Dating in 50s post divorce

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a man, so I'm not actually experiencing life as an over 50 woman, but I've definitely encountered a few. What I notice is that their sexuality doesn't disappear of die, but it sometimes hibernates. It becomes very context specific. They may go months or years without sexual interest but their sexuality somwtimes comes roaring back. When we are actually in bed, getting them going usually takes a little while longer than it does for younger women, but they usually end up in the same place, which is a very passionate place.

Oh, it’s just because you’re so sexy despite the underbite and failed marriage.

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Anonymous wrote:What has your experience been?

I'll tell you! My experience has been wonderful because I'm not doing it!

I'm 53, divorce, I have amazing kids, both adults and minor, I still have a parent, I have a full-time job, I volunteer at church, I have a very full life. And dating is not a part of it. And I'm so happy about that! I do what I want when I want and with whom I want. I am never lonely.

There is zero upside to dating for me.

You must have a really good vibrator.

I am not PP but I was married in my 30s for 10 years and I only had sex for three out of those 10 years in my 30s. I am divorced in my 40s and I am done with dating. I did not get a vibrator until I was 40 and divorced and to be honest with you of a vibrator on most instances is far more enjoyable than a man, especially when you have to deal with drama that comes with dealing with immature men who don’t grow up. Just sex is really not a reason to date for very long and they’re really is not much value added to dating beyond sex anyway if you’re financially independent. A vibrator is better than most men in bed to be honest with you

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What has your experience been?

I'll tell you! My experience has been wonderful because I'm not doing it!

I'm 53, divorce, I have amazing kids, both adults and minor, I still have a parent, I have a full-time job, I volunteer at church, I have a very full life. And dating is not a part of it. And I'm so happy about that! I do what I want when I want and with whom I want. I am never lonely.

There is zero upside to dating for me.

You must have a really good vibrator.

I am not PP but I was married in my 30s for 10 years and I only had sex for three out of those 10 years in my 30s. I am divorced in my 40s and I am done with dating. I did not get a vibrator until I was 40 and divorced and to be honest with you of a vibrator on most instances is far more enjoyable than a man, especially when you have to deal with drama that comes with dealing with immature men who don’t grow up. Just sex is really not a reason to date for very long and they’re really is not much value added to dating beyond sex anyway if you’re financially independent. A vibrator is better than most men in bed to be honest with you

Male 50 here. No man is going to work as good a half decent vibrator. That’s not the point of a sexual relationship. You are just looking for a battery facilitated O

My ex wife was very vanilla. We never used toys but she was easy to O, multiple times, so we both got lazy and had a pretty decent sex life if you count the # of Os

After divorce when I was mid40s I decided to be more experimental. My current gf has a very hard time to O. So we got some toys into the play and OMG YES the Os are outstanding but what is more amazing is the sex we are having with the vibrator/toy. Use your imagination because this is a non explicit forum but let me put it this way, the vibrations are felt by both her and me during the act. Bliss!😍

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Anonymous wrote:What has your experience been?

I'll tell you! My experience has been wonderful because I'm not doing it!

I'm 53, divorce, I have amazing kids, both adults and minor, I still have a parent, I have a full-time job, I volunteer at church, I have a very full life. And dating is not a part of it. And I'm so happy about that! I do what I want when I want and with whom I want. I am never lonely.

There is zero upside to dating for me.

You must have a really good vibrator.

Hi I’m a woman and tend to agree that sometimes an enjoyable evening with vibrator is far more attractive than a boring date

I'm sure most guys would agree with this as well. I certainly do. Except most wouldn't use any toys. But some would

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Anonymous wrote:I’m not divorced and I’m only 49, but I’m enjoying it. I mostly meet people organically, as opposed to on dating apps. I’ve most recently been on a few dates with a 57 year old, also never married with no kids. He’s charming, kind and surprisingly hot.

Where do you meet men organically? I am hit in RL all the time, but guys are either married or have same issues as online connections

Mostly my dog finds them for me. She literally jumped into my last boyfriend’s lap at the park. I’m also really into jazz and blues and have met men at concerts/clubs. The most recent one I met at a baseball game.

So you go on your own to jazz clubs ? I thought it was only couples there . You must be living in a large urban center not dmv

I was at a live music concert last weekend that had a band from the 80s, so it attracted a 30+ crowd. I noticed a few women there alone. I think at that age, they are more confident in going out alone, and the 30+ crowd is not going to be immature and harrass them (at least from what I saw).

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Anonymous wrote:What has your experience been?

I'll tell you! My experience has been wonderful because I'm not doing it!

I'm 53, divorce, I have amazing kids, both adults and minor, I still have a parent, I have a full-time job, I volunteer at church, I have a very full life. And dating is not a part of it. And I'm so happy about that! I do what I want when I want and with whom I want. I am never lonely.

There is zero upside to dating for me.

You must have a really good vibrator.

Hi I’m a woman and tend to agree that sometimes an enjoyable evening with vibrator is far more attractive than a boring date

I'm sure most guys would agree with this as well. I certainly do. Except most wouldn't use any toys. But some would

Funny. The last man I dated was such a catch on paper. Very tall, European, successful. But he showed up with sex toys and wanted to be pegged constantly. I’d never heard the term “bussy” before, and I wish I could erase it and him from my memory. It’s weird out there ladies! FWIW I think people with kinks that predominate their sex lives should disclose that up front.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What has your experience been?

