Boyfriend keeps praising me for being “easy.”

[Anonymous]

Also, for those of you who will inevitably say this is love-bombing: it’s not. Been there. He is simply an aware and considerate grownup who plays by the rules.

[Anonymous]

poster above, please elaborate. How do you see this and how have you “been there?”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You put out without a lot of work.

My man puts out and is consistently low effort. It’s my fav thing about it. He is always good to go too.

[Anonymous]

It means he had crazy ex girlfriends, or super demanding ex girlfriends. They could have been complex/demanding in a myriad of ways, so it is difficult to pinpoint precisely what he means here. But I'm pretty sure crazy exes is what the deal is with this.

I'm incredibly difficult, bonafide mental illness and all, but my DH still things I'm "easy" because his ex was on partner track at an accounting firm and had him running around like crazy doing the socializing she felt she needed to do to climb the ladder; it was real important that she socialize with clients, other partners, etc as a couple. He hated it with a passion. I'm an introvert and don't want to go anywhere at all. He loves that. So I'm "easy" to him, even though I'm sure all of my exes were like "Wow, you are easy" to the women they met after me.

So it depends on context.

[Anonymous]

It's a high compliment, OP. Men want women who are cooperative instead of constantly combative. They find the latter draining and exhausting over time. The one thing men say in survey after survey when asked what they want in a relationship is: peace.

"Easy" means he finds being with you relaxing. Calming. You are the diamond in the rough.

[Anonymous]

Easy Men are in demand. My recent ex demanded details on all my ex boyfriends. I am an attractive, easy-to-smile person.

Looking for easy man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's a high compliment, OP. Men want women who are cooperative instead of constantly combative. They find the latter draining and exhausting over time. The one thing men say in survey after survey when asked what they want in a relationship is: peace.

"Easy" means he finds being with you relaxing. Calming. You are the diamond in the rough.

You could not find a diamond if it hit you in the eye. This lady is obviously a hand- wringer. Or maybe a diamond actually hit you in the eye and now you can not read properly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not sure how to understand this. I am not particularly easy, or easygoing. I work FT in a demanding job that I necessarily put before him; I like nice things; I have definite ideas about what and how to do things. I have 2 kids whom I prioritize before my BF and that limits my availability. I have an abusive ex and a history of anxiety that is not active with my very solid, mature, reliable, reassuring, accepting and high integrity BF. Whom I waited to sleep with until date six.

I really love him, and that makes me more agreeable. What does “easy” mean in this context? I’ve heard people say good relationships are easy; I’m not sure whether he means this vs whether I’m not demanding enough.

Why don't you ask him what "easy" means? How the heck are a bunch of strangers on the internet who have never met you or your BF going to know what "easy" means? LOL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've always been described as easy. A few things that I can think of

1. I'm naturally easy going
2. I have a life outside of my significant other
3. I'm drama free
4. I communicate well
5. I don't play games

I'm this way too and often attract crazy people who play games all the time. Why are they drawn to me other than my self esteem I guess.

[Anonymous]

It means you put out early and often!

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend put it out early in the relationship. It was a nice change of pace.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not sure how to understand this. I am not particularly easy, or easygoing. I work FT in a demanding job that I necessarily put before him; I like nice things; I have definite ideas about what and how to do things. I have 2 kids whom I prioritize before my BF and that limits my availability. I have an abusive ex and a history of anxiety that is not active with my very solid, mature, reliable, reassuring, accepting and high integrity BF. Whom I waited to sleep with until date six.

I really love him, and that makes me more agreeable. What does “easy” mean in this context? I’ve heard people say good relationships are easy; I’m not sure whether he means this vs whether I’m not demanding enough.

Wouldn't overthink it. In all likelihood, it means he feels very comfortable around you. Perhaps he has a history with difficult women, and you guys click and he feels very natural with you. Which can be a relief and a revelation when you are not accustomed to it.

The phrasing is a little poor. But if everything else is good, I suspect he means it as a compliment. He might not be great with the nuances of words. "Easy" is not always the best word choice. But it does not necessarily mean anything bad. You have to regard it in the larger context, and only you know that. He's not Shakespeare. But I'm sure you can detect the meaning and whether it's meant kindly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's a high compliment, OP. Men want women who are cooperative instead of constantly combative. They find the latter draining and exhausting over time. The one thing men say in survey after survey when asked what they want in a relationship is: peace.

"Easy" means he finds being with you relaxing. Calming. You are the diamond in the rough.

lol. yes, men love it when there are zero demands on them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a different take: you said you're not that available. So he feels no pressure to spend that much time with you. That makes it easy.

He wants more of me. He’s talking about cohabiting and future plans.

guys * talk * about personal plans a lot. I learned to laugh internally

You’re projecting, PP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You don’t play games.

+1


He's clearly and a high-maintenance and manipulative ex. He finds you refreshingly direct and sensible.