Do teen parents just pick up their kids very late?

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Anonymous wrote:My teen is typically at a friend's house whose parent is a night owl. SOOOO thankful that she will bring him home at 11p/12a. I am looong asleep.

Is there any adult awake when your child gets home? I think it's important to be awake enough to engage in a short conversation with your teen as a way to keep an eye on possible drug or alcohol use.

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There is an awake adult in my house until everyone is accounted for. Especially once they start driving.

This. And we also don't send our kids in Ubers.

+3 I stay up and pick up my 10th grader. I also did it for his older siblings. I pick up at 11:45 or so most Friday and Saturday nights.

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I would never expect a parent hosting a teen party to bring my kid home. Like OP, we don't know the parents of the kids he's made friends with since HS.

He texts us when he's ready to come home no matter how late - or early - it is. Occasionally he has a party with closer friends (sports team) and though a lot of them stay overnight, he usually prefers to come home and get some sleep. So, yeah, we've picked up at 1 or 2 am before.

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We are a swimming family, so early to bed. On the occasions my teen stays out late and is not driving themselves, I got to bed at 9:00 and set an alarm to wake up in time for pick-up. Works for me!

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I don’t know anyone who is sleep by 9-10pm. Little kids are in bed by 9! I put my kids down by 8:30 and then do chores for another 3 hours at night.

Dh and I force ourselves to be in bed by 11:30 and it’s a struggle. We’d like to stay up until 1am

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Anonymous wrote:I tell my kids to sleep over, my husband and I go to bed 9:30/10.

That's shitty of you.

How so? Other parents can say no. We live on one end of the district so my 16 yo has a few friends who live a good 25m bc they are on the other end. We usually have them stay over if their group has late plans. The close by kids will go home bc they can walk or it’s a quick drive/bus ride. If I didn’t want them to stay I’d tell my daughter no - it’s really not hard for me to say.

However, I’d like if these parents paid for dinner or similar if they never host. The polite ones will send a pizza or have their kid do Uber eats. The food costs are the only bother as we have a big finished basement and I like the kids here anyway as I can keep an eye out and her friends are mostly polite fun friendly kids

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t know anyone who is sleep by 9-10pm. Little kids are in bed by 9! I put my kids down by 8:30 and then do chores for another 3 hours at night.

Dh and I force ourselves to be in bed by 11:30 and it’s a struggle. We’d like to stay up until 1am

You do realize some people are different, right???
If left to my own devices, I'd go to bed at 9pm. Sadly my teens keep me up late.

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My teen would often spend the night at whatever friend’s house he was hanging out at.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I tell my kids to sleep over, my husband and I go to bed 9:30/10.

That's shitty of you.

How so? Other parents can say no. We live on one end of the district so my 16 yo has a few friends who live a good 25m bc they are on the other end. We usually have them stay over if their group has late plans. The close by kids will go home bc they can walk or it’s a quick drive/bus ride. If I didn’t want them to stay I’d tell my daughter no - it’s really not hard for me to say.

However, I’d like if these parents paid for dinner or similar if they never host. The polite ones will send a pizza or have their kid do Uber eats. The food costs are the only bother as we have a big finished basement and I like the kids here anyway as I can keep an eye out and her friends are mostly polite fun friendly kids

I’ve offered to send pizza or dinner a lot over the years. I’ve never once had a parent accept that offer. As they got older, I made sure my kids had money and tried to pay. Same story, hosting parents never accept. I’m sure people are used to that and that’s why you aren’t getting random pizzas delivered.

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Yes, that’s normal for teens. Most people don’t have a 6 year old and teens though. You are in a different stage of life.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t know anyone who is sleep by 9-10pm. Little kids are in bed by 9! I put my kids down by 8:30 and then do chores for another 3 hours at night.

Dh and I force ourselves to be in bed by 11:30 and it’s a struggle. We’d like to stay up until 1am

My husband does. He gets up super early for work, take the kid to school and swim. Everyone is different.

I would not allow my kid in an uber. If I hosted that late, I'd take the kids home.