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Yes, absolutely. Have your kid get off Minecraft and Instagram and start cultivating a talent--debate, orchestra instrument, singing, theater, art, math or science olympics, creative writing, coding, etc--that will be excellent enough to add something of value to an Ivy campus. Otherwise, why should they pick her application out of the pile for admission when so many other kids have high stats too? |
Lots of the high stats kids these days are already doing "debate, orchestra instrument, singing, theater, art, math or science olympics, creative writing, coding, etc." |
Get ideas on Reddit. Random obscure things and lots of detail. |
You are not just "doing" these things; rather, you are excelling to the extent that the schools will recruit you for one of them. |
So, keeping things at the Ivy League, Cornell is doable for a smart unhooked kid with the grades and the stats and the ECs and the recs and the essays and all that. And of course there's always going to be the random that gets into Brown or Dartmouth or wherever. But by and large, no. Your smart, hardworking kid is not getting into Harvard. That's reserved for certain names, wealth, wall street, some athletes (hockey is very good), the DEI stuff, some legacy, the "Z" list, first generation. Straight A white girl Lucy with college educated parents from Hyatsville is not going to Yale. But there are some very good non-Ivy League schools that prioritize talent and will make it happen financially - MIT, CalTech, Rice, Williams, Chicago, Notre Dame, Bowdoin, Northwestern, Vanderbilt. And the instate public school honors programs are becoming better and better every single year. And of course you can shoot your shot with merit scholarships, But generally, the Ivy League today is a club. It's not a meritocracy. |
My DC’s boarding school sends a large number of extremely smart, unhooked white and Asian kids to the Ivies every year. |
You can get into HYP unhooked (as a white or Asian) if you're roughly top 3 in the class at STA, NCS or Sidwell. It happened the last two years and it's happened again this year. It's not a guarantee but the odds are surprisingly good. However graduating with those stats is really difficult. |
Yes, coming from a school that costs $85,000 will definitely increase your odds of acceptance. |
Right. Those aren’t “normal smart kids.” |
Where did you get the data on this? One time I added up all the numbers of hooked kids at Harvard in each category (numbers from The Crimson), and it came to like 120% of the entering class. There is obviously some overlap in categories, but even considering a great deal of overlap, it would be hard to get that number down to 50%. |
Right? The top feeders to Harvard are Andover, Dalton, Spence, Collegiate, Horace Mann, Trinity, Exeter, Choate, Boston Latin, Deerfield. Just average American families. |
How does he/she really know? |
As someone who went to an ivy undergrad and the top law school, trust me, it's far more important in the long run to get into a good graduate/professional school. As long as your DC truly excels in whatever undergrad they attend, that's all that matters. |
My SATs were fine but the rest of what I brought to the table was definitely bottom 25%, especially when it came to the sophistication of my academic preparation. My graduating class in college was over 50% private school grads and included people who have since won Oscars and Emmys, people basically running the government in more than one country, professional athletes, and wildly rich kids who were also brilliant and have had careers like something out of a Wes Anderson movie. I actually don’t mind how things have gone with college admissions, because I don’t know that a place like that has a lot of space for smart, normal kids. I didn’t have the resources or connections to fully take advantage of what my school offered and often felt I was on the outside looking in. My DH and I share the same alma mater. Even though we sometimes fantasize about our child getting in and starting the family tradition that so many of our friends benefited from, we’re hopeful that she seeks out something that would be a more welcoming fit. |