Don't send your kids to private school

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. You sound like a total loser + ingrate OP. Anyone who was rich enough to apply to Dalton + NCS should stop complaining.

This is why I can't stand poor people. Wow, I'm sooo privileged to attend miserable private schools that ruined my childhood.

And social development is significantly more valuable than learning to be deferential, always following instructions, & wasting your life away studying for exams. And the cherry on top is hearing about how "privileged" you are, how "grateful" you NEED to be, how you are soo much more fortunate than everyone else (and are a selfish, stuck up, entitled rich kid). Does wonders for the self esteem

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you wish your parents had made different decisions. Which is part of being human. It also sounds like you wish your life had gone different and are blaming your high school experience and your parents choices, which is not uncommon but fairly immature and limited perspective.

Your parents made the best choices they could for you, and you are free to make different ones for your kids. Be aware that they’ll likely still blame you for their dissatisfaction (and everyone has some) if that’s what you model.

Quite frankly, it also sounds like you have no appreciation for the fact you’ve lived a very privileged life. Perhaps consider whatever it takes to gain some perspective - therapy, volunteering, whatever works for you.

How do you know those were the best choices? By the price tag?

By the fact that college was a breeze compared to those who went to public school.

yes, because obviously straight As are the most important thing in the universe & the key to success. All the billionaire college dropouts are a testament to this fact

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow. You sound like a total loser + ingrate OP. Anyone who was rich enough to apply to Dalton + NCS should stop complaining.

This is why I can't stand poor people. Wow, I'm sooo privileged to attend miserable private schools that ruined my childhood.

And social development is significantly more valuable than learning to be deferential, always following instructions, & wasting your life away studying for exams. And the cherry on top is hearing about how "privileged" you are, how "grateful" you NEED to be, how you are soo much more fortunate than everyone else (and are a selfish, stuck up, entitled rich kid). Does wonders for the self esteem

Troll

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow. You sound like a total loser + ingrate OP. Anyone who was rich enough to apply to Dalton + NCS should stop complaining.

This is why I can't stand poor people. Wow, I'm sooo privileged to attend miserable private schools that ruined my childhood.

And social development is significantly more valuable than learning to be deferential, always following instructions, & wasting your life away studying for exams. And the cherry on top is hearing about how "privileged" you are, how "grateful" you NEED to be, how you are soo much more fortunate than everyone else (and are a selfish, stuck up, entitled rich kid). Does wonders for the self esteem

But you are all those things, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow. You sound like a total loser + ingrate OP. Anyone who was rich enough to apply to Dalton + NCS should stop complaining.

This is why I can't stand poor people. Wow, I'm sooo privileged to attend miserable private schools that ruined my childhood.

And social development is significantly more valuable than learning to be deferential, always following instructions, & wasting your life away studying for exams. And the cherry on top is hearing about how "privileged" you are, how "grateful" you NEED to be, how you are soo much more fortunate than everyone else (and are a selfish, stuck up, entitled rich kid). Does wonders for the self esteem

Troll

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No, unfortunately this person fits the NCS mold.

[Anonymous]

OP, what if you had attended private school up until high school, and then went to public school for high school? Do you think that would have been the best of both worlds?

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You’re being trolled by a high school student

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I went to 'top' private schools and hated it so much. I always wanted to attend public school. I wish my parents invested the 50k year tuition (or just gave it to me) instead.

Public school = inflated gpas, easy classes, less workload, bigger campuses, and you actually get to choose your classes.

You know how maddening it is to have everyone tell us how "easy" we have it and how "privileged" we are when high school was miserable. I had to work 10x harder to get a mediocre GPA. Scored in the 97th percentile on my SAT and it simply wasn't good enough with such an awful GPA.

I attended a top 20 university that felt 100x less stressful than high school. Graduated summa cum laude with barely any effort. Meanwhile, there were countless public school students who entered university with absurd 4.5 GPAs, mediocre SAT scores, and struggled at the university level.

I even had roommates who FAILED classes when they were 'superstars' at their public high schools. And public school students all think they're geniuses because like 90 percent of them have at least a 4.0 GPA. Meanwhile, maybe 2 percent of students at private high school have a 4.0.

I attended the Dalton school in New York and National Cathedral School in DC. And only a handful of girls went to Ivys btw (my brother attended St Albans and more boys were accepted, but not many). Although my brother did go on to attend an Ivy league law school. Even with SAT scores above the 97th percentile, we STILL weren't competitive enough for the top 10 universities. Admittedly, I wasn't the most dedicated student back then, but I guarantee I would have had a 4.0 at public school with the same amount of effort.

If I have kids in the future (I'm still in my 20s), then I will never send them to private school. The education is not even superior, they just force more work on you. A few teachers were bitter weirdos who constantly guilt-tripped us and made us feel like trash for having wealthy parents & being "privileged". They would literally bring up their teacher salaries in front of us and tell us how 'lucky' we were constantly. What a lovely environment.

Honestly, the best plan is to send your kid to public school (for less stress, more choice, and an inflated GPA). Just get them an SAT tutor on the side. Then invest the 50-60k you'd spend a year. It's the perfect combo.

And this is why we send our kids to a prep school.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, what if you had attended private school up until high school, and then went to public school for high school? Do you think that would have been the best of both worlds?

I would like to know this too. OP - what are your thoughts on K-8 private to lay a solid foundation and then public HS where hopefully you have an advantage?

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Anonymous wrote:That fancy education didn’t teach you to write in any logical way. So you knew lots of kids from public schools who were unprepared for college, failing classes left and right, but you still think that’s the preferable route for your own kids? And you say the private school education isn’t even superior, but yet you and your private school peers were comparably much better prepared for college? What am I missing?

Lol 😂
Private education in a religious private is not education. It’s indoctrination. Probed by Maga

I did not know Sidwell and NCS were MAGA indoctrination schools. Thanks for the info!

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Your attitude towards public school students matches that of the many private school students I went to college and law school with--and mopped the floor with. Guess my public school education prepared me well, despite being so darn easy.

You are arrogant, entitled, and ignorant.

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Anonymous wrote:OP I found this really interesting. All the other commenters are trying to justify their own decisions and sniping at you. A kid should have a childhood, not a grind. This made me think. Thank you.

I hope it made you think that OP is an insufferable snob. You can be against a grind without disparaging everyone who went to public school.

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I'm sorry you had such a bad experience. It makes complete sense why your experience would inform what you decide for your future children.

I also went to competitive private schools and college was also extreme easy as a result. I decided to send my children to private school, but I don't at all judge people who don't want that for their children.

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OP = spoiled brat.

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Wow, thanks expert! Obviously, you're bitter. Can you not afford private school or did your kids not get in? A sample of one is laughable.