How old to discuss n word with non Black child?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I haven't discussed it and our oldest is 12. Our kids don't use bad words though. I will say that our 3rd grader knew the n-word, which I was surprised about.

So you just don't want to be bothered to explain to your children the history of that word? Because they'll never have to deal with Black people? I am shocked the DCUM population is this unbelievably obtuse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does anyone else think the flip side of this conversation is important as well? And by that I mean, talking to our kids about extending grace (or the benefit of the doubt) to children who might say something offensive because they are young and testing boundaries, or because they are singing along to a song they like, or because they just genuinely didn’t know any better?

What I have seen recently is the cultivation of an almost mob-like mentality in our youth, in which they are encouraged to show no mercy to anyone who may have ever made a mistake.

Um no, because there is no excuse for ever using that word. Teach your kids better. Are you for real with this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I haven't discussed it and our oldest is 12. Our kids don't use bad words though. I will say that our 3rd grader knew the n-word, which I was surprised about.

So you just don't want to be bothered to explain to your children the history of that word? Because they'll never have to deal with Black people? I am shocked the DCUM population is this unbelievably obtuse.

Everyone should know the history of the word in this country. The word negro was turned into the ugly word n@gger used to demean Black people especially during slavery, civil rights movement and other racists tried to keep them down.

Show your kids the pictures of the White people holding hate signs with the word on them when they tried to desegregate Southern schools. Listen to the famous MLK speech

Explain how Black people changed the word and kept it for themselves. How racists still use it as a hate word by putting “er” on it.

Why wouldn’t you teach your children? I wouldn’t count on the schools to do a good job.

[Anonymous]

My white 11yo knows the word - he’s heard it in rap music and he knows it’s not something he should repeat. He’s brought it up to me.

[Anonymous]

I’m pp - I of course meant he should NOT repeat!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I haven't discussed it and our oldest is 12. Our kids don't use bad words though. I will say that our 3rd grader knew the n-word, which I was surprised about.

So you just don't want to be bothered to explain to your children the history of that word? Because they'll never have to deal with Black people? I am shocked the DCUM population is this unbelievably obtuse.

Some of us live in civilized areas where children don't hear slurs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does anyone else think the flip side of this conversation is important as well? And by that I mean, talking to our kids about extending grace (or the benefit of the doubt) to children who might say something offensive because they are young and testing boundaries, or because they are singing along to a song they like, or because they just genuinely didn’t know any better?

What I have seen recently is the cultivation of an almost mob-like mentality in our youth, in which they are encouraged to show no mercy to anyone who may have ever made a mistake.

Um no, because there is no excuse for ever using that word. Teach your kids better. Are you for real with this?

Tell that to all the rappers and athletes and actors, dummy. They use it all the freaking time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I haven't discussed it and our oldest is 12. Our kids don't use bad words though. I will say that our 3rd grader knew the n-word, which I was surprised about.

So you just don't want to be bothered to explain to your children the history of that word? Because they'll never have to deal with Black people? I am shocked the DCUM population is this unbelievably obtuse.

Everyone should know the history of the word in this country. The word negro was turned into the ugly word n@gger used to demean Black people especially during slavery, civil rights movement and other racists tried to keep them down.

Show your kids the pictures of the White people holding hate signs with the word on them when they tried to desegregate Southern schools. Listen to the famous MLK speech

Explain how Black people changed the word and kept it for themselves. How racists still use it as a hate word by putting “er” on it.

Why wouldn’t you teach your children? I wouldn’t count on the schools to do a good job.

I think the “I Have a Dream” speech would just confuse the kids nowadays, since we teach them that skin color is THE MOST IMPORTANT and DEFINING characteristic there is…

(I bet MLK would be equally confused as to how much we have regressed in this regard, even though we collectively pretend it’s progress…)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I haven't discussed it and our oldest is 12. Our kids don't use bad words though. I will say that our 3rd grader knew the n-word, which I was surprised about.

So you just don't want to be bothered to explain to your children the history of that word? Because they'll never have to deal with Black people? I am shocked the DCUM population is this unbelievably obtuse.

Some of us live in civilized areas where children don't hear slurs.

Oh man, I have a bridge to sell you...

I grew up UMC, went to private school, lived in a $1M+ house, etc, as do my kids. And yet somehow, SOMEHOW, they and I both heard the word used. I wonder how that ever happened.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does anyone else think the flip side of this conversation is important as well? And by that I mean, talking to our kids about extending grace (or the benefit of the doubt) to children who might say something offensive because they are young and testing boundaries, or because they are singing along to a song they like, or because they just genuinely didn’t know any better?

What I have seen recently is the cultivation of an almost mob-like mentality in our youth, in which they are encouraged to show no mercy to anyone who may have ever made a mistake.

Um no, because there is no excuse for ever using that word. Teach your kids better. Are you for real with this?

Tell that to all the rappers and athletes and actors, dummy. They use it all the freaking time.

And? People use drugs all the time. They murder people all the time. Sexually assault people. Do you need me to go on? I guess the bar for your kids is super low. Congrats?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I haven't discussed it and our oldest is 12. Our kids don't use bad words though. I will say that our 3rd grader knew the n-word, which I was surprised about.

So you just don't want to be bothered to explain to your children the history of that word? Because they'll never have to deal with Black people? I am shocked the DCUM population is this unbelievably obtuse.

Everyone should know the history of the word in this country. The word negro was turned into the ugly word n@gger used to demean Black people especially during slavery, civil rights movement and other racists tried to keep them down.

Show your kids the pictures of the White people holding hate signs with the word on them when they tried to desegregate Southern schools. Listen to the famous MLK speech

Explain how Black people changed the word and kept it for themselves. How racists still use it as a hate word by putting “er” on it.

Why wouldn’t you teach your children? I wouldn’t count on the schools to do a good job.

I think the “I Have a Dream” speech would just confuse the kids nowadays, since we teach them that skin color is THE MOST IMPORTANT and DEFINING characteristic there is…

(I bet MLK would be equally confused as to how much we have regressed in this regard, even though we collectively pretend it’s progress…)

You're being purposefully obtuse, right? RIGHT?!?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I haven't discussed it and our oldest is 12. Our kids don't use bad words though. I will say that our 3rd grader knew the n-word, which I was surprised about.

So you just don't want to be bothered to explain to your children the history of that word? Because they'll never have to deal with Black people? I am shocked the DCUM population is this unbelievably obtuse.

Everyone should know the history of the word in this country. The word negro was turned into the ugly word n@gger used to demean Black people especially during slavery, civil rights movement and other racists tried to keep them down.

Show your kids the pictures of the White people holding hate signs with the word on them when they tried to desegregate Southern schools. Listen to the famous MLK speech

Explain how Black people changed the word and kept it for themselves. How racists still use it as a hate word by putting “er” on it.

Why wouldn’t you teach your children? I wouldn’t count on the schools to do a good job.

I think the “I Have a Dream” speech would just confuse the kids nowadays, since we teach them that skin color is THE MOST IMPORTANT and DEFINING characteristic there is…

(I bet MLK would be equally confused as to how much we have regressed in this regard, even though we collectively pretend it’s progress…)

You're being purposefully obtuse, right? RIGHT?!?

No, I am 100% serious. I also guarantee you’re an upper middle class white woman.

[Anonymous]

I'm surprised at some of these responses. Hispanic teens use the word freely and loudly while joking around with each other. Stop by any soccer field in the region in the evenings. You will hear it. A lot. These are NOT afro-latinos using it. Our elementary school aged kids have practice on these fields so they hear it unfortunately.