Do teen parents just pick up their kids very late?

[Anonymous]

I tell my kids to sleep over, my husband and I go to bed 9:30/10.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a night owl so doesn’t bother me - but I think many parents just pick up earlier if they don’t want to stay up that late or call an Uber. I often agreed to take her friends home later bc I was up anyway and my daughter wanted that friend to stay later. So if your kid wants to stay later than 9/10 they can problem solve alternatives. If it’s a group hangout then maybe another kid lives near you and can take them home. Many kids in high school will also bus and in groups that’s usually fine

Op here. My kid has only taken an Uber once and that was from school to home. If possible, I always try to drive kids early on to the venue and hope/ask another parent can drive my kid home at the end of the night.

I also have a 13yo middle school kid and he gets driven home most of the time. His nights end much earlier, more like 8-9pm.

My teen has new friends I don’t know or have met once or twice briefly. Don’t know many of the parents at all.

Yeah - I think this is where offering to take kids there and other parent picks them up is good, maybe you can start getting cell numbers. I know how much harder it gets in high school but I’ve had good luck getting parent contact over time.

My teen and her friends Uber as a group, there are a few that live close together so they will catch one together. That option seems safer than an unknown parent that could be drunk lol

[Anonymous]

I stay up and DH goes to bed. I don’t like picking my kid up late but I think it’s important and like to connect with DC so I do it. I’m not a fan of ubering unless one of us can’t get there for some reason.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My teen is typically at a friend's house whose parent is a night owl. SOOOO thankful that she will bring him home at 11p/12a. I am looong asleep.

Is there any adult awake when your child gets home? I think it's important to be awake enough to engage in a short conversation with your teen as a way to keep an eye on possible drug or alcohol use.

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There is an awake adult in my house until everyone is accounted for. Especially once they start driving.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I tell my kids to sleep over, my husband and I go to bed 9:30/10.

That's shitty of you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My teen is typically at a friend's house whose parent is a night owl. SOOOO thankful that she will bring him home at 11p/12a. I am looong asleep.

Is there any adult awake when your child gets home? I think it's important to be awake enough to engage in a short conversation with your teen as a way to keep an eye on possible drug or alcohol use.

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There is an awake adult in my house until everyone is accounted for. Especially once they start driving.

This. And we also don't send our kids in Ubers.

[Anonymous]

We do use Ubers which we order and track, and my husband is a night owl and does late night picking up too. He’s the Duber, God bless him. We have a 12 deadline though- it’s earlier than I used to come home in high school but after that I’m afraid he’ll fall asleep. Get a lot of begging when the movie isn’t finished from the younger teen, and watch where she is if my older daughter is out. It’s not great but, the price of having teens. Continual anxiety

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My teen is typically at a friend's house whose parent is a night owl. SOOOO thankful that she will bring him home at 11p/12a. I am looong asleep.

Is there any adult awake when your child gets home? I think it's important to be awake enough to engage in a short conversation with your teen as a way to keep an eye on possible drug or alcohol use.

+1
There is an awake adult in my house until everyone is accounted for. Especially once they start driving.

This. And we also don't send our kids in Ubers.

Same for us. I want to know they’re home safely and haven’t been drinking. You’d be surprised how many kids who know their parents are sound asleep come home either drunk or high.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My teen is typically at a friend's house whose parent is a night owl. SOOOO thankful that she will bring him home at 11p/12a. I am looong asleep.

Is there any adult awake when your child gets home? I think it's important to be awake enough to engage in a short conversation with your teen as a way to keep an eye on possible drug or alcohol use.

+1
There is an awake adult in my house until everyone is accounted for. Especially once they start driving.

This. And we also don't send our kids in Ubers.

Same for us. I want to know they’re home safely and haven’t been drinking. You’d be surprised how many kids who know their parents are sound asleep come home either drunk or high.

Sadly a lot parents know their teens are doing this and either ignore it, or even worse openly allow it. They will justify it as "everyone" is doing it and if we say our kids aren't, then we are dumb and fooled by our teens.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My teen is typically at a friend's house whose parent is a night owl. SOOOO thankful that she will bring him home at 11p/12a. I am looong asleep.

Is there any adult awake when your child gets home? I think it's important to be awake enough to engage in a short conversation with your teen as a way to keep an eye on possible drug or alcohol use.

+1
There is an awake adult in my house until everyone is accounted for. Especially once they start driving.

This. And we also don't send our kids in Ubers.

Same for us. I want to know they’re home safely and haven’t been drinking. You’d be surprised how many kids who know their parents are sound asleep come home either drunk or high.

My DD came home high despite my greeting her at the door. Sometimes we'd even sit together and chat for 20 minutes before she went to bed.

[Anonymous]

I can’t believe parents are too lazy to do their job and have their kid sleep over. Next thing, they will be on here complaining that they didn’t know their kid was doing x, y, and z.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Thankfully my kid sent a late nighter, but those years are still painful. He did an activity every Friday night that ended about 10 and I would have to go get him. At this time of year it was brutal! He is now 18, drives himself (about to walk out the door), and I say a small prayer of thanks every single Friday!
One day you will miss driving with them, even at 11 at night.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. Thankfully my kid sent a late nighter, but those years are still painful. He did an activity every Friday night that ended about 10 and I would have to go get him. At this time of year it was brutal! He is now 18, drives himself (about to walk out the door), and I say a small prayer of thanks every single Friday!
One day you will miss driving with them, even at 11 at night.

*isn’t a late nighter

[Anonymous]

My DD has a late night tonight and I’m dreading it. I’ll have to pick her up around 12:30am, which is 3 hours past my bedtime!! But it’s rare - only special occasions.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I tell my kids to sleep over, my husband and I go to bed 9:30/10.

That's shitty of you.

+2 Why have kids at all?