Country club scene at the all girls schools

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Anonymous wrote:We’re at SR and are members of a cc, but do not think there’s a cc vibe, at all. Because we see other SR families at multi-cc events, I’m guessing there’s a fair amount of SR families who belong to a cc, but I’ve never heard or participated in any cc talk with other parents beyond meet-up related logistics.

I suspect any angst about cc membership is felt solely by those who desire a cc membership (for whatever reason) but can’t have one (for whatever reason). No one else cares how other families spend their money.

The last part of this is ridiculous. We could easily afford a club and aren’t members because it’s not how we want to spend our time. But it does impact our kids because 1/3 the grade at their elementary belongs to the CCC and they see each other all the time outside of school. Most of them spend the whole summer together at CCC camps. It fosters close relationships among those kids and others are left out. School admissions needs to do better about not admitting all the same kinds of people if they want an inclusive school.

What you're experiencing might be a broader issue. A lot of professionals in DC are transplants, but there are also families that have been going to cathedral schools for generations and are multi- generation members of the Met/Chevy/Sulgrave scene. When people have been friends their entire lives, it can look a bit cliquish to others.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We’re at SR and are members of a cc, but do not think there’s a cc vibe, at all. Because we see other SR families at multi-cc events, I’m guessing there’s a fair amount of SR families who belong to a cc, but I’ve never heard or participated in any cc talk with other parents beyond meet-up related logistics.

I suspect any angst about cc membership is felt solely by those who desire a cc membership (for whatever reason) but can’t have one (for whatever reason). No one else cares how other families spend their money.

The last part of this is ridiculous. We could easily afford a club and aren’t members because it’s not how we want to spend our time. But it does impact our kids because 1/3 the grade at their elementary belongs to the CCC and they see each other all the time outside of school. Most of them spend the whole summer together at CCC camps. It fosters close relationships among those kids and others are left out. School admissions needs to do better about not admitting all the same kinds of people if they want an inclusive school.

What you're experiencing might be a broader issue. A lot of professionals in DC are transplants, but there are also families that have been going to cathedral schools for generations and are multi- generation members of the Met/Chevy/Sulgrave scene. When people have been friends their entire lives, it can look a bit cliquish to others.

DP. I don't think it is the generational families that are the issue. A lot of people belong to clubs in the DMV- all sorts of clubs and most do not talk about them or spend all of their time there as cultured people tend to attend theater, art museums, dine at high end restaurants etc... and other events that a city offers. The problem families tend to be the newer money families that are not very cultured and seem to not have any other interests besides their club. They spend all free time at their club and only with people and families that belong to their club and they teach their kids to do so as well.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We’re at SR and are members of a cc, but do not think there’s a cc vibe, at all. Because we see other SR families at multi-cc events, I’m guessing there’s a fair amount of SR families who belong to a cc, but I’ve never heard or participated in any cc talk with other parents beyond meet-up related logistics.

I suspect any angst about cc membership is felt solely by those who desire a cc membership (for whatever reason) but can’t have one (for whatever reason). No one else cares how other families spend their money.

The last part of this is ridiculous. We could easily afford a club and aren’t members because it’s not how we want to spend our time. But it does impact our kids because 1/3 the grade at their elementary belongs to the CCC and they see each other all the time outside of school. Most of them spend the whole summer together at CCC camps. It fosters close relationships among those kids and others are left out. School admissions needs to do better about not admitting all the same kinds of people if they want an inclusive school.

What you're experiencing might be a broader issue. A lot of professionals in DC are transplants, but there are also families that have been going to cathedral schools for generations and are multi- generation members of the Met/Chevy/Sulgrave scene. When people have been friends their entire lives, it can look a bit cliquish to others.

DP. I don't think it is the generational families that are the issue. A lot of people belong to clubs in the DMV- all sorts of clubs and most do not talk about them or spend all of their time there as cultured people tend to attend theater, art museums, dine at high end restaurants etc... and other events that a city offers. The problem families tend to be the newer money families that are not very cultured and seem to not have any other interests besides their club. They spend all free time at their club and only with people and families that belong to their club and they teach their kids to do so as well.

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More so than NCS but I'm sure it varies by class and I know many non-club girls who are happy.

I don't think it's an overwhelming issue at any of these schools. Lthe club families who start at NCS almost all leave by high school. NCS is too liberal and is too much of a grind by high school for these families.

You should be embarrassed for writing this. The implication that all families who belong to clubs are liberal and that NCS is too hard for girls whose families belong to a club is absolutely ridiculous and reeks of insecurity.

FWIW, I had dinner at Congressional a few nights ago with a group of women who had kids at Visi /STA and they all voted/are voting for Harris.

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More so than NCS but I'm sure it varies by class and I know many non-club girls who are happy.

I don't think it's an overwhelming issue at any of these schools. Lthe club families who start at NCS almost all leave by high school. NCS is too liberal and is too much of a grind by high school for these families.

You should be embarrassed for writing this. The implication that all families who belong to clubs are liberal and that NCS is too hard for girls whose families belong to a club is absolutely ridiculous and reeks of insecurity.

