Dating in 50s post divorce

[Anonymous]

What has your experience been?

[Anonymous]

1. They are all broke and/or cheap for various reasons
2. Lots of mental illness, addiction, alcohol, codependency, recovery
3. Children who are “off”/dealbreakers
4. Any moneyed ones were divorced (maybe more than once) for important reasons they do not acknowledge
5. Even the good ones will require a major compromise or two.

Money, looks, good personality: pick two.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1. They are all broke and/or cheap for various reasons
2. Lots of mental illness, addiction, alcohol, codependency, recovery
3. Children who are “off”/dealbreakers
4. Any moneyed ones were divorced (maybe more than once) for important reasons they do not acknowledge
5. Even the good ones will require a major compromise or two.

Money, looks, good personality: pick two.

Lol so true. I gave up money because I make my own.

[Anonymous]

It can be fun if you dont take it too seriously.

[Anonymous]

It’s adult Disneyland for the guys

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1. They are all broke and/or cheap for various reasons
2. Lots of mental illness, addiction, alcohol, codependency, recovery
3. Children who are “off”/dealbreakers
4. Any moneyed ones were divorced (maybe more than once) for important reasons they do not acknowledge
5. Even the good ones will require a major compromise or two.

Money, looks, good personality: pick two.

52 years old divorced man and find some of the same issues with divorced women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1. They are all broke and/or cheap for various reasons
2. Lots of mental illness, addiction, alcohol, codependency, recovery
3. Children who are “off”/dealbreakers
4. Any moneyed ones were divorced (maybe more than once) for important reasons they do not acknowledge
5. Even the good ones will require a major compromise or two.

Money, looks, good personality: pick two.

52 years old divorced man and find some of the same issues with divorced women.

Nothing in that post was gendered but here you are being defensive.

[Anonymous]

Please dont expect an honest answer about the state of dating from anyone on this board. They are all sad miserable people.

Just like dating at any point in life, like finds like. If you are emotionally healthy, decent looking, honest and well-rounded, that is what you will attract. If you have some emotional issues to work through, are desperate, etc. thats what you will attract.

Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1. They are all broke and/or cheap for various reasons
2. Lots of mental illness, addiction, alcohol, codependency, recovery
3. Children who are “off”/dealbreakers
4. Any moneyed ones were divorced (maybe more than once) for important reasons they do not acknowledge
5. Even the good ones will require a major compromise or two.

Money, looks, good personality: pick two.

52 years old divorced man and find some of the same issues with divorced women.

Nothing in that post was gendered but here you are being defensive.

Men of DCUM are like vegans. They'll find SOME way to bring it back to being about themselves/their favorite topic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1. They are all broke and/or cheap for various reasons
2. Lots of mental illness, addiction, alcohol, codependency, recovery
3. Children who are “off”/dealbreakers
4. Any moneyed ones were divorced (maybe more than once) for important reasons they do not acknowledge
5. Even the good ones will require a major compromise or two.

Money, looks, good personality: pick two.

Lol so true. I gave up money because I make my own.

Guy here. Glad to hear this. I'd like to think I'm decent looking with a decent personality. But I'm a teacher.

I don't have money problems. I just don't casually make $400K like most people on here claim to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please dont expect an honest answer about the state of dating from anyone on this board. They are all sad miserable people.

Just like dating at any point in life, like finds like. If you are emotionally healthy, decent looking, honest and well-rounded, that is what you will attract. If you have some emotional issues to work through, are desperate, etc. thats what you will attract.

Good luck!

+1

The market works.

[Anonymous]

It was wonderful.

I dated for about a year and a a half and enjoyed just about every minute.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1. They are all broke and/or cheap for various reasons
2. Lots of mental illness, addiction, alcohol, codependency, recovery
3. Children who are “off”/dealbreakers
4. Any moneyed ones were divorced (maybe more than once) for important reasons they do not acknowledge
5. Even the good ones will require a major compromise or two.

Money, looks, good personality: pick two.

Lol so true. I gave up money because I make my own.

Guy here. Glad to hear this. I'd like to think I'm decent looking with a decent personality. But I'm a teacher.

I don't have money problems. I just don't casually make $400K like most people on here claim to.

You dont need to date someone who makes 400K, right? You can date teachers single moms and grow together

[Anonymous]

Married to the same man for 30 years, we're happy and going strong, I'm 56 and cannot imagine being back "out there" willingly trying to compete against women half my age for the attention of men my age, and thinking my money and job are what they would value in a woman. Men value youth, beauty, and fertility. If my marriage were over tomorrow, I would call it a day and focus on my kids, and hobbies. No way I'm going to pretend I still have "it". Those days are over. I would be happy, but realistic about where I am in life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Married to the same man for 30 years, we're happy and going strong, I'm 56 and cannot imagine being back "out there" willingly trying to compete against women half my age for the attention of men my age, and thinking my money and job are what they would value in a woman. Men value youth, beauty, and fertility. If my marriage were over tomorrow, I would call it a day and focus on my kids, and hobbies. No way I'm going to pretend I still have "it". Those days are over. I would be happy, but realistic about where I am in life.

It's sad that you think you bring no value to your marriage. Anyway, not all thoughts need to be shared.