’t vote for him because of his limited fidelity to the truth and the democratic process, his disregard for the rule of law, his statements that he will use the office of President for personal gain, and his role in the events of January 6, 2021. I don’t think he is trustworthy and I believe his actions are in service of self, not in service of the public. I place a lot of value in these characteristics, and I would say a person who voted for Trump does not share my values.

This is an excellent distillation of the reason many of us would never vote for Trump and would find someone who does difficult to respect.

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Anonymous wrote:My DS dropped his girlfriend of five years (both in grad school) and informed us of this very casually shortly after the election. We are shocked! They seemed so good together and talked of marriage once school was behind both of them. Of course I asked why even though it’s not something I would normally do. I’m more of the are you okay and let me know if you need anything kind of parent. His answer, I cannot take four years or longer out of my life of being told men are evil and I f g hate them. He said life’s just too short and he just wants to enjoy it, enjoy his work and enjoy his friendships without over analyzing every single moment or person. People really need to stop making politics the center of their personal being. It’s just not healthy.

This.

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I can't imagine being with someone who had such different core values than me.

I mean, I know how hard it is being with my wife who is an ultra liberal as simply a liberal. Even we have differing opinions but they aren't vastly different.