FWIW, I had dinner at Congressional a few nights ago with a group of women who had kids at Visi /STA and they all voted/are voting for Harris.

DP. I think you misread their post. They never wrote that families that belong to clubs are liberal. They wrote that many families that have left express it is too liberal for THEM and I think it may be true as many that left are openly Trump supporters.

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Getting back to the original question - AHC definitely doesn't have a "CC atmosphere".

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Anonymous wrote:Getting back to the original question - AHC definitely doesn't have a "CC atmosphere".

Holy Cross?

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I've been at NCS a few years now and although the parents in the earlier grades can be a bit overbearing (especially if they came from Beauvoir) they tend to be less fixated on the CCC set. Our daughter is having a great experience and is enjoying herself with a range of friends. It isn't a thing. You really do find your tribe at NCS if you're a sociable, kind and down to earth person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've been at NCS a few years now and although the parents in the earlier grades can be a bit overbearing (especially if they came from Beauvoir) they tend to be less fixated on the CCC set. Our daughter is having a great experience and is enjoying herself with a range of friends. It isn't a thing. You really do find your tribe at NCS if you're a sociable, kind and down to earth person.

Agree

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Anonymous wrote:I've been at NCS a few years now and although the parents in the earlier grades can be a bit overbearing (especially if they came from Beauvoir) they tend to be less fixated on the CCC set. Our daughter is having a great experience and is enjoying herself with a range of friends. It isn't a thing. You really do find your tribe at NCS if you're a sociable, kind and down to earth person.

We have a daughter at Holton and I feel the same way. No more than 25% or so of her class is a country club set and all the girls really do mix friend groups.

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DP. Your experience is yours but it does not apply to all. False - being active at a social club which does not allow certain families to join has absolutely zero to do with being on a school hoard EXCEPT a that your paths cross so when you think of a person to join the board you think of them instead of considering a wide range of people from all walks of kinds at the school. I certainly hope you are not on our kids board. Your outlook is really bizarre.

NP. My kids attend/attended local private schools and I was never on the board - but I thought PPs answer was thoughtful and well-articulated, and you sound unhinged.

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You should be embarrassed for writing this. The implication that all families who belong to clubs are liberal and that NCS is too hard for girls whose families belong to a club is absolutely ridiculous and reeks of insecurity.

FWIW, I had dinner at Congressional a few nights ago with a group of women who had kids at Visi /STA and they all voted/are voting for Harris.


DP. I think you misread their post. They never wrote that families that belong to clubs are liberal. They wrote that many families that have left express it is too liberal for THEM and I think it may be true as many that left are openly Trump supporters.

Sorry -- I meant the implication that all club members are conservative. They most definitely are not.

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Anonymous wrote:We just graduated from a preschool where about a third of parents are chevy members. Unfortunately it shapes everything at this age and is at the point where people hide their affiliations because the rep is that bad.

It definitely informed where we went next!

What preschool is 1/3 Chevy members???

Metropolitan is one

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Anonymous wrote:We just graduated from a preschool where about a third of parents are chevy members. Unfortunately it shapes everything at this age and is at the point where people hide their affiliations because the rep is that bad.

It definitely informed where we went next!

DP. Chevy members are at the center of so many complaints across several schools yet a few schools still consistently appoint the Chevy crowd to their governing board. It is shocking. On a positive note they saved us a lot of money by doing so this year as we are now not donating what we had planned originally.

It's not shocking. Those same parents you mention bring something to the table - they are DC partners in law firms, financial experts or run successful businesses and are good at management. When I am asked to serve on school boards, it's because I bring special expertise that no one else has. It has nothing to do with a country club membership.

You sound naive. This is DC. You don’t think people with this experience are a dime a dozen? They aren’t just found in country clubs, not to mention one particular club.

Not naive at all, Ivy educated for college and T1 law school, and have served on boards and local privates and an Ivy. We look for specific talents (law, marketing, accounting, managemebnt, investments, pattern of community involvement and so on) and the willingness to serve in a volunteer capacity (in my case for five years, each stint). Same as the thoughtful PP says just above. I don't even know the the clubs my fellow board members belong to. But, I can tell you this, we don't seek out rubes like you who name call on a mommy forum.

Your insecure response perfectly illustrates the personality of these unpopular board members. Right down to thinking someone should be impressed by a T1 law school and calling me a rube saying I’d never be invited to join your mythical board! Oh, no! Unless this is parody. I really can’t tell.

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You should be embarrassed for writing this. The implication that all families who belong to clubs are liberal and that NCS is too hard for girls whose families belong to a club is absolutely ridiculous and reeks of insecurity.

FWIW, I had dinner at Congressional a few nights ago with a group of women who had kids at Visi /STA and they all voted/are voting for Harris.


DP. I think you misread their post. They never wrote that families that belong to clubs are liberal. They wrote that many families that have left express it is too liberal for THEM and I think it may be true as many that left are openly Trump supporters.

Sorry -- I meant the implication that all club members are conservative. They most definitely are not.

Of course they are not all but at the Cathedral schools yes they actually are mostly (not all) conservative that belong to Chevy/Congo. A few exceptions for overwhelmingly conservative.