Movies - when I’m more cautious than others

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our child is very sensitive to movies and at 12, still gets afraid.

If we knew the movie in advance and kid wanted to go, we’d watch movie before the party to preview it and so he won’t be surprised/be prepared for scenes.

OP, watch movie before with your kid. Discuss the PG-13 parts.

This is what we did, if the movie seemed problematic

[Anonymous]

Attempting to shelter when their peers are seeing stuff is futile. Discuss things with them, as PPs have said.

[Anonymous]

The problem is nowadays PG = G movie. You will never see a live-action PG movie anymore.

I think every Marvel movie and all the latest Star Wars movies are PG-13.

Would you have any problems with those movies?

[Anonymous]

What movie is it?
I have a 12yo and for the most part agree with the PPs
DD had also seen Billy Elliott which is rated R but only for language. She was 8, I loved the message and the story though so let her watch it. It’s the only R rated movie she has seen but I’d totally recommend it.

[Anonymous]

What movie fooo

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Depends what movie. There's a big range within the categories.

Personally I'm conservative on media but I've become more okay with a little consensual sexy stuff than I am with violence. I find it more troubling how casually we treat violence but act like such prudes over a little nudity.

+1
Crazy how some parents are prudes about sexual themes, but let their kids play COD or other extremely violent video games/watch similar movies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kids in DCs’s grade (5th) are turning 11 this year. My soon to be 11 year old is my oldest kid, and admittedly I am on the cautious side when it comes to media exposure. DC has seen some PG/PG-13 movies, where we were ok with the content. However, in general I’d prefer to wait on exposure to sexual content, particularly since there’s no shortage of movies that are totally appropriate for 10 or 11 year olds.

So, DC has been invited to a birthday party where they will be watching a PG 13 movie. It’s a teen movie, with teen themes. If DC were 2 years older, I would be fine with movie. But they’re not.

Is this a case of I need to relax? Or is it worthwhile to censor DC’s movies a few more years?

Restricting movies based on ratings is a bad idea overall. The only ratings a child shouldn't watch are X-rated, but of course once they are old enough to use a computer, social media, and a phone they will see them anyway.

[Anonymous]

For one party, I would let it go unless for some very specific reason I think it is too much. Common Sense Media is good for reminding you of the details, but their age ranges are pretty conservative. That doesn’t mean they suddenly get to watch any PG-13 movie they want whenever they want. I will also say in 5th grade most of the sexual innuendo will simply be over their head. By sixth grade, my best strategy was to watch some of this stuff with my kid and actually explain it to her. If I wasn’t explaining it, she would be hearing it at school and ending up with the wrong answer rather than how I wanted her to understand the issue in the context of the values important to our family. My kid actually watched her first PG-13 movie at a church sleepover event (Legally Blonde). I was shocked that this was at a church weekend get together. But I realized I needed to stop clutching my pearls about it and make sure I watched with her and talked about what I saw as good/bad. She was the only girl in the group that had not already seen the movie.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What movie is it? Teenage years is a very wide span of maturity and development, just like the year prior.

I'm probably going to say need to relax, as what constitutes PG/PG13 now is much more prudish that when I was a kid.

That said, your kid is going to MS next year, so you better start getting comfortable with a lot more discussion/topics that you are likely currently avoiding.

Thanks. These are all good points. I am aware that middle school is a year away, but kids will be close to a year older then, right? There’s a gap between 4th and 5th graders, and then 5th and 6th graders. There are definitely, movies I’d let my 5th grader watch, but would not have viewed in 3rd grade. So now I’m looking for the moving kine for a 5th grader.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It absolutely depends on the movie. I tend to me way more cautious about horror/violence/abuse, but consensual making out does not bother me.

So I've let my 10 year old watch the PG-13 Harry Potter movies. I also let her watch the new Barbie movie, despite it being pretty mature. The superhero movies are on a case by case basis. I also haven't let her watch Jurassic Park yet, though she wants to.

I’m the OP, and this is about what my DC has seen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You may not want to post the name of the movie because it will "out" you, but there is PG and there is PG. If you haven't already done so, check what Common Sense Media and similar sites say.

Common sense media says 13+ for this movie. For a comparison, they say 10+ for back to the future.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You may not want to post the name of the movie because it will "out" you, but there is PG and there is PG. If you haven't already done so, check what Common Sense Media and similar sites say.

Common sense media says 13+ for this movie. For a comparison, they say 10+ for back to the future.

Is this the OP? Why won’t you just name the movie?

[Anonymous]

What the hell is wrong with back to the Future?? My 6-year-old loved it. I don't understand why you're clutching your pearls.
So I guess in my estimation yeah your kid should be fine because an early elementary schooler should be able to watch back to the Future

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You may not want to post the name of the movie because it will "out" you, but there is PG and there is PG. If you haven't already done so, check what Common Sense Media and similar sites say.

Common sense media says 13+ for this movie. For a comparison, they say 10+ for back to the future.

Is this the OP? Why won’t you just name the movie?

Because she knows deep down she is trying to keep this poor child under a rock for as long as she can. And as soon as we hear the movie no one is going to support her views because likely our kids watched it at age 8

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What the hell is wrong with back to the Future?? My 6-year-old loved it. I don't understand why you're clutching your pearls.
So I guess in my estimation yeah your kid should be fine because an early elementary schooler should be able to watch back to the Future

My then 8th grader was allowed to watch Back to the Future in History class before break. She said most of the girls were disturbed by the scene where Marty's mother (Lorraine) is being assaulted by Biff? at the dance. I had forgotten that scene. She just didn't care about the movie any more after that.

Not sure what Commonsense media says though.