Country club scene at the all girls schools
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Anonymous
Metropolitan Club is now run by the same people that run Chevy so they are one and the same if not worse. Involved with blackballing at least one or two families from Chevy. |
Anonymous
I’m on a different board and we have a similar phenomenon. What we’ve found is that it is very, very difficult to get people to make the leaps from saying they should be on the board to volunteering with a committee for 1-3 years to be eligible for being on the board to committing to multi-year terms that include multiple meetings per month. Everyone says they want to be on the board but the people who commit and do the heavy lifting tend to be people with strong social ties who feel an obligation to each other, the school, and the work. I have served on a trustee committee (responsible for recruiting new trustees) and we don’t think about club memberships. We focuson who has been actively serving the school, their professional background and how it fits our current needs (risk management, facilities planning and investment management). I think that active club members often overlap with board members both require similar energy levels and willingness to work with others and get along. |
Anonymous
You sound manic. My kid went last year and almost all the kids left after an hour. It was a non-event and frankly a waste of money. The kids are over dances after a few years of homecoming. |
Anonymous
DP. Your experience is yours but it does not apply to all. False - being active at a social club which does not allow certain families to join has absolutely zero to do with being on a school hoard EXCEPT a that your paths cross so when you think of a person to join the board you think of them instead of considering a wide range of people from all walks of kinds at the school. I certainly hope you are not on our kids board. Your outlook is really bizarre. |
Anonymous
We cast a VERY wide net. The people who accept invitations to serve on committees that support the Board often turn out to be members of local clubs. We don’t recruit for these people and I don’t think any of us who were on the trustee committee knew anything beyond their professional background when doing interviews and recruiting the years that I did it- we were not current parents and were pretty disconnected from the current parent community by design. All I’m saying is that often, club people are joiners and community-minded and extroverted, so they gravitate towards the initial volunteering scut work that’s adjacent to the Board’s long-term work that puts them on the radar for future board work. And I say this as a non club member. |
Anonymous
You sound naive. This is DC. You don’t think people with this experience are a dime a dozen? They aren’t just found in country clubs, not to mention one particular club. |
Anonymous
This. It’s the same group of people all the time who float in the same social circles but for the one person who is the outlier that’s been put ion the board to try and give an appearance of neutrality. It’s a joke. Add to this the cattiness one experiences when even trying to take on any type of role that isn’t just volunteer grunt work (help pass out gold stars) it’s toxic and the schools turn a blind eye. |
Anonymous
Like Justice Kavanaugh's family? |
Anonymous
| We are at SR and I see the Country Club seen as definitely part of the culture of my kids grade. |
Anonymous
You are a member, so you probably dont know what it feels like to be in a community where being "in" is so normal, that you dont have to flaunt it. BUT trust me, the kids and families who are not "in" are acutely aware of it. The kids feel like charity cases and the parents are entirely iced out. YOU think no one cares, but really, they do. |
Anonymous
Not naive at all, Ivy educated for college and T1 law school, and have served on boards and local privates and an Ivy. We look for specific talents (law, marketing, accounting, managemebnt, investments, pattern of community involvement and so on) and the willingness to serve in a volunteer capacity (in my case for five years, each stint). Same as the thoughtful PP says just above. I don't even know the the clubs my fellow board members belong to. But, I can tell you this, we don't seek out rubes like you who name call on a mommy forum. |
Anonymous
You are getting these positions through your connections and not your expertise. I agree with pp - Ivy educated wealthy successful nice people are a dime a dozen in the DC area. I can literally name off 10 off of the top of my head. They would all be wonderful board members but yet they never get asked. They do not rub elbows at the right places. Shame for schools and other boards because these people would be wonderful assets. |
Anonymous
Not PP but you want the people who rub elbows not the ones that do not. Those personal connections are important to get anything done at a club. We probably have over 100 biglaw partners as members. Not more than 20 do stuff over time as the rest have shown no interest and do not have relationships. Same at schools. It is not what you know -- it is who you know and then what you know. |
Anonymous
9th? |
Anonymous
| I’m pretty sure you can’t park your car at Columbia CC without a Gonzaga, Visi or SR sticker on your car. |