PSA: Get off dating apps

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Anonymous wrote:Stop saying “young ladies.” They’re women. And it makes you sound like you’re 200 years old.

Can one not be both?

No.

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Anonymous wrote:Pickleball is for people who are too out of shape for tennis and too poor for golf.

I see all of these comparisons to tennis, but who was playing tennis? I have courts near my house and they were empty and now there are regular meetups to play pickleball. Pickleball is not my main exercise to stay in shape, but it is fun to play and meet people.

When I was younger, I would play pickup games downtown of softball or kickball. Nobody is going to get in shape playing kickball or softball, but that was not the point. And I don’t remember everyone constantly saying we should all be playing baseball instead.

[Anonymous]

Dating sites or so incredibly bad for dating. I'm finally giving up on them after two years and about 25 first dates. What a time waster. I've met better people in person. It really is a far better way to go about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stop saying “young ladies.” They’re women. And it makes you sound like you’re 200 years old.

meh, I'm OK with young ladies. Calling them women makes them sound matronly.

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Online date and I mutually agreed to just hang out and not date, and I started dating that guy's friend two years later. Now married to the friend of my online date.

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Anonymous wrote:My dad is a widower and he's met very nice women in golf and tennis leagues. I know he's surfed OLD sites but I think he likes meeting people the old fashioned way. It helps that he is very good looking, outgoing and a real gentleman. I don't ask him about his dating life but he stays very busy. FWIW - he has no interest in pickle ball! He says it's for out of shape old people who will soon tear an achilles.

An ignorant statement from an ignorant old guy. Over half of the professional PB players on the PPA tour were former ATP/WTA players. Even Scott Scheffler plays pickleball.

Yes, they got too old for serious tennis so they retired! A professional tournament last spring in Palm Springs had an Orthopedic Group as their lead sponsor. Pretty clever marketing on their part.

Orthopedics always advertise at sports. People get injured.

Go into an ortho surgeon office and half the patients in the waiting room are teen athletes. Not old people.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Stop saying “young ladies.” They’re women. And it makes you sound like you’re 200 years old.

meh, I'm OK with young ladies. Calling them women makes them sound matronly.

There's that DCUM misogyny. Let me guess, you'll be a "girl" even after you're wearing Depends and have had two hip replacements. God forbid you should ever be an adult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dating sites or so incredibly bad for dating. I'm finally giving up on them after two years and about 25 first dates. What a time waster. I've met better people in person. It really is a far better way to go about it.

Are you married yet? You say you've met better people in person but you still haven't found someone...?

I met my husband via online dating (over 15 years ago...) and I found that I just had to be really picky about who I was willing to go out with. I have a ton of friends who also met their spouses through OLD, again, many years ago. Maybe the landscape has changed, and I don't doubt that there are possibly more people on it, which makes being picky even more important. As someone who was working a full-time job and otherwise living a busy social life, which my husband was also doing, but about 10 miles away from me, we would have never crossed paths had it not been for Match.

[Anonymous]

Read The Verifiers. It’s a really good storyline and characters. Totally relevant to this discussion, I promise.

[Anonymous]

I tend to like smart, successful, busy women who are introverted or anxious or otherwise not likely to strike up a conversation at a supermarket, coffee shop, art gallery, pickleball court, etc. Dating apps have been good for meeting this kind of woman.

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I don’t know why everybody focuses on Pickleball. I mean, the advice seems to go to if you say just join whatever sport or activity you like, and he will meet people there with similar interest. It could be biking, hiking, activism or soccer or whatever.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Dating sites or so incredibly bad for dating. I'm finally giving up on them after two years and about 25 first dates. What a time waster. I've met better people in person. It really is a far better way to go about it.

Are you married yet? You say you've met better people in person but you still haven't found someone...?

I met my husband via online dating (over 15 years ago...) and I found that I just had to be really picky about who I was willing to go out with. I have a ton of friends who also met their spouses through OLD, again, many years ago. Maybe the landscape has changed, and I don't doubt that there are possibly more people on it, which makes being picky even more important. As someone who was working a full-time job and otherwise living a busy social life, which my husband was also doing, but about 10 miles away from me, we would have never crossed paths had it not been for Match.

Nowadays the algorithm of the dating sites with the goal for people to see unsuitable matches. That way they keep coming back. Very disconcerting. I, too, met my husband online 20 years ago. All users had to do a psychological test and were recommended truly compatible people based on their psychological profiles. Cheating on the test was not possible.