Do teen parents just pick up their kids very late?

[Anonymous]

I have a freshman who is staying out later. We are an early house where we all get ready for bed early. My 6 year old gets ready for bed at 8 and we are often sleeping at 9-10.

If you have a teen who doesn’t drive, do you pick them up at late hours?

I recently waited for my kid past 11 from a movie and it felt sooooo late and I know it isn’t even that late.

I’m planning a birthday dinner for my teen. It will likely end around 11. Should I be driving everyone home at 11-12?

[Anonymous]

Yes, and still now as they drive but by law cannot drive after 11.

[Anonymous]

yes. and enjoy the 11pm curfew year

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, and still now as they drive but by law cannot drive after 11.

where is legal curfew 11pm?

[Anonymous]

We’re an early house too and those nights when teens are out are painful. It’s a bit easier when kids hang out at our house and fortunately we’re a hangout house.

As to driving other kids after a birthday party, that’s a preference.

[Anonymous]

Not all teens. I have a college freshman, and when he was in high school, he didn't like socializing too late. My 8th grader is shaping up to be the same way. She gets up at 6am every day and is tired by 9pm.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, and still now as they drive but by law cannot drive after 11.

where is legal curfew 11pm?

Florida for 16yos, it goes up to 1am at 17.

[Anonymous]

That would be very kind of you to drive kids home but is definitely not the norm. We host a lot of late-night kid get-togethers and the parents pick their kids up (and some kids even Uber home, which I have mixed feelings about).

[Anonymous]

I used to stay up until 1 am! Those were the days. I’m asleep by 9pm now.

[Anonymous]

If the birthday dinner is going very late, you may want to host a sleepover afterward.

We pick up our teen relatively early. Sometimes she doesn't get to finish the movie they're watching at a friends' house. She complains all the time. Dad is the strict one. And our kids aren't allowed to go out on weeknights after dinner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If the birthday dinner is going very late, you may want to host a sleepover afterward.

We pick up our teen relatively early. Sometimes she doesn't get to finish the movie they're watching at a friends' house. She complains all the time. Dad is the strict one. And our kids aren't allowed to go out on weeknights after dinner.

Yikes!! Your poor kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not all teens. I have a college freshman, and when he was in high school, he didn't like socializing too late. My 8th grader is shaping up to be the same way. She gets up at 6am every day and is tired by 9pm.

well if your kid is a homebody then obviously you don't need to pick them up late. what?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, and still now as they drive but by law cannot drive after 11.

where is legal curfew 11pm?

The driving curfew in Virginia is midnight.

[Anonymous]

That seems pretty late for a HS freshman, my teens didn't start the late nights until around the second half of 10th grade.

But regardless, personally I wouldn't let it be an every weekend thing. Occasionally for a late movie or special event, okay. Every Friday and Saturday night? That's not how I'm going to be spending my time.

For the bday party that's going until 11 or 12, make that a sleepover. I doubt most parents want you dropping their kids off at midnight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That seems pretty late for a HS freshman, my teens didn't start the late nights until around the second half of 10th grade.

But regardless, personally I wouldn't let it be an every weekend thing. Occasionally for a late movie or special event, okay. Every Friday and Saturday night? That's not how I'm going to be spending my time.

For the bday party that's going until 11 or 12, make that a sleepover. I doubt most parents want you dropping their kids off at midnight.

I considered making it a sleepover but my kid has a sporting event the next day and I don’t want him to be tired. We will also have tickets to an event the next evening so don’t want him to not enjoy that because he didn’t get any sleep the night before.