How to tell friend I don’t want him to walk me home?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you can only stand two hours with this person, then at an hour and 40 min in I would say I had to go. Then he can walk you home before you are sick of him. Safety first!

My neighborhood is not unsafe. As a person of color he is more likely to have an unpleasant encounter than I am.

Um. I think this means your neighborhood is not as safe as you seem to think it is. Why do you live with a bunch of racists?

Do you live in a neighborhood with people? Then you live with a bunch of racists.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why assume chauvinism or chivalry? May be he is just lonely and doesn't mind extra walk if it comes with a one on one human connection.

OP doesn't need to provide that connection.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t care how nice a neighborhood you live in but if it’s after dark let him walk you home. If we have a female neighbor over my husband will always walk her home even if it’s only a couple of streets away. Yes, women are independent and can take care of themselves but…….

Np, I agree with this. Maybe because I am a late Gen Xer, but I like chivalry from men-- even men who are just friends. I think it's super sweet that he cares about your safety.

I am also late gen x and think the opposite. It isn't chivalry it is being pushy

I’m also a late Gen X woman and think whether it is sweet or pushy depends on the context. If OP’s responses to this point have been along the lines of “oh, you don’t have to do that,” he might not realize she doesn’t want him to walk her home. If she’s been clear (e.g. “no I would really rather walk alone”), then he’s being pushy.