I never said gentle parenting means do nothing, but leads to giving too much control to the kids and giving into them, coddling them, negotiating with them - which IMO is bizarre. |
and other people are over reacting to a quick swat on the leg. |
Again, your kid is a little sh&t. Grandma is not a “rando” by any stretch. If the kid doesn’t have the good sense to treat his own grandmother with deference and kindness, you are a complete failure of a mother. Despite what you may think of Grandma’s (or her generation’s) take on physical punishment, the fact remains that this entire discussion wouldn’t even be at issue of you had taught your child how to behave and interact appropriately toward his GRANDMOTHER. And you were IN the house! Your kid feels so emboldened by you as it is that he had no issue defying his grandmother with you in the next room. And now that you are coming down overreacting to grandma’s frustrated reaction, you’ve just doubled down on his future lack of respect. |
And y'all are way too quick to paint grandma as a violent physical abuser for a swat to the thigh that didn't even upset the child. |
How hard is “don’t abuse the English language”???? |
Gee, ya think? |
As a parent your job is actually to raise your children to be functional adults someday. Often this involves protecting them, but it also sometimes involves letting them experience the natural consequences of their behavior. If a child’s behavior is such that it causes his own grandmother to swat him out of complete frustration (not as a calculated disciplinary measure), I would consider that within the realm of natural consequences. |
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You're a bleeding idiot to respond to that troll. |
You are not replying to the OP. My kids are not little sh&ts and no grandparent has ever hit them. My kids know that I have their back and dont allow anyone to abuse them. |
Well, hard disagree I guess. Getting hit by a trusted family member is never an appropriate consequence IMO. |
DP. Ok? But a swat is not abuse. Never has been, never will be. So not sure what you are referring to. |
OP seems like a troll, starting multiple threads to rile people up... Take a look at the "pants off" thread. |
Ikr? Granny belted that kid something good. Oh, she didn't use a belt? Was it a spoon then, a big wooden spoon? No? Well what did she hit him with? Did they call CPS? Or the police? |
Swat: to hit with a sharp slapping blow usually with an instrument (such as a bat or flyswatter) a powerful or crushing blow Sounds pretty abusive. |