Movies - when I’m more cautious than others

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What the hell is wrong with back to the Future?? My 6-year-old loved it. I don't understand why you're clutching your pearls.
So I guess in my estimation yeah your kid should be fine because an early elementary schooler should be able to watch back to the Future

My then 8th grader was allowed to watch Back to the Future in History class before break. She said most of the girls were disturbed by the scene where Marty's mother (Lorraine) is being assaulted by Biff? at the dance. I had forgotten that scene. She just didn't care about the movie any more after that.

Not sure what Commonsense media says though.

Oh yeah, so your 6 year old didn't get what was happening in that scene, that's why they were fine.

[Anonymous]

American children are very protected from movies, it’s our strange prudish culture but then we embrace consumerism and allow young kids on tik tok. I don’t get it.

Are you not going to allow your kid to attend the party because of this? Are you going to call the parent and request a different movie? Pick your kid up early? All would be overreactions.

Just go with it. They likely won’t even watch the movie! Kids have the attention spans of peas.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:American children are very protected from movies, it’s our strange prudish culture but then we embrace consumerism and allow young kids on tik tok. I don’t get it.

Are you not going to allow your kid to attend the party because of this? Are you going to call the parent and request a different movie? Pick your kid up early? All would be overreactions.

Just go with it. They likely won’t even watch the movie! Kids have the attention spans of peas.

Your kid?

[Anonymous]

Back to the Future is basically a children's movie, with appeal to older people who grew up in the era of its setting.

Kids used to swarm the theatres watching R rated years ago. What has happened to people to be obsessing about movie ratings all of the sudden?

[Anonymous]

Let your kid go to the party. A PG-13 movie at age 10/11 is not the hill to die on in my opinion. I would be fine with a fifth/sixth grader watching Barbie, Legally Blonde, or Harriet. My second grader watched most of Harriet, and she had just finished fifth grade when Barbie came out. A PP was right about PG being the new G. I think PG-13 is turning into PG 10/11. Is the movie Mean Girls? I wouldn't play that movie if I was the party host, but most of the content will go over their heads. They will probably be too busy hanging out to focus on the movie.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our child is very sensitive to movies and at 12, still gets afraid.

If we knew the movie in advance and kid wanted to go, we’d watch movie before the party to preview it and so he won’t be surprised/be prepared for scenes.

OP, watch movie before with your kid. Discuss the PG-13 parts.

This is what we did, if the movie seemed problematic

I think this is what we will do.

[Anonymous]

He will probably be squicked out by any mushy stuff and either walk away or start chatting with friends.

I'd have a much bigger problem with watching violence than seeing some b**b.

[Anonymous]

Is your question whether or not to allow your kid to go to the party?

I would allow it, and be prepared to talk about the movie if you know or expect things that she might not be ready for.

I do think it's ok, in general, for you to steer what she watches at home or whenever you can. Common Sense Media is great, as others have said, for highlighting the trouble spots in a movie, either for discussion or to rule it out.

[Anonymous]

Depends on the movie but I would let my 11 yo go if it was PG13 for language or sexual themes, might decline for violence or fear. She doesn't want to see horror films either and would be fine with that breakdown. Sometimes it's more comfortable to say "my mom won't let me" than "I don't like this."

We also talk about how some movies aren't bad for kids to see, they're just not "for" a kid audience. Barbie, which she's seen and didn't really get, is in that category. She's not the audience.

[Anonymous]

What is the movie being shown?

[Anonymous]

I’m going to guess it’s Mean Girls. It seems to be the rage with tweens now. I would not be comfortable with this movie for my 11 year old. I think my 11 year old saw it at a friend’s house recently without me knowing and I have now caught her a few times using the word “Bee otch” which is directly from the movie. My child is not mature enough to understand we don’t go around quoting inappropriate lines from movies; therefore, we don’t allow anything but PG and under when we can.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m going to guess it’s Mean Girls. It seems to be the rage with tweens now. I would not be comfortable with this movie for my 11 year old. I think my 11 year old saw it at a friend’s house recently without me knowing and I have now caught her a few times using the word “Bee otch” which is directly from the movie. My child is not mature enough to understand we don’t go around quoting inappropriate lines from movies; therefore, we don’t allow anything but PG and under when we can.

If the worst thing you 11 year old does is say “bee otch,” I think you’re good 😂

[Anonymous]

When I was that age my mom didn't want me to watch Dirty Dancing. I managed to watch it anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m going to guess it’s Mean Girls. It seems to be the rage with tweens now. I would not be comfortable with this movie for my 11 year old. I think my 11 year old saw it at a friend’s house recently without me knowing and I have now caught her a few times using the word “Bee otch” which is directly from the movie. My child is not mature enough to understand we don’t go around quoting inappropriate lines from movies; therefore, we don’t allow anything but PG and under when we can.

Mine saw Mean Girls at 13 and I was glad she didn't watch it earlier. Even still there were some parts she basically covered her eyes and ears for. Her friend who was over was a little more mature and seemed okay.

Still at 13 I didn't let them see it at my house without confirming with the other kid's parent. A few parents of my kids' friend group are very conservative about the media they allow. Their kids may watch stuff anyway but not on my watch at my house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m going to guess it’s Mean Girls. It seems to be the rage with tweens now. I would not be comfortable with this movie for my 11 year old. I think my 11 year old saw it at a friend’s house recently without me knowing and I have now caught her a few times using the word “Bee otch” which is directly from the movie. My child is not mature enough to understand we don’t go around quoting inappropriate lines from movies; therefore, we don’t allow anything but PG and under when we can.

This could be a good opportunity to talk to your kid about some of the movie's themes such as bullying, underage drinking, etc.