People that ain't drink when others are

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I rarely drink. I'll enjoy a drink (one single drink) every now and then, like maybe 5-15 drinks over the course of an entire year. But I absolutely don't need it.

Admittedly, I do judge people who feel the need to drink at social events - they're masking something, or using alcohol as a crutch to get them through, and I think that's harmful.

An occasional celebratory drink is one thing. Normalizing it every time you get together or have an event, is indicative of a problem. And if you need more than one drink to get a buzz, then you definitely have a problem because your tolerance is completely muted.

This is all just your opinion, not fact.

It's a fact. There are a lot of people who are in incredible denial about their alcohol dependency, as a normal thing to order every time they go out or get together with others.

No, it is not a fact. You saying so does not make it so. Everyone who likes to have a drink in a social event is not “alcohol dependent,” and not getting a buzz from one drink is a sign of nothing.

[Anonymous]

I don't drink and it's never been an issue with my friends. If someone is paying attention to what other's are drinking it says more about them than me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I rarely drink. I'll enjoy a drink (one single drink) every now and then, like maybe 5-15 drinks over the course of an entire year. But I absolutely don't need it.

Admittedly, I do judge people who feel the need to drink at social events - they're masking something, or using alcohol as a crutch to get them through, and I think that's harmful.

An occasional celebratory drink is one thing. Normalizing it every time you get together or have an event, is indicative of a problem. And if you need more than one drink to get a buzz, then you definitely have a problem because your tolerance is completely muted.

This is all just your opinion, not fact.

It's a fact. There are a lot of people who are in incredible denial about their alcohol dependency, as a normal thing to order every time they go out or get together with others.

No, it is not a fact. You saying so does not make it so. Everyone who likes to have a drink in a social event is not “alcohol dependent,” and not getting a buzz from one drink is a sign of nothing.

So tell us - why do you feel the need to drink at every/most social events?

"Because I like it" is not an answer to "why."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm curious about everyone's thoughts on people that don't drink while out with others that are?

I don't drink never have never will. I just don't see the appeal of it. After a conversation last night I was told that people who don't drink even a beer while out with others who are in lamens turns are a buzz kill and are no fun because I'm not drinking. And I should at least have something.

I feel that this persons train of thought about not drinking in social events is immature especially since I dont care what others do and happily participate in conversations and have fun with those that drink. Heck I've bought alcohol for holidays, bbq's and events I've hosted for others.

So what is everyone's thoughts?

I just get a coke, and people think it’s a rum and coke. I don’t correct them. That’s all. Are you making a big deal about not drinking alcohol?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't go to social events where there is drinking? It's never been a problem.

How is this possible? Do all of your friends not drink, ever?

DP. Most of my friends don’t drink. It’s more common than you would think.

[Anonymous]

I don't like beer or wine and most casual events only serve those rather than some fancy frilly cocktail which is what I do like so I am often not drinking anything and I only care about other people drinking if they are sh**faced and acting an a**hole and/or drove to the event.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I rarely drink. I'll enjoy a drink (one single drink) every now and then, like maybe 5-15 drinks over the course of an entire year. But I absolutely don't need it.

Admittedly, I do judge people who feel the need to drink at social events - they're masking something, or using alcohol as a crutch to get them through, and I think that's harmful.

An occasional celebratory drink is one thing. Normalizing it every time you get together or have an event, is indicative of a problem. And if you need more than one drink to get a buzz, then you definitely have a problem because your tolerance is completely muted.

This is all just your opinion, not fact.

It's a fact. There are a lot of people who are in incredible denial about their alcohol dependency, as a normal thing to order every time they go out or get together with others.

No, it is not a fact. You saying so does not make it so. Everyone who likes to have a drink in a social event is not “alcohol dependent,” and not getting a buzz from one drink is a sign of nothing.

If you need more than one drink to get a solid buzz, then you either:

1) are just completely immune to the effects of alcohol altogether
2) weigh 400lbs
3) have build up a tolerance due to excessive drinking

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I rarely drink. I'll enjoy a drink (one single drink) every now and then, like maybe 5-15 drinks over the course of an entire year. But I absolutely don't need it.

