That doesn't mean they're going to help her, or that it's why she's going. |
Pp probably knows how to parent. |
I actually tried parenting classes five years ago. They were not helpful - I know I am not supposed to shake my baby or get drunk and do cocaine in front of my kids. But yes, I do punish them for not doing the things they're supposed to be doing. We tried telling and showing, and she didn't want to listen - just ignore and go off and do something more interesting. Well, newsflash, life isn't interesting. |
Unlikely. It's always the parents of perfect children who are this smug. |
OP, it's possible that she'll do better in public school where teachers are more used to dealing with neurodiverse kids and there are more options for friend groups. I'd consider pulling off the bandaid and switching her now so she doesn't keep struggling. It stinks to be in a school where you aren't supported by the teachers and other kids are intentionally doing things to upset you (bullying). Switching now will give her some time to start making friends before the summer and keep her from being anxious about the switch all summer. If not, I'd at least start trying to loop her into that social scene and school community. Maybe attend a school play or look at summer camps associated with the school?
Before she starts, I'd reach out to the guidance counselor and see if you can get some supports for a new and anxious student. Maybe they'd assign her a buddy to introduce her to friends? I'd also try to talk to teachers so they understand how best to support her. |
Again, they know how to parent. |
If a child is perfect, you don’t think the parenting has something to do with it? |
It's generally luck. I have two perfect kids and one problem child. |
"New school, new opportunities." Just buy her what you want her to wear and put it in her drawers. You can give her a "uniform" of sorts where it's jeans and the same top just in different colors, and then leggings on x two days or whatever. Sounds like she craves routine. |
You are really blaming your daughter for this. There is also blame for the school--they aren't helping her learn to manage her behavior and appropriate responses. I'm sure your daughter doesn't want to be in tears multiple times a day.
I'd flip the script and realize that this school isn't meeting her needs. She sounds miserable. Time for a new start. |
You sound horrible and mean to your own child, OP.
Life IS interesting and you should be enjoying it with her and showing her the wonder in the world. Do you engage her at all or just order her around? Do you go on nature walks and talk to her? |
No parental influence. Let’s just stop parenting since it’s luck. |
We go on at least three trips a month to interesting places, museums, parks, play, whatever. She gets a ton of opportunities to see the world, but she also needs to buckle down and study and practice. If I sound horrible and mean, it's because I thought we'd worked all this out. |
I parented them ALL the same way. It's only DD who has issues. |
It doesn't mean they're not. Stop being so negative about this. Your child has an illness. It causes her to behave in a way that is annoying to you and others around her. You're punishing her for the symptoms of her illness. You need parenting classes because you've been disciplining the same way over and over and it's not working. So you need to learn new ways to discipline. You know the latin root of the word "discipline" is instruction/teach. It's not punish, which is what you're focusing on. Whether you get different parenting classes or a family therapist who can help you to help your daughter, it's very clear you need outside help. WHAT YOU ARE DOING IS NOT WORKING. Can't you see that? |