When does this child get to play? Sounds like she’s keyed up and stressed about school performance because someone has pushed her too hard and taken away all the joy from her life. |
All this. If OP is not a troll. |
For some things they don't want to do (piano), you let them stop. You focus on the minimum if everything is a fight. If the kid says she still wants to do piano, then she can get another chance, but she has to practice when reminded or else she's done. Then she has to do her homework first thing, but after that you do let her do fun things. The situation sounds so extreme that either there's something going on mental health-wise or you aren't telling the full story. Just an FYI, I have a kid who leans towards the apathetic but we don't constantly battle about her doing stuff - just occasionally - and it's all stuff she is insistent she wants to do. |
Dont' phrase it as "has to change schools" but "GETS to change schools" - to one that can better help her with her anxiety-driven outbursts so they're less frequent, and less intense when they happen. I'd tell her a week before school ends so she has time to say goodbye to people. |
This seems like a troll. |
She's never been into playing. Sometimes she'll play with Legos or ride her bike, but left to her own devices, she would rather sit in her room and play videos games. I've not pushed her. I just won't let her waste her life in front of a screen. |
Glad you don't have a child who can't control her emotions. |
Nobody needs to know she was kicked out. "My parents switched me to this school because they thought it would be a better fit for me. I'm excited to be here. No uniforms - I like your shirt by the way ..." |
But this is a lie? Public school isn't going to help her with this. |
Yeah, that's going to be tough. She loves her uniform and is really rigid about the clothes she wears outside of school. They're definitely not "cool" and I worry her being bullied over them. |
Just skip the no uniforms then. It is by definition a better fit for your kid because they will take her, so it's not a lie. |
Every kid will just sit and play video games if you let them. Does she exercise every day? Does she participate in any sports or other extracurricular activities? |
Public schools have a lot more resources to throw at kids than privates. |
She does gymnastics three times a week and does love it. It's only an hour at a time, though. |
OP you need parenting classes/therapy. It sounds like you punish for everything to the point where there is no joy in your lives but never actually teach her HOW to do the things you expect. Shes not going to just be able to sit down and study because you take away her bike. |