People that ain't drink when others are

[Anonymous]

I'm curious about everyone's thoughts on people that don't drink while out with others that are?

I don't drink never have never will. I just don't see the appeal of it. After a conversation last night I was told that people who don't drink even a beer while out with others who are in lamens turns are a buzz kill and are no fun because I'm not drinking. And I should at least have something.

I feel that this persons train of thought about not drinking in social events is immature especially since I dont care what others do and happily participate in conversations and have fun with those that drink. Heck I've bought alcohol for holidays, bbq's and events I've hosted for others.

So what is everyone's thoughts?

[Anonymous]

It is both immature and true. I don't drink either and I can feel the vibe change when I get a water.

I still get my water and go way out of my way to make sure people know I am not judging anyone else who is drinking. And no one ever makes a big deal about it. But I definitely do feel that it changes the tone.

[Anonymous]

People don’t actually care what you’re drinking unless you’re boring. They’re probably trying to tell you you’re boring.

[Anonymous]

I think the person you were talking to is immature and also might have other issues.

I used to drink and now I don't. I hang out with the same people. It has never been an issue.

Over the years I've had friends stop drinking entirely or for periods of time for reasons ranging from serious health issues to trying to lose weight to mental health to actual drinking problems. It's never been an issue. I am not friends with people because they are good drinkers.

[Anonymous]

I do drink alcohol and would never judge someone who doesn’t. In fact I kind of admire them for bucking peer pressure and making a healthy choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm curious about everyone's thoughts on people that don't drink while out with others that are?

I don't drink never have never will. I just don't see the appeal of it. After a conversation last night I was told that people who don't drink even a beer while out with others who are in lamens turns are a buzz kill and are no fun because I'm not drinking. And I should at least have something.

I feel that this persons train of thought about not drinking in social events is immature especially since I dont care what others do and happily participate in conversations and have fun with those that drink. Heck I've bought alcohol for holidays, bbq's and events I've hosted for others.

So what is everyone's thoughts?

"lamens turns" = "laymen's terms"

[Anonymous]

I don't care or pay attention. People who do generally have issues around their own alcohol use.

[Anonymous]

I don't go to social events where there is drinking? It's never been a problem.

[Anonymous]

I have 2 friends who don't drink. It has never killed or changed the vibe. If it does, you are either hanging out with jerks, you are reading too much into things, or you make comments about drinking that make others uncomfortable

[Anonymous]

You need to be in a celebratory mood. Raise your glass. Laugh. Tell a story. Alcohol makes it easier, loosening inhibitions. If you can participate and be a welcome addition to the group, without alcohol, the alcohol doesn't matter at all.

[Anonymous]

I rarely drink. I'll enjoy a drink (one single drink) every now and then, like maybe 5-15 drinks over the course of an entire year. But I absolutely don't need it.

Admittedly, I do judge people who feel the need to drink at social events - they're masking something, or using alcohol as a crutch to get them through, and I think that's harmful.

An occasional celebratory drink is one thing. Normalizing it every time you get together or have an event, is indicative of a problem. And if you need more than one drink to get a buzz, then you definitely have a problem because your tolerance is completely muted.

[Anonymous]

I took a person to a football game who had no interest in football, a first date who was vegetarian to a steak house by mistake.

I have asthma and someone took me to a cigar bar, I hate really spicy food and got dragged Indian restaurant

Of course it is a drag.

[Anonymous]

Anybody who pressures you to drink industrial solvent has a problem, and the problem isn’t you.

Find new friends.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes I drink and sometimes I don't. I literally have never felt like anyone cares either way. Maybe in college people cared? Or maybe when I was married for a couple of years they were wondering if I was pregnant? But now at a restaurant or party I don't think anyone even notices.

[Anonymous]

I have never been drunk or buzzed and taste someone else's alcoholic drink maybe once every five years or so? The only people who tell me that I must be boring are people who are insecure about how much they're drinking/alcoholics.