Dating in 50s post divorce

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Anonymous wrote:What has your experience been?

I'll tell you! My experience has been wonderful because I'm not doing it!

I'm 53, divorce, I have amazing kids, both adults and minor, I still have a parent, I have a full-time job, I volunteer at church, I have a very full life. And dating is not a part of it. And I'm so happy about that! I do what I want when I want and with whom I want. I am never lonely.

There is zero upside to dating for me.

You must have a really good vibrator.

Hi I’m a woman and tend to agree that sometimes an enjoyable evening with vibrator is far more attractive than a boring date

I'm sure most guys would agree with this as well. I certainly do. Except most wouldn't use any toys. But some would

Funny. The last man I dated was such a catch on paper. Very tall, European, successful. But he showed up with sex toys and wanted to be pegged constantly. I’d never heard the term “bussy” before, and I wish I could erase it and him from my memory. It’s weird out there ladies! FWIW I think people with kinks that predominate their sex lives should disclose that up front.

He had butt toys with him on the first date!>?

No. All of this is a fairy tale written by a fat naked guy named Ralph in Cleveland.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:1. They are all broke and/or cheap for various reasons
2. Lots of mental illness, addiction, alcohol, codependency, recovery
3. Children who are “off”/dealbreakers
4. Any moneyed ones were divorced (maybe more than once) for important reasons they do not acknowledge
5. Even the good ones will require a major compromise or two.

Money, looks, good personality: pick two.

Lol so true. I gave up money because I make my own.

Guy here. Glad to hear this. I'd like to think I'm decent looking with a decent personality. But I'm a teacher.

I don't have money problems. I just don't casually make $400K like most people on here claim to.

Where would I meet you? I would love to date a teacher. (One who doesn't have money problems.)

Post a throwaway email address. Let's try to get coffee. (I'm not in the DMV though...)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What has your experience been?

I'll tell you! My experience has been wonderful because I'm not doing it!

I'm 53, divorce, I have amazing kids, both adults and minor, I still have a parent, I have a full-time job, I volunteer at church, I have a very full life. And dating is not a part of it. And I'm so happy about that! I do what I want when I want and with whom I want. I am never lonely.

There is zero upside to dating for me.

You must have a really good vibrator.

Hi I’m a woman and tend to agree that sometimes an enjoyable evening with vibrator is far more attractive than a boring date

I'm sure most guys would agree with this as well. I certainly do. Except most wouldn't use any toys. But some would

Funny. The last man I dated was such a catch on paper. Very tall, European, successful. But he showed up with sex toys and wanted to be pegged constantly. I’d never heard the term “bussy” before, and I wish I could erase it and him from my memory. It’s weird out there ladies! FWIW I think people with kinks that predominate their sex lives should disclose that up front.

I had to google that.

+1

bussy

same but I wish I didn't

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Married to the same man for 30 years, we're happy and going strong, I'm 56 and cannot imagine being back "out there" willingly trying to compete against women half my age for the attention of men my age, and thinking my money and job are what they would value in a woman. Men value youth, beauty, and fertility. If my marriage were over tomorrow, I would call it a day and focus on my kids, and hobbies. No way I'm going to pretend I still have "it". Those days are over. I would be happy, but realistic about where I am in life.

aw, depressing. what if you live to 120-130 and knew that it was a real possibility?

Men also age. I’ve met a lot of 40s-50s men on OLD who I personally don’t want on board as a mid 40s woman. Health issues, character flaws, financial struggles - you keep going. I can’t imagine a 20-30 woman would want them.

If a man wants to be partnered he will understand where he is in life, too, and will choose accordingly.

Funny enough I am divorced and I have met quite a few women in their 40s with health issues, character flaws and just not kept together. The women in their 30s are more beautiful, sexier and more pleasant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Married to the same man for 30 years, we're happy and going strong, I'm 56 and cannot imagine being back "out there" willingly trying to compete against women half my age for the attention of men my age, and thinking my money and job are what they would value in a woman. Men value youth, beauty, and fertility. If my marriage were over tomorrow, I would call it a day and focus on my kids, and hobbies. No way I'm going to pretend I still have "it". Those days are over. I would be happy, but realistic about where I am in life.

aw, depressing. what if you live to 120-130 and knew that it was a real possibility?

Men also age. I’ve met a lot of 40s-50s men on OLD who I personally don’t want on board as a mid 40s woman. Health issues, character flaws, financial struggles - you keep going. I can’t imagine a 20-30 woman would want them.

If a man wants to be partnered he will understand where he is in life, too, and will choose accordingly.

Funny enough I am divorced and I have met quite a few women in their 40s with health issues, character flaws and just not kept together. The women in their 30s are more beautiful, sexier and more pleasant.

Moderate the pills so that you don’t die trying to uh “make love” to yourself too often.

