How to tell friend I don’t want him to walk me home?

[Anonymous]

Is this happening at 8 PM or 2 AM? If he is that concerned with your safety, send him a quick text when you are safe within your home.

[Anonymous]

You don’t watch Dateline huh? I hope you aren’t the life of the party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you grow up in Mayberry? You shouldn't walk alone at night. It's not safe. That's why he is offering and he is right to do so. If you dont want him walking you home, take an uber.

OP here. Our neighborhood is incredibly safe and well-populated on the street, even at night. We are talking 10 pm, not 2 am. It's usually a 10-15 minute walk, taking an Uber would be wasteful and lazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You don’t watch Dateline huh? I hope you aren’t the life of the party.

I have no idea what this means.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you grow up in Mayberry? You shouldn't walk alone at night. It's not safe. That's why he is offering and he is right to do so. If you dont want him walking you home, take an uber.

OP here. Our neighborhood is incredibly safe and well-populated on the street, even at night. We are talking 10 pm, not 2 am. It's usually a 10-15 minute walk, taking an Uber would be wasteful and lazy.

It’s still not a good idea to walk alone at night.

But maybe you are having an instinct about this guy and should listen to it. Maybe HES not safe. Maybe you don’t like him and should stop hanging out with him

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you grow up in Mayberry? You shouldn't walk alone at night. It's not safe. That's why he is offering and he is right to do so. If you dont want him walking you home, take an uber.

OP here. Our neighborhood is incredibly safe and well-populated on the street, even at night. We are talking 10 pm, not 2 am. It's usually a 10-15 minute walk, taking an Uber would be wasteful and lazy.

It’s still not a good idea to walk alone at night.

But maybe you are having an instinct about this guy and should listen to it. Maybe HES not safe. Maybe you don’t like him and should stop hanging out with him

OP here. Interesting perspective, but incorrect on both counts. This is not a safety issue.

[Anonymous]

Its very kind of him, be respectful with words and tone of how you say no. However, its perfectly fine to decline the offer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t care how nice a neighborhood you live in but if it’s after dark let him walk you home. If we have a female neighbor over my husband will always walk her home even if it’s only a couple of streets away. Yes, women are independent and can take care of themselves but…….

Sorry but you don't get to decide for other adults.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Its very kind of him, be respectful with words and tone of how you say no. However, its perfectly fine to decline the offer.

Ugh I haye that women aleays have to bend over backwards when communication.

No, Thank you should be enough

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You don’t watch Dateline huh? I hope you aren’t the life of the party.

Sensationalism and fear sells

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t care how nice a neighborhood you live in but if it’s after dark let him walk you home. If we have a female neighbor over my husband will always walk her home even if it’s only a couple of streets away. Yes, women are independent and can take care of themselves but…….

Np, I agree with this. Maybe because I am a late Gen Xer, but I like chivalry from men-- even men who are just friends. I think it's super sweet that he cares about your safety.

I am also late gen x and think the opposite. It isn't chivalry it is being pushy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Thanks for the offer, I appreciate it, but I really enjoy having a little time to myself before getting home."

I like this one best.

Smile after you say it, give him a hug if that’s something you usually do, and then start walking. Hesitating will make it awkward.

Why does a man need a hug? No, hugs

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Also don’t walk towards your home while he is with you. Stand still facing him to say good bye. Only start moving once he has agreed to separate.

This seems kind of aggressive.

How?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You don’t watch Dateline huh? I hope you aren’t the life of the party.

Maybe you watch too much Dateline?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t care how nice a neighborhood you live in but if it’s after dark let him walk you home. If we have a female neighbor over my husband will always walk her home even if it’s only a couple of streets away. Yes, women are independent and can take care of themselves but…….

Np, I agree with this. Maybe because I am a late Gen Xer, but I like chivalry from men-- even men who are just friends. I think it's super sweet that he cares about your safety.

It is sweet, and yet, she can acknowledge that while still politely declining the unnecessary effort.