Movies - when I’m more cautious than others

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:On the flip side (and slightly off-topic), but parents, please do just a little bit of research on a movie before you let your kids go see it.

I know the general theme here is that its weird for some parents to be so restrictive since the kids talk about this stuff/see it on social media/etc.

But DS has a group of kids that are trying to go see Terrifier and the parents have no idea what the movie is. Its nuts and he's pissed at us bc we're not letting him go

I mean, the title kind of gives you the huge hint it'll be scary.

Yeah, except it doesnt. I would let me freshman watch Scream or The Halloween movies.

But def not those Terrifier movies. Its' unrated, FFS bc they knew if they submitted it for ratings it would be NC-17

You don’t know squat

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What movie is it? Teenage years is a very wide span of maturity and development, just like the year prior.

I'm probably going to say need to relax, as what constitutes PG/PG13 now is much more prudish that when I was a kid.

That said, your kid is going to MS next year, so you better start getting comfortable with a lot more discussion/topics that you are likely currently avoiding.

Thanks. These are all good points. I am aware that middle school is a year away, but kids will be close to a year older then, right? There’s a gap between 4th and 5th graders, and then 5th and 6th graders. There are definitely, movies I’d let my 5th grader watch, but would not have viewed in 3rd grade. So now I’m looking for the moving kine for a 5th grader.

That’s not the way this actually works. There a gap between 3rd and 5th. There’s very little gap between 4th/5th except the fact that 5th graders should be preparing for MS. The gap between 5th and 6th is not the start of the year but the difference as the year goes on. That difference exist because the MS gap is between 6th and 8th.

Your goal should be preparing for the upcoming year and existing in the current year.

[Anonymous]

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So, DC has been invited to a birthday party where they will be watching a PG 13 movie. It’s a teen movie, with teen themes. If DC were 2 years older, I would be fine with movie. But they’re not.

Is this a case of I need to relax? Or is it worthwhile to censor DC’s movies a few more years?

You don't need to relax, but you also can't expect them to change the movie to accommodate one guest. So you have to accept that this party may not happen for your kid, which is fine.

Agree that it's fine to miss occasionally.

On the flip side, sometimes speaking up reveals other parents have the same concerns. This happened once with a sleepover where I said my kid probably wasn't ready for the movie, so I'd just pick them up after dinnertime. Several parents chimed in on the text thread that actually their kid wasn't up for it either. The party ended up switching movies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

So, DC has been invited to a birthday party where they will be watching a PG 13 movie. It’s a teen movie, with teen themes. If DC were 2 years older, I would be fine with movie. But they’re not.

Is this a case of I need to relax? Or is it worthwhile to censor DC’s movies a few more years?

You don't need to relax, but you also can't expect them to change the movie to accommodate one guest. So you have to accept that this party may not happen for your kid, which is fine.

Agree that it's fine to miss occasionally.

On the flip side, sometimes speaking up reveals other parents have the same concerns. This happened once with a sleepover where I said my kid probably wasn't ready for the movie, so I'd just pick them up after dinnertime. Several parents chimed in on the text thread that actually their kid wasn't up for it either. The party ended up switching movies.

(Eye roll)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

So, DC has been invited to a birthday party where they will be watching a PG 13 movie. It’s a teen movie, with teen themes. If DC were 2 years older, I would be fine with movie. But they’re not.

Is this a case of I need to relax? Or is it worthwhile to censor DC’s movies a few more years?

You don't need to relax, but you also can't expect them to change the movie to accommodate one guest. So you have to accept that this party may not happen for your kid, which is fine.

Agree that it's fine to miss occasionally.

On the flip side, sometimes speaking up reveals other parents have the same concerns. This happened once with a sleepover where I said my kid probably wasn't ready for the movie, so I'd just pick them up after dinnertime. Several parents chimed in on the text thread that actually their kid wasn't up for it either. The party ended up switching movies.

(Eye roll)

You can roll your eyes, but the host parent even said she was glad we said something. She's the kind of parent that doesn't like to say no to her kids, so making someone else the bad guy worked better from her perspective, too. I never would have asked them to change it. I thought my kid would be the only one leaving early.