Nicest parent communities which schools?

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Anonymous wrote:Sadly not STA. It varies some by class but large population of mean girl moms who never mentally graduated from junior high.

This is sad to hear. I had hoped STA would figure this out. The Chevy crowd at STA (and NCS) is vicious. Hands down probably one of the worst crowds in the DMV.

We're a decidedly not fancy STA/NCS family.
A couple of things:

-there are countless parents who are not country club members. the vast majority.

-among the Chevy crowd (since that was brought up) I've found that (not surprisingly) that the wealthiest and most influential ones are generally the nicest. The mean ones are almost always the strivers OR the ones with kids who struggle socially. When people are secure in who they are, they're generally nice.

-I've also found that none of it matters during the high school years as kids make their own friends. If they're some combo of smart, funny, charismatic, interesting, athletic, kind, good looking, etc. they'll likely find themselves comfortably fitting into the social world even if they're the furthest thing from a Chevy member there is. My kids have been fully embraced by other kids. They've invited to a near constant stream of pre-parties, after parties, regular parties, golf outings, dinners, hang-outs, ski trips, vacations, etc. etc. They have many friends and will know these kids until for years to come. They feel fully part of the community. It's all good.

DP. I disagree parents of these kids are more involved with their kids social lives in highschool than other parents. Just ask the kid that was dressed for the Chevy dance with his invitation in hand and humiliated by adults at Chevy when he was told to leave and that he was not invited. How do you get over that public humiliation as a kid in highschool?

I have also heard the lower school at STA also has a group of these parents as well as highschool so I am not hopeful things will improve.

the christmas dance? He had the invite in hand (so he had been invited by the host families?) why was he asked to leave?

He was told he didn’t make the cut but he didn’t understand how the process works he had the invitation and assumed it was a done deal that he was invited. He didn’t realize he needed to follow up invitation.

He had sent in his check etc…

Last year

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Anonymous wrote:Sadly not STA. It varies some by class but large population of mean girl moms who never mentally graduated from junior high.

This is sad to hear. I had hoped STA would figure this out. The Chevy crowd at STA (and NCS) is vicious. Hands down probably one of the worst crowds in the DMV.

We're a decidedly not fancy STA/NCS family.
A couple of things:

-there are countless parents who are not country club members. the vast majority.

-among the Chevy crowd (since that was brought up) I've found that (not surprisingly) that the wealthiest and most influential ones are generally the nicest. The mean ones are almost always the strivers OR the ones with kids who struggle socially. When people are secure in who they are, they're generally nice.

-I've also found that none of it matters during the high school years as kids make their own friends. If they're some combo of smart, funny, charismatic, interesting, athletic, kind, good looking, etc. they'll likely find themselves comfortably fitting into the social world even if they're the furthest thing from a Chevy member there is. My kids have been fully embraced by other kids. They've invited to a near constant stream of pre-parties, after parties, regular parties, golf outings, dinners, hang-outs, ski trips, vacations, etc. etc. They have many friends and will know these kids until for years to come. They feel fully part of the community. It's all good.

DP. I disagree parents of these kids are more involved with their kids social lives in highschool than other parents. Just ask the kid that was dressed for the Chevy dance with his invitation in hand and humiliated by adults at Chevy when he was told to leave and that he was not invited. How do you get over that public humiliation as a kid in highschool?

I have also heard the lower school at STA also has a group of these parents as well as highschool so I am not hopeful things will improve.

the christmas dance? He had the invite in hand (so he had been invited by the host families?) why was he asked to leave?

He was told he didn’t make the cut but he didn’t understand how the process works he had the invitation and assumed it was a done deal that he was invited. He didn’t realize he needed to follow up invitation.

He had sent in his check etc…

Last year

my kids went this year and it's spelled out very clearly by written invite and email how the process works. it sounds like he did not read the instructions and just showed up. i don't see how this is the fault of anyone but this kid (and secondarily his parents). I'm the last person who will defend bad behavior by jerkish parents but when the invite clearly says "you must do X, Y and Z to claim your spot" and everyone complies but one kid who just shows up then this 100% on him. And if he's in high school (and STA at that) then he's clearly bright enough to read an invite and follow instructions.

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Anonymous wrote:Sadly not STA. It varies some by class but large population of mean girl moms who never mentally graduated from junior high.

This is sad to hear. I had hoped STA would figure this out. The Chevy crowd at STA (and NCS) is vicious. Hands down probably one of the worst crowds in the DMV.

We're a decidedly not fancy STA/NCS family.
A couple of things:

-there are countless parents who are not country club members. the vast majority.

-among the Chevy crowd (since that was brought up) I've found that (not surprisingly) that the wealthiest and most influential ones are generally the nicest. The mean ones are almost always the strivers OR the ones with kids who struggle socially. When people are secure in who they are, they're generally nice.

