Country club scene at the all girls schools

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Anonymous wrote:We’re at SR and are members of a cc, but do not think there’s a cc vibe, at all. Because we see other SR families at multi-cc events, I’m guessing there’s a fair amount of SR families who belong to a cc, but I’ve never heard or participated in any cc talk with other parents beyond meet-up related logistics.

I suspect any angst about cc membership is felt solely by those who desire a cc membership (for whatever reason) but can’t have one (for whatever reason). No one else cares how other families spend their money.

aka blaming the victim.

Victims of what?!? Are you serious?? Wanting a cc membership but can’t have one? That is bonkers.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We just graduated from a preschool where about a third of parents are chevy members. Unfortunately it shapes everything at this age and is at the point where people hide their affiliations because the rep is that bad.

It definitely informed where we went next!

What preschool is 1/3 Chevy members???

Metropolitan?
That's my guess.

[Anonymous]

DD is at Visi and having a very good experience. While we belong to the Metropolitan Club, we do not belong to a country club (nobody in our family golfs). Country clubs are sometimes mentioned among the girls, but family club membership does not seem to be a disqualifier in making school friends. The school clubs often have events and gatherings (like award banquets) at these places, which is a nice way for non-member girls to experience them. This has not been a factor in our daughter’s life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Holton? Um yes there’s a scene
The least all girls cc scene is prob madeira

I think there are plenty of Madeira parents who are members of clubs. But half of them are not local and those who are don't revolve their social life around it. Plus, starting at 9th grade makes social life far less parent-influenced.

Madeira has no country club scene. We have an upperclassman there and belong to a club. I’ve never heard anyone discussing their club, there have never been social events there, and I have never seen anyone from Madeira at our club (though I barely use it). Between the boarding element and the merit and financial aid, it feels less wealthy than the K-8 we came from and certainly not a country club type of school.

Agree. My DC went to Madeira as a day student a few years ago and there was not a country club scene that I was aware of. None of her friends parents belonged to clubs.

That said it did have a wealthy vibe. Yes they do merit and financial aid, but the international students and many of the boarding students tended to be pretty wealthy. and many of the day students as well. Although no more than other private schools in the area.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Holton? Um yes there’s a scene
The least all girls cc scene is prob madeira

I think there are plenty of Madeira parents who are members of clubs. But half of them are not local and those who are don't revolve their social life around it. Plus, starting at 9th grade makes social life far less parent-influenced.

Madeira has no country club scene. We have an upperclassman there and belong to a club. I’ve never heard anyone discussing their club, there have never been social events there, and I have never seen anyone from Madeira at our club (though I barely use it). Between the boarding element and the merit and financial aid, it feels less wealthy than the K-8 we came from and certainly not a country club type of school.

Agree. My DC went to Madeira as a day student a few years ago and there was not a country club scene that I was aware of. None of her friends parents belonged to clubs.

That said it did have a wealthy vibe. Yes they do merit and financial aid, but the international students and many of the boarding students tended to be pretty wealthy. and many of the day students as well. Although no more than other private schools in the area.

DP. Being wealthy has a different vibe than belonging to a lot of clubs which do not allow all to join. I find people that belong to a lot of clubs belong for a reason which is they do not want to mix and mingle with all sorts of people. It is different than being wealthy in my experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NCS has a few country club girls but it's not a prevailing culture at all. Even most of the wealthiest families in my girls' grades do not belong to a club.

Most of the country club set leave in middle school or by 9th grade. For example, in the current 9th grade, almost all of the country club girls left for Stone Ridge for high school.

Ha! This is so not true. There’s a holiday dance coming up at CCC geared to NCS and STA kids for certain grades but only those kids and their select friends get invited.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:NCS has a few country club girls but it's not a prevailing culture at all. Even most of the wealthiest families in my girls' grades do not belong to a club.

Most of the country club set leave in middle school or by 9th grade. For example, in the current 9th grade, almost all of the country club girls left for Stone Ridge for high school.

Ha! This is so not true. There’s a holiday dance coming up at CCC geared to NCS and STA kids for certain grades but only those kids and their select friends get invited.

Which grades?

[Anonymous]

We live about 45min away from our school and do not belong to a club anymore. We belonged to one when DD was younger and attended public school, but mostly for the activities, not the eating club aspect. We're now in private for upper school and in upper school, the kids are too busy with their ECs and parent's are too involved with siblings in college and getting their kids ready for college that there is no "scene".

With that being said, there's always someone richer and snobbier than you that holds a club membership for four years just so that they can host the graduation party their as a status thing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:NCS has a few country club girls but it's not a prevailing culture at all. Even most of the wealthiest families in my girls' grades do not belong to a club.

