If someone helped your child make a mother's day present for someone else.

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Anonymous wrote:Your brother is a saint.

Right?! He took 2 toddlers, 1 who isn’t even his kid, and had them make cute little hand print crafts for the women of the family. Sounds like a great guy.

I agree with a PP that sister is dealing with some baggage from being a single mom.

No he isn’t. It’s not international women’s day - it’s Mother’s Day.

Well the handprints were a gift to the sister for Mother’s Day. And in the spirit of efficiency extra hand prints were made for other relatives who love the child (I’m assuming if they were gifted the hand prints any other time of year it would be NBD). It would be stupid to have to make handprints for mom of X day and then go back and make handprints for the other relatives on Y day. We all know how messy these toddler crafts can be.

It waters down the meaning of the gift if a pool of people get it.

No, it doesn't. That is ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Op, you need therapy. For the sake of your kids.

[Anonymous]

Ha. Ha. Ha!!!

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Anonymous wrote:Op, you need therapy. For the sake of your kids.

I need therapy for helping my niece make a gift? For accepting the gift from my brother and the toddlers? For trying to understand my sister's perspective?

What exactly do I need therapy for?

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Anonymous wrote:This feels off the charts overly sensitive, OP. Do you feel your child can only love you, not aunts or grandmothers? Because that to me is at the heart of your anger at the care person. You don't want your child to show love for any other female relative.

OP here,

I'm the aunt who got the extra, not the mom who is upset. Trying to figure out if other people would agree with my sister.

I think that's a weird hill for your sister to die on but I also think it's weird for a niece to give her aunt a Mother's Day gift unless she raised her. Grandmother I get. But it's not Women's Day, it's Mother's Day.

[Anonymous]

I would not be hurt. Brother was clearly doing what he thought would be special for mothers in the family.

A sensitive person might react to the fact that this may have been her first [u]Mother's Day gift, and her special role to the gift giver was not recognized (because another person got the same gift from her child).

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Anonymous wrote:I would not be hurt. Brother was clearly doing what he thought would be special for mothers in the family.

A sensitive person might react to the fact that this may have been her first [u]Mother's Day gift, and her special role to the gift giver was not recognized (because another person got the same gift from her child).

Oh goodness no. This is her youngest child. She's gotten multiple presents every year she's been a mother. Her middle kid made something with me. The oldest had a gift for her too. Plus, our Dad took her and her partner out for dinner with the kids.

It was the first mother's day gift for my brother's wife, but she is very chill, and wasn't bothered.

[Anonymous]

She went to the dinner with the new partner, not the one she is separated from?

If so, sounds like she's moved on with her life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your brother is a saint.

Right?! He took 2 toddlers, 1 who isn’t even his kid, and had them make cute little hand print crafts for the women of the family. Sounds like a great guy.

I agree with a PP that sister is dealing with some baggage from being a single mom.

No he isn’t. It’s not international women’s day - it’s Mother’s Day.

Well the handprints were a gift to the sister for Mother’s Day. And in the spirit of efficiency extra hand prints were made for other relatives who love the child (I’m assuming if they were gifted the hand prints any other time of year it would be NBD). It would be stupid to have to make handprints for mom of X day and then go back and make handprints for the other relatives on Y day. We all know how messy these toddler crafts can be.

It waters down the meaning of the gift if a pool of people get it.

And, what, exactly, was the “meaning of the gift” from the toddler?

Mother’s Day - not auntie or big helper day or all the nice people in the world day.

+1 The toddler has only one mother who deserves a unique gift.

[Anonymous]

It’s Mother’s Appreciation Week,
No teachers, sisters, helpers, SILs, aunts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She went to the dinner with the new partner, not the one she is separated from?

If so, sounds like she's moved on with her life.

Yes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your brother is a saint.

Your brother did a very thoughtful thing. Your sister sounds immature and unreasonable.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your brother is a saint.

Right?! He took 2 toddlers, 1 who isn’t even his kid, and had them make cute little hand print crafts for the women of the family. Sounds like a great guy.

I agree with a PP that sister is dealing with some baggage from being a single mom.

No he isn’t. It’s not international women’s day - it’s Mother’s Day.

Well the handprints were a gift to the sister for Mother’s Day. And in the spirit of efficiency extra hand prints were made for other relatives who love the child (I’m assuming if they were gifted the hand prints any other time of year it would be NBD). It would be stupid to have to make handprints for mom of X day and then go back and make handprints for the other relatives on Y day. We all know how messy these toddler crafts can be.

It waters down the meaning of the gift if a pool of people get it.

And, what, exactly, was the “meaning of the gift” from the toddler?

Mother’s Day - not auntie or big helper day or all the nice people in the world day.

But all the women who received the gift ARE mothers. Where is it written that you must only honor your OWN mother on mothers day?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This feels off the charts overly sensitive, OP. Do you feel your child can only love you, not aunts or grandmothers? Because that to me is at the heart of your anger at the care person. You don't want your child to show love for any other female relative.

OP here,

I'm the aunt who got the extra, not the mom who is upset. Trying to figure out if other people would agree with my sister.

I think that's a weird hill for your sister to die on but I also think it's weird for a niece to give her aunt a Mother's Day gift unless she raised her. Grandmother I get. But it's not Women's Day, it's Mother's Day.

My niece always gives me flowers on Mother's Day because, in her words, "you've been a second mom to me and I love you so much!" I'm not a mom, and this same niece is super tight with her mom, my sister. None of us finds this weird or awkward. What's weird to me is how people hoard love. That said, I'd also be fine with my niece not doing anything for me. I'm content with my decision to not have kids.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your brother is a saint.

Right?! He took 2 toddlers, 1 who isn’t even his kid, and had them make cute little hand print crafts for the women of the family. Sounds like a great guy.

I agree with a PP that sister is dealing with some baggage from being a single mom.

No he isn’t. It’s not international women’s day - it’s Mother’s Day.

Well the handprints were a gift to the sister for Mother’s Day. And in the spirit of efficiency extra hand prints were made for other relatives who love the child (I’m assuming if they were gifted the hand prints any other time of year it would be NBD). It would be stupid to have to make handprints for mom of X day and then go back and make handprints for the other relatives on Y day. We all know how messy these toddler crafts can be.

It waters down the meaning of the gift if a pool of people get it.

And, what, exactly, was the “meaning of the gift” from the toddler?

Mother’s Day - not auntie or big helper day or all the nice people in the world day.

But all the women who received the gift ARE mothers. Where is it written that you must only honor your OWN mother on mothers day?

Borrow your own kid to honor other mothers if you so wish.