How old to discuss n word with non Black child?

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Anonymous wrote:Another thread made me realize that I may need to talk to my child about the n word. We are Latino (only mention this to indicate that my kid is not black, which I think is relevant). What age/grade is a good time for this discussion? Also, do you say the word when discussing it with your kid?

You can be black and Latino. Do you really not know this? Have you ever been to the Dominican Republic? Puerto Rico? Brazil? Any number of other countries with a large black population in Latin America?

👆🏾tell me you are white without telling me you are white.

Yup

Not only is the "tell me you are blah blah" a tired and trite phrase, you're an idiot. All three of you. Why would you think that stating you are Latino to indicate your kid is not black makes any sense? You're all just dumb, or 8.

Reading comprehension. Get some.

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Anonymous wrote:Another thread made me realize that I may need to talk to my child about the n word. We are Latino (only mention this to indicate that my kid is not black, which I think is relevant). What age/grade is a good time for this discussion? Also, do you say the word when discussing it with your kid?

You can be black and Latino. Do you really not know this? Have you ever been to the Dominican Republic? Puerto Rico? Brazil? Any number of other countries with a large black population in Latin America?

She’s talking about African Americans where it started under slavery. I’m not sure if the immigrants from African countries who came here on their own use it.

Wow. Where are the “immigrants from African countries who came here on their own” exactly? The largely black Latino populations all over Latin America are all descendants of slaves. Don’t you know that?

New poster. Immigrants from African countries who were not enslaved. Eg Barack Obama’s father.

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Anonymous wrote:Another thread made me realize that I may need to talk to my child about the n word. We are Latino (only mention this to indicate that my kid is not black, which I think is relevant). What age/grade is a good time for this discussion? Also, do you say the word when discussing it with your kid?

You can be black and Latino. Do you really not know this? Have you ever been to the Dominican Republic? Puerto Rico? Brazil? Any number of other countries with a large black population in Latin America?

NP yes but “we” still don’t use the n-word. It’s not a word for us, even black Latinos.

Dominicans from the heights use it freely

He’ll even Puerto Ricans from the city use it non stop

Tri state Latinas and Latinos for sure use the n-word

Maybe it’s different in dc

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Anonymous wrote:We talk about race and derogatory language. Specifically about how words had been used to attack and demean Black people throughout history and up to today. We talk about “boy” too when used to refer to a Black man.

We started having the n word conversation must have been before 4th grade, because he saw some kid had scrawled it on the playground slide and he reported it to the principal after recess. Now we are getting into the reporting and banning process inside of video games.

So yeah - we think it is important to talk about language and how it is used (note, is, not was) in racist ways, and how it perpetuates racism. And what his role as a white teenager to address it.

I mean, something like roblox or minecraft I can understand. But there’s an irony here if we’re talking about M-Rated games like Call of Duty. How would you feel if you were talking on the phone to someone, they were offended by something you said so they called up whoever you have service with and reported you and were banned from using your phone?

Even more-so than that, how would you feel about there being activism to have all phone calls recorded and constantly scanned by AI for “offensive behavior”? Because that’s essentially what’s being pushed for and implemented now because of people bothered by language in online games.

I think reporting and fighting racism in group conversations (especially public and especially mature games) is extremely important for our society. I’m actually 100% ok with even AI for that - those are relatively open spaces.

It isn’t analogous to places I would have some expectation of privacy.

There’s no expectation of privacy on phone calls either. Anyone could be listening in in the other side if the volume is high enough or you’re on speaker.

It’s not a public forum, it’s honestly more akin to a phonecall than it is to something like DCUM or even a post only to your friends on a facebook profile. It’s a live group chat with anywhere from 2-12 other people. And it’s rated Mature so it should only be other adults or people okay with adult/offensive/mature themes.

If your kid reports people for saying a racist word, how do you/he know they’re not part of that group and have reclaimed the word? How do you know they’re not biracial? Just assuming because of vernacular stereotypes? Or do you just think it’s okay to police ALL use of the language under some sort of white savior complex?

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Anonymous wrote:We have 3 kids. Oldest is 14. We are an Asian American family. I have never had a discussion about the N word. We would never say this. They don’t say this. I’m not sure why you feel the need to talk about this.

You are doing your kids a disservice. They need to understand what it's about, its history and how to respond. How are people still so obtuse. Ignoring won't get you anything. We discuss slurs and what they mean no matter the target. That's how your kids know how to be allies. Jesus.

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Anonymous wrote:Another thread made me realize that I may need to talk to my child about the n word. We are Latino (only mention this to indicate that my kid is not black, which I think is relevant). What age/grade is a good time for this discussion? Also, do you say the word when discussing it with your kid?