Most of the country club set leave in middle school or by 9th grade. For example, in the current 9th grade, almost all of the country club girls left for Stone Ridge for high school.

Ha! This is so not true. There’s a holiday dance coming up at CCC geared to NCS and STA kids for certain grades but only those kids and their select friends get invited.

My kids were invited and we're not CCC members.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We’re at SR and are members of a cc, but do not think there’s a cc vibe, at all. Because we see other SR families at multi-cc events, I’m guessing there’s a fair amount of SR families who belong to a cc, but I’ve never heard or participated in any cc talk with other parents beyond meet-up related logistics.

I suspect any angst about cc membership is felt solely by those who desire a cc membership (for whatever reason) but can’t have one (for whatever reason). No one else cares how other families spend their money.

The last part of this is ridiculous. We could easily afford a club and aren’t members because it’s not how we want to spend our time. But it does impact our kids because 1/3 the grade at their elementary belongs to the CCC and they see each other all the time outside of school. Most of them spend the whole summer together at CCC camps. It fosters close relationships among those kids and others are left out. School admissions needs to do better about not admitting all the same kinds of people if they want an inclusive school.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We just graduated from a preschool where about a third of parents are chevy members. Unfortunately it shapes everything at this age and is at the point where people hide their affiliations because the rep is that bad.

It definitely informed where we went next!

DP. Chevy members are at the center of so many complaints across several schools yet a few schools still consistently appoint the Chevy crowd to their governing board. It is shocking. On a positive note they saved us a lot of money by doing so this year as we are now not donating what we had planned originally.

It's not shocking. Those same parents you mention bring something to the table - they are DC partners in law firms, financial experts or run successful businesses and are good at management. When I am asked to serve on school boards, it's because I bring special expertise that no one else has. It has nothing to do with a country club membership.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Holton? Um yes there’s a scene
The least all girls cc scene is prob madeira

I think there are plenty of Madeira parents who are members of clubs. But half of them are not local and those who are don't revolve their social life around it. Plus, starting at 9th grade makes social life far less parent-influenced.

Madeira has no country club scene. We have an upperclassman there and belong to a club. I’ve never heard anyone discussing their club, there have never been social events there, and I have never seen anyone from Madeira at our club (though I barely use it). Between the boarding element and the merit and financial aid, it feels less wealthy than the K-8 we came from and certainly not a country club type of school.

Agree. My DC went to Madeira as a day student a few years ago and there was not a country club scene that I was aware of. None of her friends parents belonged to clubs.

That said it did have a wealthy vibe. Yes they do merit and financial aid, but the international students and many of the boarding students tended to be pretty wealthy. and many of the day students as well. Although no more than other private schools in the area.

DP. Being wealthy has a different vibe than belonging to a lot of clubs which do not allow all to join. I find people that belong to a lot of clubs belong for a reason which is they do not want to mix and mingle with all sorts of people. It is different than being wealthy in my experience.

Most who join country clubs do so for the golf.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NCS has a few country club girls but it's not a prevailing culture at all. Even most of the wealthiest families in my girls' grades do not belong to a club.

Most of the country club set leave in middle school or by 9th grade. For example, in the current 9th grade, almost all of the country club girls left for Stone Ridge for high school.

Ha! This is so not true. There’s a holiday dance coming up at CCC geared to NCS and STA kids for certain grades but only those kids and their select friends get invited.

My kids were invited and we're not CCC members.

This year? Did you receive your invite for this year?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We just graduated from a preschool where about a third of parents are chevy members. Unfortunately it shapes everything at this age and is at the point where people hide their affiliations because the rep is that bad.

It definitely informed where we went next!

DP. Chevy members are at the center of so many complaints across several schools yet a few schools still consistently appoint the Chevy crowd to their governing board. It is shocking. On a positive note they saved us a lot of money by doing so this year as we are now not donating what we had planned originally.

It's not shocking. Those same parents you mention bring something to the table - they are DC partners in law firms, financial experts or run successful businesses and are good at management. When I am asked to serve on school boards, it's because I bring special expertise that no one else has. It has nothing to do with a country club membership.

Doubtful. This is DC. Successful wealthy people are a dime a dozen. Many could easily fill those roles.

[Anonymous]

My daughter graduated from Visi in 2021 and I can tell you that a large portion of the class were CC members. You may not know it because not all of us flaunt it. But not belonging certainly doesn't remove you from social circles. My daughter's friend group certainly had non-club members and no one cared one way or another. It's probably more noticeable in younger years when everyone is doing swim or tennis or golf team and meet up at the pool as a social activity.