Admittedly, I do judge people who feel the need to drink at social events - they're masking something, or using alcohol as a crutch to get them through, and I think that's harmful.

An occasional celebratory drink is one thing. Normalizing it every time you get together or have an event, is indicative of a problem. And if you need more than one drink to get a buzz, then you definitely have a problem because your tolerance is completely muted.

This is all just your opinion, not fact.

It's a fact. There are a lot of people who are in incredible denial about their alcohol dependency, as a normal thing to order every time they go out or get together with others.

No, it is not a fact. You saying so does not make it so. Everyone who likes to have a drink in a social event is not “alcohol dependent,” and not getting a buzz from one drink is a sign of nothing.

If you need more than one drink to get a solid buzz, then you either:

1) are just completely immune to the effects of alcohol altogether
2) weigh 400lbs
3) have build up a tolerance due to excessive drinking

I love how non-drinkers come on here and are the experts on alcohol. I take your admonishments about as seriously as I would a vegetarian's advice on the best cuts of steak.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most of us have friends who don’t drink, are former alcoholics, are pregnant at time, on WW, etc and don’t drink and there is no issue.

But you do seem from the way you write that you have a chip on your shoulder about drinking .

If it came off as I have a chip on my shoulder I don't. I'm still very annoyed by the discussion last night. I'm fine with anyone drinking as long as they don't feel the need to push there you should drink opinions on me. Then I'll push back with why do you feel the need to drink.

Your husband is telling you that you are annoying and boring AF which is how you're coming across here too. Next time he should just leave you at home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I rarely drink. I'll enjoy a drink (one single drink) every now and then, like maybe 5-15 drinks over the course of an entire year. But I absolutely don't need it.

Admittedly, I do judge people who feel the need to drink at social events - they're masking something, or using alcohol as a crutch to get them through, and I think that's harmful.

An occasional celebratory drink is one thing. Normalizing it every time you get together or have an event, is indicative of a problem. And if you need more than one drink to get a buzz, then you definitely have a problem because your tolerance is completely muted.

This is all just your opinion, not fact.

It's a fact. There are a lot of people who are in incredible denial about their alcohol dependency, as a normal thing to order every time they go out or get together with others.

No, it is not a fact. You saying so does not make it so. Everyone who likes to have a drink in a social event is not “alcohol dependent,” and not getting a buzz from one drink is a sign of nothing.

If you need more than one drink to get a solid buzz, then you either:

1) are just completely immune to the effects of alcohol altogether
2) weigh 400lbs
3) have build up a tolerance due to excessive drinking

I love how non-drinkers come on here and are the experts on alcohol. I take your admonishments about as seriously as I would a vegetarian's advice on the best cuts of steak.

I'm not a non-drinker. I drink occasionally - maybe about 10x a year. You have built up a big tolerance due to excessive drinking, if 1 drink does virtually nothing for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I rarely drink. I'll enjoy a drink (one single drink) every now and then, like maybe 5-15 drinks over the course of an entire year. But I absolutely don't need it.

Admittedly, I do judge people who feel the need to drink at social events - they're masking something, or using alcohol as a crutch to get them through, and I think that's harmful.

An occasional celebratory drink is one thing. Normalizing it every time you get together or have an event, is indicative of a problem. And if you need more than one drink to get a buzz, then you definitely have a problem because your tolerance is completely muted.

This is all just your opinion, not fact.

It's a fact. There are a lot of people who are in incredible denial about their alcohol dependency, as a normal thing to order every time they go out or get together with others.

No, it is not a fact. You saying so does not make it so. Everyone who likes to have a drink in a social event is not “alcohol dependent,” and not getting a buzz from one drink is a sign of nothing.

If you need more than one drink to get a solid buzz, then you either:

1) are just completely immune to the effects of alcohol altogether
2) weigh 400lbs
3) have build up a tolerance due to excessive drinking

I love how non-drinkers come on here and are the experts on alcohol. I take your admonishments about as seriously as I would a vegetarian's advice on the best cuts of steak.