You can be black and Latino. Do you really not know this? Have you ever been to the Dominican Republic? Puerto Rico? Brazil? Any number of other countries with a large black population in Latin America?

She’s talking about African Americans where it started under slavery. I’m not sure if the immigrants from African countries who came here on their own use it.

Yeah, because yt people can tell the difference...

Wow. Where are the “immigrants from African countries who came here on their own” exactly? The largely black Latino populations all over Latin America are all descendants of slaves. Don’t you know that?

New poster. Immigrants from African countries who were not enslaved. Eg Barack Obama’s father.

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Anonymous wrote:Elementary school? Don't worry about it. If they ever get caught saying it, explain that it's not allowed.

As they get older, if they mention it or listen to music or watch movies featuring the word, tell them that it's not allowed.

I was called that in second grade by another kid in a hallway. Should my parents have just not talked about it? Clearly his parents had said it.

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We can't police the language of others. We're responsible for ourselves. On repeat.

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Anonymous wrote:Another thread made me realize that I may need to talk to my child about the n word. We are Latino (only mention this to indicate that my kid is not black, which I think is relevant). What age/grade is a good time for this discussion? Also, do you say the word when discussing it with your kid?

You can be black and Latino. Do you really not know this? Have you ever been to the Dominican Republic? Puerto Rico? Brazil? Any number of other countries with a large black population in Latin America?

👆🏾tell me you are white without telling me you are white.

Yup

Not only is the "tell me you are blah blah" a tired and trite phrase, you're an idiot. All three of you. Why would you think that stating you are Latino to indicate your kid is not black makes any sense? You're all just dumb, or 8.

What would you have preferred she said, Chicano?

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Anonymous wrote:We have 3 kids. Oldest is 14. We are an Asian American family. I have never had a discussion about the N word. We would never say this. They don’t say this. I’m not sure why you feel the need to talk about this.

You are doing your kids a disservice. They need to understand what it's about, its history and how to respond. How are people still so obtuse. Ignoring won't get you anything. We discuss slurs and what they mean no matter the target. That's how your kids know how to be allies. Jesus.

+1. I was so frustrated reading that, I didn’t even feel up to writing a response. So, thank you. (I’m also Asian American.)

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Anonymous wrote:Another thread made me realize that I may need to talk to my child about the n word. We are Latino (only mention this to indicate that my kid is not black, which I think is relevant). What age/grade is a good time for this discussion? Also, do you say the word when discussing it with your kid?

You can be black and Latino. Do you really not know this? Have you ever been to the Dominican Republic? Puerto Rico? Brazil? Any number of other countries with a large black population in Latin America?

NP yes but “we” still don’t use the n-word. It’s not a word for us, even black Latinos.

Dominicans from the heights use it freely

He’ll even Puerto Ricans from the city use it non stop

Tri state Latinas and Latinos for sure use the n-word

Maybe it’s different in dc

Yeah, it's different on DCUM but I'm not sure it's that different among teens in the DMV.

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Op here. Sorry for the misuse of the word Black. That’s a product of me being bilingual. I replaced African American with Black in my vocabulary because I understand that’s the US custom now, and I was imprecise in my original post.

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Anonymous wrote:Another thread made me realize that I may need to talk to my child about the n word. We are Latino (only mention this to indicate that my kid is not black, which I think is relevant). What age/grade is a good time for this discussion? Also, do you say the word when discussing it with your kid?

You can be black and Latino. Do you really not know this? Have you ever been to the Dominican Republic? Puerto Rico? Brazil? Any number of other countries with a large black population in Latin America?

NP yes but “we” still don’t use the n-word. It’s not a word for us, even black Latinos.

You don’t use it but Latinos do use it. I wouldn’t know how common it is but it’s used, maybe more with their Black friends. Maybe not so much in the suburbs.

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Anonymous wrote:Another thread made me realize that I may need to talk to my child about the n word. We are Latino (only mention this to indicate that my kid is not black, which I think is relevant). What age/grade is a good time for this discussion? Also, do you say the word when discussing it with your kid?

You can be black and Latino. Do you really not know this? Have you ever been to the Dominican Republic? Puerto Rico? Brazil? Any number of other countries with a large black population in Latin America?

She’s talking about African Americans where it started under slavery. I’m not sure if the immigrants from African countries who came here on their own use it.

Wow. Where are the “immigrants from African countries who came here on their own” exactly? The largely black Latino populations all over Latin America are all descendants of slaves. Don’t you know that?

Went right over your head.

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I haven't discussed it and our oldest is 12. Our kids don't use bad words though. I will say that our 3rd grader knew the n-word, which I was surprised about.