-I've also found that none of it matters during the high school years as kids make their own friends. If they're some combo of smart, funny, charismatic, interesting, athletic, kind, good looking, etc. they'll likely find themselves comfortably fitting into the social world even if they're the furthest thing from a Chevy member there is. My kids have been fully embraced by other kids. They've invited to a near constant stream of pre-parties, after parties, regular parties, golf outings, dinners, hang-outs, ski trips, vacations, etc. etc. They have many friends and will know these kids until for years to come. They feel fully part of the community. It's all good.

DP. I disagree parents of these kids are more involved with their kids social lives in highschool than other parents. Just ask the kid that was dressed for the Chevy dance with his invitation in hand and humiliated by adults at Chevy when he was told to leave and that he was not invited. How do you get over that public humiliation as a kid in highschool?

I have also heard the lower school at STA also has a group of these parents as well as highschool so I am not hopeful things will improve.

the christmas dance? He had the invite in hand (so he had been invited by the host families?) why was he asked to leave?

He was told he didn’t make the cut but he didn’t understand how the process works he had the invitation and assumed it was a done deal that he was invited. He didn’t realize he needed to follow up invitation.

Not at all surprising. Disgusting behavior on the part of the Chevy Chase adults.

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Anonymous wrote:Sadly not STA. It varies some by class but large population of mean girl moms who never mentally graduated from junior high.

This is sad to hear. I had hoped STA would figure this out. The Chevy crowd at STA (and NCS) is vicious. Hands down probably one of the worst crowds in the DMV.

We're a decidedly not fancy STA/NCS family.
A couple of things:

-there are countless parents who are not country club members. the vast majority.

-among the Chevy crowd (since that was brought up) I've found that (not surprisingly) that the wealthiest and most influential ones are generally the nicest. The mean ones are almost always the strivers OR the ones with kids who struggle socially. When people are secure in who they are, they're generally nice.

-I've also found that none of it matters during the high school years as kids make their own friends. If they're some combo of smart, funny, charismatic, interesting, athletic, kind, good looking, etc. they'll likely find themselves comfortably fitting into the social world even if they're the furthest thing from a Chevy member there is. My kids have been fully embraced by other kids. They've invited to a near constant stream of pre-parties, after parties, regular parties, golf outings, dinners, hang-outs, ski trips, vacations, etc. etc. They have many friends and will know these kids until for years to come. They feel fully part of the community. It's all good.

DP. I disagree parents of these kids are more involved with their kids social lives in highschool than other parents. Just ask the kid that was dressed for the Chevy dance with his invitation in hand and humiliated by adults at Chevy when he was told to leave and that he was not invited. How do you get over that public humiliation as a kid in highschool?

I have also heard the lower school at STA also has a group of these parents as well as highschool so I am not hopeful things will improve.

the christmas dance? He had the invite in hand (so he had been invited by the host families?) why was he asked to leave?

He was told he didn’t make the cut but he didn’t understand how the process works he had the invitation and assumed it was a done deal that he was invited. He didn’t realize he needed to follow up invitation.

He had sent in his check etc…

Last year

my kids went this year and it's spelled out very clearly by written invite and email how the process works. it sounds like he did not read the instructions and just showed up. i don't see how this is the fault of anyone but this kid (and secondarily his parents). I'm the last person who will defend bad behavior by jerkish parents but when the invite clearly says "you must do X, Y and Z to claim your spot" and everyone complies but one kid who just shows up then this 100% on him. And if he's in high school (and STA at that) then he's clearly bright enough to read an invite and follow instructions.

There’s a concept of extending grace to people who make mistakes. Look it up. It’s part of the tenets of Christianity that St. Albans supposedly espouses.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sadly not STA. It varies some by class but large population of mean girl moms who never mentally graduated from junior high.

This is sad to hear. I had hoped STA would figure this out. The Chevy crowd at STA (and NCS) is vicious. Hands down probably one of the worst crowds in the DMV.

We're a decidedly not fancy STA/NCS family.
A couple of things:

-there are countless parents who are not country club members. the vast majority.

-among the Chevy crowd (since that was brought up) I've found that (not surprisingly) that the wealthiest and most influential ones are generally the nicest. The mean ones are almost always the strivers OR the ones with kids who struggle socially. When people are secure in who they are, they're generally nice.

-I've also found that none of it matters during the high school years as kids make their own friends. If they're some combo of smart, funny, charismatic, interesting, athletic, kind, good looking, etc. they'll likely find themselves comfortably fitting into the social world even if they're the furthest thing from a Chevy member there is. My kids have been fully embraced by other kids. They've invited to a near constant stream of pre-parties, after parties, regular parties, golf outings, dinners, hang-outs, ski trips, vacations, etc. etc. They have many friends and will know these kids until for years to come. They feel fully part of the community. It's all good.

DP. I disagree parents of these kids are more involved with their kids social lives in highschool than other parents. Just ask the kid that was dressed for the Chevy dance with his invitation in hand and humiliated by adults at Chevy when he was told to leave and that he was not invited. How do you get over that public humiliation as a kid in highschool?

I have also heard the lower school at STA also has a group of these parents as well as highschool so I am not hopeful things will improve.

the christmas dance? He had the invite in hand (so he had been invited by the host families?) why was he asked to leave?

