Boyfriend keeps praising me for being “easy.”

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have a different take: you said you're not that available. So he feels no pressure to spend that much time with you. That makes it easy.

He wants more of me. He’s talking about cohabiting and future plans.

guys * talk * about personal plans a lot. I learned to laugh internally

You’re projecting, PP.

Meh, maybe. But if I had a penny for every time dropped the names of exotic places they wanted to “take me.” I would have about a nickel. Even so, I noticed a trend. Please don’t share loose plans with me.

[Anonymous]

If you are 16 and he says you’re easy that’s a problem. But easy as a full blown adult is a compliment. Low maintenance, independent, capable and flexible. My husband would say I’m very easy and maybe age 16 easy as well.

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Anonymous wrote:Not sure how to understand this. I am not particularly easy, or easygoing. I work FT in a demanding job that I necessarily put before him; I like nice things; I have definite ideas about what and how to do things. I have 2 kids whom I prioritize before my BF and that limits my availability. I have an abusive ex and a history of anxiety that is not active with my very solid, mature, reliable, reassuring, accepting and high integrity BF. Whom I waited to sleep with until date six.

I really love him, and that makes me more agreeable. What does “easy” mean in this context? I’ve heard people say good relationships are easy; I’m not sure whether he means this vs whether I’m not demanding enough.

It means different things to different people. DH finds me low maintenance compared to his first wife. It’s just that I don’t wear makeup, have natural hair and nails, and don’t mind some dirty/sweaty pastimes. Meanwhile, I have major health issues and often can’t help around the house.

[Anonymous]

It probably means that you make life for him easy, including your sex life and that's a high compliment. It probably was never so easy with anyone who came before you.

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Anonymous wrote:It probably means that you make life for him easy, including your sex life and that's a high compliment. It probably was never so easy with anyone who came before you.

That is true. I am very attracted to him and have no sexual hang ups or body image issues. I communicate frankly about sexual likes/wants/needs/ preferences (mine and his) both in and out of bed. I have been told by him and others that this is unusual.

[Anonymous]

He hit the jackpot because any man would do anything to get a woman easy to deal with.

[Anonymous]

Judging from your comments, I think he means it as a true compliment and is happy that the relationship is seamless. He just picked the wrong word. "Easy" would probably give me pause as well, particularly because men tended to walk all over me when I actually was a doormat back in the day. That doesn't sound like the case here at all though. I'd just let it go, but if he keeps complimenting you in this way, maybe direct him to a different word.

[Anonymous]

Ok thank you all. I’ll take it as a compliment and leave it at that for now.

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Anonymous wrote:Ok thank you all. I’ll take it as a compliment and leave it at that for now.

I am divorced and currently in the market and I hope to end up with someone like you. Trust me, your bf is thrilled! Those of u who have dealt with no so easy spouses or gf would do anything for someone like you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have a different take: you said you're not that available. So he feels no pressure to spend that much time with you. That makes it easy.

He wants more of me. He’s talking about cohabiting and future plans.

guys * talk * about personal plans a lot. I learned to laugh internally

You’re projecting, PP.

Meh, maybe. But if I had a penny for every time dropped the names of exotic places they wanted to “take me.” I would have about a nickel. Even so, I noticed a trend. Please don’t share loose plans with me.

I'm guessing you've never been described as "easy"

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ok thank you all. I’ll take it as a compliment and leave it at that for now.

I am divorced and currently in the market and I hope to end up with someone like you. Trust me, your bf is thrilled! Those of u who have dealt with no so easy spouses or gf would do anything for someone like you.

Thanks! My ex constantly told me /tells me I was/am “difficult” so I guess it really depends on the man/relationship.

[Anonymous]

I've heard the same thing from boyfriends. I wouldn't consider myself easygoing per se, but I am pretty agreeable when it comes to friends and dating. I like to do a wide range of things, I happily eat most things, and I get along with almost everyone. I'm pretty good at rolling with punches, and don't play games.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a different take: you said you're not that available. So he feels no pressure to spend that much time with you. That makes it easy.

He wants more of me. He’s talking about cohabiting and future plans.

guys * talk * about personal plans a lot. I learned to laugh internally

You’re projecting, PP.

Meh, maybe. But if I had a penny for every time dropped the names of exotic places they wanted to “take me.” I would have about a nickel. Even so, I noticed a trend. Please don’t share loose plans with me.

I'm guessing you've never been described as "easy"

Um, no. Probably never. But I am very fun in the sack.

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend has to be easy. At the first sign that he is demanding, difficult, overly-vigilant or insecure, I wait until the he slows down to 2O mph. Then I open the car door and safely roll into a ditch. I always wear jeans and long sleeves. I’ve had two dates end this way. I never regret the walk home or my extra laundry that night.