Husband’s Work Wives. Why?

Anonymous
OP, I don’t know if your husband has cheated or not, but my guess is he’s fishing with these women and absolutely would cheat if one took the bait and gave him the chance.
Anonymous
I have several guys at work I am close to, I think they would be interested in more if I were.

I have never had a male friend that wasn’t interested in something more.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I have several guys at work I am close to, I think they would be interested in more if I were.

I have never had a male friend that wasn’t interested in something more.


Because that is our nature. It’s nearly impossible for a heterosexual man to be “just friends” with a woman.
Anonymous
[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’ve had two “work husbands”. I’ve also had a work wife (I’m a wild girl 😜).

But. With my work husbands, we never communicated OUTSIDE of the office/official work stuff. Like ever. For one of them, I didn’t have any personal contact info, and the other, we were connections on LinkedIn. That’s it.

OP - your husband is having emotional affairs, and trying to cloak them as a work relationship. Do these women even know he is so secretive with you about them?[/quote]

Wait, so it was wrong to text my work wife a picture of the Pacific ocean when I was dropping my daughter at college? Seriously? Are you Mike Pence?[/quote]

Are you feeling guilty or something? I said what *I* did. Not what I think others should do.

But. [b]Why did you feel the need to text a picture to a co-worker? Why couldn’t it wait until you got back to work?[/b] Sit down and think about why you had to text this woman right at that moment, and whether it’s truly appropriate.[/quote]

Because she is my friend and I care about her and she's never seen the Pacific. What an odd question.[/quote]

This is in inappropriate, and you don’t realize it OR you know, and do it anyway. There is no reason it couldn’t wait until you saw her again.

THINK about your motives for sending this picture, to this specific person, at this specific time. It’s one thing to recap your trip at work next time you see her and say hey, let me send you this great pic I took.

It’s completely different to be on a personal trip, away from work, and feel the need to send your coworker a picture AT THAT MOMENT.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’ve had two “work husbands”. I’ve also had a work wife (I’m a wild girl 😜).

But. With my work husbands, we never communicated OUTSIDE of the office/official work stuff. Like ever. For one of them, I didn’t have any personal contact info, and the other, we were connections on LinkedIn. That’s it.

OP - your husband is having emotional affairs, and trying to cloak them as a work relationship. Do these women even know he is so secretive with you about them?


Wait, so it was wrong to text my work wife a picture of the Pacific ocean when I was dropping my daughter at college? Seriously? Are you Mike Pence?


Are you feeling guilty or something? I said what *I* did. Not what I think others should do.

But. Why did you feel the need to text a picture to a co-worker? Why couldn’t it wait until you got back to work? Sit down and think about why you had to text this woman right at that moment, and whether it’s truly appropriate.


Because she is my friend and I care about her and she's never seen the Pacific. What an odd question.


So, in your world, married men can't have female friends?

You are the weird one here.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’ve had two “work husbands”. I’ve also had a work wife (I’m a wild girl 😜).

But. With my work husbands, we never communicated OUTSIDE of the office/official work stuff. Like ever. For one of them, I didn’t have any personal contact info, and the other, we were connections on LinkedIn. That’s it.

OP - your husband is having emotional affairs, and trying to cloak them as a work relationship. Do these women even know he is so secretive with you about them?


Wait, so it was wrong to text my work wife a picture of the Pacific ocean when I was dropping my daughter at college? Seriously? Are you Mike Pence?


Are you feeling guilty or something? I said what *I* did. Not what I think others should do.

But. Why did you feel the need to text a picture to a co-worker? Why couldn’t it wait until you got back to work? Sit down and think about why you had to text this woman right at that moment, and whether it’s truly appropriate.


Because she is my friend and I care about her and she's never seen the Pacific. What an odd question.


So, in your world, married men can't have female friends?

You are the weird one here.


