People that ain't drink when others are

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Anonymous wrote:I rarely drink. I'll enjoy a drink (one single drink) every now and then, like maybe 5-15 drinks over the course of an entire year. But I absolutely don't need it.

Admittedly, I do judge people who feel the need to drink at social events - they're masking something, or using alcohol as a crutch to get them through, and I think that's harmful.

An occasional celebratory drink is one thing. Normalizing it every time you get together or have an event, is indicative of a problem. And if you need more than one drink to get a buzz, then you definitely have a problem because your tolerance is completely muted.

This is all just your opinion, not fact.

It's a fact. There are a lot of people who are in incredible denial about their alcohol dependency, as a normal thing to order every time they go out or get together with others.

No, it is not a fact. You saying so does not make it so. Everyone who likes to have a drink in a social event is not “alcohol dependent,” and not getting a buzz from one drink is a sign of nothing.

If you need more than one drink to get a solid buzz, then you either:

1) are just completely immune to the effects of alcohol altogether
2) weigh 400lbs
3) have build up a tolerance due to excessive drinking

I love how non-drinkers come on here and are the experts on alcohol. I take your admonishments about as seriously as I would a vegetarian's advice on the best cuts of steak.

I'm not a non-drinker. I drink occasionally - maybe about 10x a year. You have built up a big tolerance due to excessive drinking, if 1 drink does virtually nothing for you.

Is a “solid buzz” or “virtually nothing” because that seems the goalposts are moving

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Anonymous wrote:Most of us have friends who don’t drink, are former alcoholics, are pregnant at time, on WW, etc and don’t drink and there is no issue.

But you do seem from the way you write that you have a chip on your shoulder about drinking .

If it came off as I have a chip on my shoulder I don't. I'm still very annoyed by the discussion last night. I'm fine with anyone drinking as long as they don't feel the need to push there you should drink opinions on me. Then I'll push back with why do you feel the need to drink.

Your husband is telling you that you are annoying and boring AF which is how you're coming across here too. Next time he should just leave you at home.

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I don’t drink any more, but I don’t gaf who does or doesn’t, unless they’re obnoxious or sanctimonious about not drinking. Some non-drinkers kill a buzz like being the vegan who tries to make everyone feel bad about eating animal products.

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Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I drink alcohol and sometimes I don’t. It has little to do with my company and more to do with my schedule and workload.

If someone is bothered that you aren’t drinking alcohol in a social situation, it says more about their relationship with alcohol than it does about you.

No, it says a lot about the non drinker. Nobody would notice them nursing a club soda with a lime if they weren't somehow bringing negative attention to themselves killing the mood. So, it says a lot about OP that her husband told her off. It's been 31 years. He's likely over it.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. Thanks for everyone's thoughts. The person who told me about drinking is my husband. We vary greatly on our thoughts of alcohol. He doesn't usually drink while at home besides maybe a beer or two a few times a year. But he believes if you are socializing, you need to drink to have fun. He's an introvert himself so the alcohol lets his inhibitions down so he can let loose. After being together for 31 years, he still thinks I should drink even though he has seen me have fun and socialize without alcohol.

Please ignore the nasty, defensive posters. Your husband has social anxiety that he dulls with alcohol. He’s taking out his anxiety on you. As long as you have a drink of any sort in your hand, no one else notices or cares what is in your glass. Your husband is anxious and he is picking on you as an outlet for his own insecurity.

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I usually don’t drink and no one cares. I’m just as fun and wild and crazy with or without alcoholic beverages.