How to tell friend I don’t want him to walk me home?

[Anonymous]

I have a friend whose company I enjoy but after a couple of hours he gets a bit much. We live in the same neighborhood but opposite directions. Often when we are hanging out, he will walk me home. I tell him it’s not necessary, but he insists. I really would much rather walk home myself and unwind (introvert here). But I know he’s doing it to be kind/thinking of my safety.

Is there any way I can tell him politely that I want to walk home myself, in a way that he will actually listen and respect it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend whose company I enjoy but after a couple of hours he gets a bit much. We live in the same neighborhood but opposite directions. Often when we are hanging out, he will walk me home. I tell him it’s not necessary, but he insists. I really would much rather walk home myself and unwind (introvert here). But I know he’s doing it to be kind/thinking of my safety.

Is there any way I can tell him politely that I want to walk home myself, in a way that he will actually listen and respect it?

Does hanging out mean having sex ?

[Anonymous]

Tell him your stomachs bothering you and just want to be left alone to let it out.

[Anonymous]

Is he walking you home for safety reasons? He probably feels responsible.

“I would like to walk home alone to decompress.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend whose company I enjoy but after a couple of hours he gets a bit much. We live in the same neighborhood but opposite directions. Often when we are hanging out, he will walk me home. I tell him it’s not necessary, but he insists. I really would much rather walk home myself and unwind (introvert here). But I know he’s doing it to be kind/thinking of my safety.

Is there any way I can tell him politely that I want to walk home myself, in a way that he will actually listen and respect it?

Does hanging out mean having sex ?

No, it’s usually a trivia night or grabbing drinks or dinner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is he walking you home for safety reasons? He probably feels responsible.

“I would like to walk home alone to decompress.”

OP here. So you don’t think that’s rude? It’s okay to just say that?

[Anonymous]

Use your words Op. Practice being an adult.
"I really would much rather walk home myself."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is he walking you home for safety reasons? He probably feels responsible.

“I would like to walk home alone to decompress.”

OP here. So you don’t think that’s rude? It’s okay to just say that?

I do not think that is rude. IRL I would make it a little more flowery but the message is the same.

[Anonymous]

"Thanks for the offer, I appreciate it, but I really enjoy having a little time to myself before getting home."

[Anonymous]

That's very kind of you, but I'm going to go on my own.

Really not necessary, I'd prefer to take a solo walk this time.

I enjoy the solitude of walking alone.

[Anonymous]

Oh, thanks so much! I'm going to sneak in a call to (XYZ) on my way home. See you next week!

[Anonymous]

I don’t care how nice a neighborhood you live in but if it’s after dark let him walk you home. If we have a female neighbor over my husband will always walk her home even if it’s only a couple of streets away. Yes, women are independent and can take care of themselves but…….

[Anonymous]

I think for safety purposes you should be glad someone's willing to walk you home. But if you are that uncomfortable just say "Thanks for the offer, but I'm going to walk home by myself to decompress. I'll text you when I'm inside - thanks again!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's very kind of you, but I'm going to go on my own.

Really not necessary, I'd prefer to take a solo walk this time.

I enjoy the solitude of walking alone.

These are nice, I think I can use one of these.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh, thanks so much! I'm going to sneak in a call to (XYZ) on my way home. See you next week!

This is smart as well!