It is the fact that you couldn’t wait to get back to work to show the picture. You are obviously thinking about her on your trip.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’ve had two “work husbands”. I’ve also had a work wife (I’m a wild girl 😜).

But. With my work husbands, we never communicated OUTSIDE of the office/official work stuff. Like ever. For one of them, I didn’t have any personal contact info, and the other, we were connections on LinkedIn. That’s it.

OP - your husband is having emotional affairs, and trying to cloak them as a work relationship. Do these women even know he is so secretive with you about them?


Wait, so it was wrong to text my work wife a picture of the Pacific ocean when I was dropping my daughter at college? Seriously? Are you Mike Pence?


Are you feeling guilty or something? I said what *I* did. Not what I think others should do.

But. Why did you feel the need to text a picture to a co-worker? Why couldn’t it wait until you got back to work? Sit down and think about why you had to text this woman right at that moment, and whether it’s truly appropriate.


Because she is my friend and I care about her and she's never seen the Pacific. What an odd question.


So, in your world, married men can't have female friends?

You are the weird one here.


They can, if the man knows how to behave respectfully. However this rarely happens unless the man is friend’s with the husband, and even then…
Anonymous
I think there is confusion about what a work wife/husband is, and it's not someone you flirt with/have an affair with. I've had one or two of these and it was always just something I worked really well with and liked as a person and would occasionally grab lunch or coffee with. Never any "feelings" there.
Anonymous
A lot of men feel a deeply rooted insecurity form childhood and they play it out by putting chips on the table. With therapy, if he wants to, he can go all in on you. Wishing you and your family the best of luck.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’ve had two “work husbands”. I’ve also had a work wife (I’m a wild girl 😜).

But. With my work husbands, we never communicated OUTSIDE of the office/official work stuff. Like ever. For one of them, I didn’t have any personal contact info, and the other, we were connections on LinkedIn. That’s it.

OP - your husband is having emotional affairs, and trying to cloak them as a work relationship. Do these women even know he is so secretive with you about them?


Wait, so it was wrong to text my work wife a picture of the Pacific ocean when I was dropping my daughter at college? Seriously? Are you Mike Pence?


Are you feeling guilty or something? I said what *I* did. Not what I think others should do.

But. Why did you feel the need to text a picture to a co-worker? Why couldn’t it wait until you got back to work? Sit down and think about why you had to text this woman right at that moment, and whether it’s truly appropriate.


Because she is my friend and I care about her and she's never seen the Pacific. What an odd question.


So, in your world, married men can't have female friends?

You are the weird one here.


It is the fact that you couldn’t wait to get back to work to show the picture. You are obviously thinking about her on your trip.


Why would he wait until he's back? Why not right then when he is standing in front of the ocean????

Is this just you being jealous he talks to another woman? You need to grow up. Or be prettier than the other woman.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’ve had two “work husbands”. I’ve also had a work wife (I’m a wild girl 😜).

But. With my work husbands, we never communicated OUTSIDE of the office/official work stuff. Like ever. For one of them, I didn’t have any personal contact info, and the other, we were connections on LinkedIn. That’s it.

OP - your husband is having emotional affairs, and trying to cloak them as a work relationship. Do these women even know he is so secretive with you about them?


Wait, so it was wrong to text my work wife a picture of the Pacific ocean when I was dropping my daughter at college? Seriously? Are you Mike Pence?


Are you feeling guilty or something? I said what *I* did. Not what I think others should do.

But. Why did you feel the need to text a picture to a co-worker? Why couldn’t it wait until you got back to work? Sit down and think about why you had to text this woman right at that moment, and whether it’s truly appropriate.


Because she is my friend and I care about her and she's never seen the Pacific. What an odd question.


So… how come you care for her so much? And even of the Coworkers one cares about - how do you know what oceans they’ve seen or not?

I have many very close best friends and I don’t know what water bodies are important to them.

You’re fibbing to yourself to make it feel okay. I’ve got one of those too.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’ve had two “work husbands”. I’ve also had a work wife (I’m a wild girl 😜).