I'll tell you! My experience has been wonderful because I'm not doing it!

I'm 53, divorce, I have amazing kids, both adults and minor, I still have a parent, I have a full-time job, I volunteer at church, I have a very full life. And dating is not a part of it. And I'm so happy about that! I do what I want when I want and with whom I want. I am never lonely.

There is zero upside to dating for me.

You must have a really good vibrator.

Hi I’m a woman and tend to agree that sometimes an enjoyable evening with vibrator is far more attractive than a boring date

I'm sure most guys would agree with this as well. I certainly do. Except most wouldn't use any toys. But some would

Funny. The last man I dated was such a catch on paper. Very tall, European, successful. But he showed up with sex toys and wanted to be pegged constantly. I’d never heard the term “bussy” before, and I wish I could erase it and him from my memory. It’s weird out there ladies! FWIW I think people with kinks that predominate their sex lives should disclose that up front.

He had butt toys with him on the first date!>?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What has your experience been?

I'll tell you! My experience has been wonderful because I'm not doing it!

I'm 53, divorce, I have amazing kids, both adults and minor, I still have a parent, I have a full-time job, I volunteer at church, I have a very full life. And dating is not a part of it. And I'm so happy about that! I do what I want when I want and with whom I want. I am never lonely.

There is zero upside to dating for me.

You must have a really good vibrator.

Hi I’m a woman and tend to agree that sometimes an enjoyable evening with vibrator is far more attractive than a boring date

I'm sure most guys would agree with this as well. I certainly do. Except most wouldn't use any toys. But some would

Funny. The last man I dated was such a catch on paper. Very tall, European, successful. But he showed up with sex toys and wanted to be pegged constantly. I’d never heard the term “bussy” before, and I wish I could erase it and him from my memory. It’s weird out there ladies! FWIW I think people with kinks that predominate their sex lives should disclose that up front.

I had to google that.

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Anonymous wrote:What has your experience been?

I'll tell you! My experience has been wonderful because I'm not doing it!

I'm 53, divorce, I have amazing kids, both adults and minor, I still have a parent, I have a full-time job, I volunteer at church, I have a very full life. And dating is not a part of it. And I'm so happy about that! I do what I want when I want and with whom I want. I am never lonely.

There is zero upside to dating for me.

You must have a really good vibrator.

Hi I’m a woman and tend to agree that sometimes an enjoyable evening with vibrator is far more attractive than a boring date

I'm sure most guys would agree with this as well. I certainly do. Except most wouldn't use any toys. But some would

Funny. The last man I dated was such a catch on paper. Very tall, European, successful. But he showed up with sex toys and wanted to be pegged constantly. I’d never heard the term “bussy” before, and I wish I could erase it and him from my memory. It’s weird out there ladies! FWIW I think people with kinks that predominate their sex lives should disclose that up front.

I had to google that.

+1

bussy

[Anonymous]

No not on the first date. Not mentioned at all until weeks in. No mention of having had sex with men, or basically wanting to be pegged over PIV. It was a deliberate deception and I’m sure he does it with every woman. Maybe he will find his fit, and maybe it’s a man, but it sure wasn’t me

[Anonymous]

Oh why did I have to Google that… my innocence, gone.

[Anonymous]

Ben Affleck is available.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Married to the same man for 30 years, we're happy and going strong, I'm 56 and cannot imagine being back "out there" willingly trying to compete against women half my age for the attention of men my age, and thinking my money and job are what they would value in a woman. Men value youth, beauty, and fertility. If my marriage were over tomorrow, I would call it a day and focus on my kids, and hobbies. No way I'm going to pretend I still have "it". Those days are over. I would be happy, but realistic about where I am in life.

aw, depressing. what if you live to 120-130 and knew that it was a real possibility?

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Anonymous wrote:Married to the same man for 30 years, we're happy and going strong, I'm 56 and cannot imagine being back "out there" willingly trying to compete against women half my age for the attention of men my age, and thinking my money and job are what they would value in a woman. Men value youth, beauty, and fertility. If my marriage were over tomorrow, I would call it a day and focus on my kids, and hobbies. No way I'm going to pretend I still have "it". Those days are over. I would be happy, but realistic about where I am in life.

aw, depressing. what if you live to 120-130 and knew that it was a real possibility?

Men also age. I’ve met a lot of 40s-50s men on OLD who I personally don’t want on board as a mid 40s woman. Health issues, character flaws, financial struggles - you keep going. I can’t imagine a 20-30 woman would want them.

If a man wants to be partnered he will understand where he is in life, too, and will choose accordingly.

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Anonymous wrote:1. They are all broke and/or cheap for various reasons
2. Lots of mental illness, addiction, alcohol, codependency, recovery
3. Children who are “off”/dealbreakers
4. Any moneyed ones were divorced (maybe more than once) for important reasons they do not acknowledge
5. Even the good ones will require a major compromise or two.

Money, looks, good personality: pick two.

Lol so true. I gave up money because I make my own.

Guy here. Glad to hear this. I'd like to think I'm decent looking with a decent personality. But I'm a teacher.

I don't have money problems. I just don't casually make $400K like most people on here claim to.

Where would I meet you? I would love to date a teacher. (One who doesn't have money problems.)