No one wants you and you are decidedly hurt by that. On this, women of all ages agree, and you know it. Women with options in their 30s see your marital and other failures quite clearly, don’t get things twisted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1. They are all broke and/or cheap for various reasons
2. Lots of mental illness, addiction, alcohol, codependency, recovery
3. Children who are “off”/dealbreakers
4. Any moneyed ones were divorced (maybe more than once) for important reasons they do not acknowledge
5. Even the good ones will require a major compromise or two.

Money, looks, good personality: pick two.

Early 40s and while I could be fine on my own now I like sex and worry that if I let it go into the next decade without picking someone the pickings will get really slim.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1. They are all broke and/or cheap for various reasons
2. Lots of mental illness, addiction, alcohol, codependency, recovery
3. Children who are “off”/dealbreakers
4. Any moneyed ones were divorced (maybe more than once) for important reasons they do not acknowledge
5. Even the good ones will require a major compromise or two.

Money, looks, good personality: pick two.

Early 40s and while I could be fine on my own now I like sex and worry that if I let it go into the next decade without picking someone the pickings will get really slim.

They are already slim by early 40s. Get crackling. Why are you waiting until it’s only leftovers and misfit toys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What has your experience been?

I'll tell you! My experience has been wonderful because I'm not doing it!

I'm 53, divorce, I have amazing kids, both adults and minor, I still have a parent, I have a full-time job, I volunteer at church, I have a very full life. And dating is not a part of it. And I'm so happy about that! I do what I want when I want and with whom I want. I am never lonely.

There is zero upside to dating for me.

You must have a really good vibrator.

Hi I’m a woman and tend to agree that sometimes an enjoyable evening with vibrator is far more attractive than a boring date

I'm sure most guys would agree with this as well. I certainly do. Except most wouldn't use any toys. But some would

Funny. The last man I dated was such a catch on paper. Very tall, European, successful. But he showed up with sex toys and wanted to be pegged constantly. I’d never heard the term “bussy” before, and I wish I could erase it and him from my memory. It’s weird out there ladies! FWIW I think people with kinks that predominate their sex lives should disclose that up front.

He had butt toys with him on the first date!>?

No. All of this is a fairy tale written by a fat naked guy named Ralph in Cleveland.

No, it’s real and it was a nightmare. The worst part was that it all happened so strangely over a matter of weeks that I kept trying to be “open minded”- ha! Awful experience, made me sad. He should have been on fetlife or Feeld- not bumble

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Married to the same man for 30 years, we're happy and going strong, I'm 56 and cannot imagine being back "out there" willingly trying to compete against women half my age for the attention of men my age, and thinking my money and job are what they would value in a woman. Men value youth, beauty, and fertility. If my marriage were over tomorrow, I would call it a day and focus on my kids, and hobbies. No way I'm going to pretend I still have "it". Those days are over. I would be happy, but realistic about where I am in life.

aw, depressing. what if you live to 120-130 and knew that it was a real possibility?

Men also age. I’ve met a lot of 40s-50s men on OLD who I personally don’t want on board as a mid 40s woman. Health issues, character flaws, financial struggles - you keep going. I can’t imagine a 20-30 woman would want them.

If a man wants to be partnered he will understand where he is in life, too, and will choose accordingly.

Funny enough I am divorced and I have met quite a few women in their 40s with health issues, character flaws and just not kept together. The women in their 30s are more beautiful, sexier and more pleasant.

Moderate the pills so that you don’t die trying to uh “make love” to yourself too often.

No one wants you and you are decidedly hurt by that. On this, women of all ages agree, and you know it. Women with options in their 30s see your marital and other failures quite clearly, don’t get things twisted.

Bruh this one def got triggered lol.

[Anonymous]

Early 40s and while I could be fine on my own now I like sex and worry that if I let it go into the next decade without picking someone the pickings will get really slim.

They are already slim by early 40s. Get crackling. Why are you waiting until it’s only leftovers and misfit toys.

There's no need to get "crackling" too fast. The dating competition you will face in your mid-40s and beyond are also leftovers and misfit toys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Early 40s and while I could be fine on my own now I like sex and worry that if I let it go into the next decade without picking someone the pickings will get really slim.

They are already slim by early 40s. Get crackling. Why are you waiting until it’s only leftovers and misfit toys.

There's no need to get "crackling" too fast. The dating competition you will face in your mid-40s and beyond are also leftovers and misfit toys.

Cool how someone calls “leftovers” 25-30% of US population. How do you know the “singles” part is the worst relative “coupled”? Maybe these are just those who are completely independent and fine on their own and don’t rush to re-partner

[Anonymous]

Cool how someone calls “leftovers” 25-30% of US population. How do you know the “singles” part is the worst relative “coupled”? Maybe these are just those who are completely independent and fine on their own and don’t rush to re-partner.

Cool how fast you responded to this post and not the post that proceeded it (i.e., the post at 8/22/2024 21:26). Why did you not respond to that post when the poster called 25-30% of the population leftovers?