But. With my work husbands, we never communicated OUTSIDE of the office/official work stuff. Like ever. For one of them, I didn’t have any personal contact info, and the other, we were connections on LinkedIn. That’s it.

OP - your husband is having emotional affairs, and trying to cloak them as a work relationship. Do these women even know he is so secretive with you about them?


Wait, so it was wrong to text my work wife a picture of the Pacific ocean when I was dropping my daughter at college? Seriously? Are you Mike Pence?


Are you feeling guilty or something? I said what *I* did. Not what I think others should do.

But. Why did you feel the need to text a picture to a co-worker? Why couldn’t it wait until you got back to work? Sit down and think about why you had to text this woman right at that moment, and whether it’s truly appropriate.


Because she is my friend and I care about her and she's never seen the Pacific. What an odd question.


So, in your world, married men can't have female friends?

You are the weird one here.


It is the fact that you couldn’t wait to get back to work to show the picture. You are obviously thinking about her on your trip.


Why would he wait until he's back? Why not right then when he is standing in front of the ocean????

Is this just you being jealous he talks to another woman? You need to grow up. Or be prettier than the other woman.


Lol “you’re jealous and you need to grow up!”

Also:

“You’re not pretty enough!”

Pick a lane.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’ve had two “work husbands”. I’ve also had a work wife (I’m a wild girl 😜).

But. With my work husbands, we never communicated OUTSIDE of the office/official work stuff. Like ever. For one of them, I didn’t have any personal contact info, and the other, we were connections on LinkedIn. That’s it.

OP - your husband is having emotional affairs, and trying to cloak them as a work relationship. Do these women even know he is so secretive with you about them?


Wait, so it was wrong to text my work wife a picture of the Pacific ocean when I was dropping my daughter at college? Seriously? Are you Mike Pence?


Are you feeling guilty or something? I said what *I* did. Not what I think others should do.

But. Why did you feel the need to text a picture to a co-worker? Why couldn’t it wait until you got back to work? Sit down and think about why you had to text this woman right at that moment, and whether it’s truly appropriate.


Because she is my friend and I care about her and she's never seen the Pacific. What an odd question.


So, in your world, married men can't have female friends?

You are the weird one here.


Ha, yes. Those are your only two choices. Sharing curated nature moments, just for her because you “care about her” and know her geographic history, or never having any female friends. Ever!

It’s called an appropriate middle ground. Try it.

Keeping lines blurry allows all kinds of interpretations and possibilities. But that’s really the point, isn’t it?

Anonymous
Woah.

* Jilted and angry alert!
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’ve had two “work husbands”. I’ve also had a work wife (I’m a wild girl 😜).

But. With my work husbands, we never communicated OUTSIDE of the office/official work stuff. Like ever. For one of them, I didn’t have any personal contact info, and the other, we were connections on LinkedIn. That’s it.

OP - your husband is having emotional affairs, and trying to cloak them as a work relationship. Do these women even know he is so secretive with you about them?


Wait, so it was wrong to text my work wife a picture of the Pacific ocean when I was dropping my daughter at college? Seriously? Are you Mike Pence?


Are you feeling guilty or something? I said what *I* did. Not what I think others should do.

But. Why did you feel the need to text a picture to a co-worker? Why couldn’t it wait until you got back to work? Sit down and think about why you had to text this woman right at that moment, and whether it’s truly appropriate.


Because she is my friend and I care about her and she's never seen the Pacific. What an odd question.


So, in your world, married men can't have female friends?

You are the weird one here.


It is the fact that you couldn’t wait to get back to work to show the picture. You are obviously thinking about her on your trip.


Why would he wait until he's back? Why not right then when he is standing in front of the ocean????

Is this just you being jealous he talks to another woman? You need to grow up. Or be prettier than the other woman.


lol I had an affair with a coworker and this is how it started
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