I love how the drunks argue with people who used to be just like them but got sober.

If you have to argue like this to defend your drinking, you may have a problem.

-sober for almost 7 years now, sounded just like you when I very much wasn't and needed to be

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I rarely drink. I'll enjoy a drink (one single drink) every now and then, like maybe 5-15 drinks over the course of an entire year. But I absolutely don't need it.

Admittedly, I do judge people who feel the need to drink at social events - they're masking something, or using alcohol as a crutch to get them through, and I think that's harmful.

An occasional celebratory drink is one thing. Normalizing it every time you get together or have an event, is indicative of a problem. And if you need more than one drink to get a buzz, then you definitely have a problem because your tolerance is completely muted.

This is all just your opinion, not fact.

It's a fact. There are a lot of people who are in incredible denial about their alcohol dependency, as a normal thing to order every time they go out or get together with others.

No, it is not a fact. You saying so does not make it so. Everyone who likes to have a drink in a social event is not “alcohol dependent,” and not getting a buzz from one drink is a sign of nothing.

If you need more than one drink to get a solid buzz, then you either:

1) are just completely immune to the effects of alcohol altogether
2) weigh 400lbs
3) have build up a tolerance due to excessive drinking

I love how non-drinkers come on here and are the experts on alcohol. I take your admonishments about as seriously as I would a vegetarian's advice on the best cuts of steak.

I'm not a non-drinker. I drink occasionally - maybe about 10x a year. You have built up a big tolerance due to excessive drinking, if 1 drink does virtually nothing for you.

No, I'm a 220 lb man and a single beer has never registered, even back in college.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes I drink alcohol and sometimes I don’t. It has little to do with my company and more to do with my schedule and workload.

If someone is bothered that you aren’t drinking alcohol in a social situation, it says more about their relationship with alcohol than it does about you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I rarely drink. I'll enjoy a drink (one single drink) every now and then, like maybe 5-15 drinks over the course of an entire year. But I absolutely don't need it.

Admittedly, I do judge people who feel the need to drink at social events - they're masking something, or using alcohol as a crutch to get them through, and I think that's harmful.

An occasional celebratory drink is one thing. Normalizing it every time you get together or have an event, is indicative of a problem. And if you need more than one drink to get a buzz, then you definitely have a problem because your tolerance is completely muted.

This is all just your opinion, not fact.

It's a fact. There are a lot of people who are in incredible denial about their alcohol dependency, as a normal thing to order every time they go out or get together with others.

No, it is not a fact. You saying so does not make it so. Everyone who likes to have a drink in a social event is not “alcohol dependent,” and not getting a buzz from one drink is a sign of nothing.

If you need more than one drink to get a solid buzz, then you either:

1) are just completely immune to the effects of alcohol altogether
2) weigh 400lbs
3) have build up a tolerance due to excessive drinking

I love how non-drinkers come on here and are the experts on alcohol. I take your admonishments about as seriously as I would a vegetarian's advice on the best cuts of steak.

I love how the drunks argue with people who used to be just like them but got sober.

If you have to argue like this to defend your drinking, you may have a problem.

-sober for almost 7 years now, sounded just like you when I very much wasn't and needed to be

Not everyone who drinks has a problem. You clearly did, and got sober--good on you. But many of us can drink moderately and responsibly. I know it's probably a bitter pill to swallow for someone who can't. Like I can't eat a lot of junk without gaining weight, but my sister can, damn her! Everyone's body is different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm curious about everyone's thoughts on people that don't drink while out with others that are?

I don't drink never have never will. I just don't see the appeal of it. After a conversation last night I was told that people who don't drink even a beer while out with others who are in lamens turns are a buzz kill and are no fun because I'm not drinking. And I should at least have something.

I feel that this persons train of thought about not drinking in social events is immature especially since I dont care what others do and happily participate in conversations and have fun with those that drink. Heck I've bought alcohol for holidays, bbq's and events I've hosted for others.

So what is everyone's thoughts?

I order a club soda with lime and nurse it all night. Though it is true that sitting with a bunch of people getting high is less than entertaining which is why I usually excuse myself after an hour and go home.