He was told he didn’t make the cut but he didn’t understand how the process works he had the invitation and assumed it was a done deal that he was invited. He didn’t realize he needed to follow up invitation.

Not at all surprising. Disgusting behavior on the part of the Chevy Chase adults.

for the love of Pete. The invite says "DO NOT JUST SHOW UP". You must send in a check and wait for a confirmation email.
It isn't rocket science. If a kid does not do this and just shows up i hardly think it is in bad form of the club to turn him away.
You guys are really grasping at straws here.

It's like showing up at an Airbnb apartment without paying a deposit or getting a confirmation email from the host and then bad mouthing Airbnb for not having an apartment ready when you fly into town.

Come on. Get a grip. You are nuts.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sadly not STA. It varies some by class but large population of mean girl moms who never mentally graduated from junior high.

This is sad to hear. I had hoped STA would figure this out. The Chevy crowd at STA (and NCS) is vicious. Hands down probably one of the worst crowds in the DMV.

We're a decidedly not fancy STA/NCS family.
A couple of things:

-there are countless parents who are not country club members. the vast majority.

-among the Chevy crowd (since that was brought up) I've found that (not surprisingly) that the wealthiest and most influential ones are generally the nicest. The mean ones are almost always the strivers OR the ones with kids who struggle socially. When people are secure in who they are, they're generally nice.

-I've also found that none of it matters during the high school years as kids make their own friends. If they're some combo of smart, funny, charismatic, interesting, athletic, kind, good looking, etc. they'll likely find themselves comfortably fitting into the social world even if they're the furthest thing from a Chevy member there is. My kids have been fully embraced by other kids. They've invited to a near constant stream of pre-parties, after parties, regular parties, golf outings, dinners, hang-outs, ski trips, vacations, etc. etc. They have many friends and will know these kids until for years to come. They feel fully part of the community. It's all good.

And what do you do to reciprocate all this entertaining?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sadly not STA. It varies some by class but large population of mean girl moms who never mentally graduated from junior high.

This is sad to hear. I had hoped STA would figure this out. The Chevy crowd at STA (and NCS) is vicious. Hands down probably one of the worst crowds in the DMV.

We're a decidedly not fancy STA/NCS family.
A couple of things:

-there are countless parents who are not country club members. the vast majority.

-among the Chevy crowd (since that was brought up) I've found that (not surprisingly) that the wealthiest and most influential ones are generally the nicest. The mean ones are almost always the strivers OR the ones with kids who struggle socially. When people are secure in who they are, they're generally nice.

-I've also found that none of it matters during the high school years as kids make their own friends. If they're some combo of smart, funny, charismatic, interesting, athletic, kind, good looking, etc. they'll likely find themselves comfortably fitting into the social world even if they're the furthest thing from a Chevy member there is. My kids have been fully embraced by other kids. They've invited to a near constant stream of pre-parties, after parties, regular parties, golf outings, dinners, hang-outs, ski trips, vacations, etc. etc. They have many friends and will know these kids until for years to come. They feel fully part of the community. It's all good.

DP. I disagree parents of these kids are more involved with their kids social lives in highschool than other parents. Just ask the kid that was dressed for the Chevy dance with his invitation in hand and humiliated by adults at Chevy when he was told to leave and that he was not invited. How do you get over that public humiliation as a kid in highschool?

I have also heard the lower school at STA also has a group of these parents as well as highschool so I am not hopeful things will improve.

Heartbreaking - heard about this.

Holy moly.

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Anonymous wrote:Sadly not STA. It varies some by class but large population of mean girl moms who never mentally graduated from junior high.

This is sad to hear. I had hoped STA would figure this out. The Chevy crowd at STA (and NCS) is vicious. Hands down probably one of the worst crowds in the DMV.

We're a decidedly not fancy STA/NCS family.
A couple of things:

-there are countless parents who are not country club members. the vast majority.

-among the Chevy crowd (since that was brought up) I've found that (not surprisingly) that the wealthiest and most influential ones are generally the nicest. The mean ones are almost always the strivers OR the ones with kids who struggle socially. When people are secure in who they are, they're generally nice.

-I've also found that none of it matters during the high school years as kids make their own friends. If they're some combo of smart, funny, charismatic, interesting, athletic, kind, good looking, etc. they'll likely find themselves comfortably fitting into the social world even if they're the furthest thing from a Chevy member there is. My kids have been fully embraced by other kids. They've invited to a near constant stream of pre-parties, after parties, regular parties, golf outings, dinners, hang-outs, ski trips, vacations, etc. etc. They have many friends and will know these kids until for years to come. They feel fully part of the community. It's all good.

DP. I disagree parents of these kids are more involved with their kids social lives in highschool than other parents. Just ask the kid that was dressed for the Chevy dance with his invitation in hand and humiliated by adults at Chevy when he was told to leave and that he was not invited. How do you get over that public humiliation as a kid in highschool?

I have also heard the lower school at STA also has a group of these parents as well as highschool so I am not hopeful things will improve.

the christmas dance? He had the invite in hand (so he had been invited by the host families?) why was he asked to leave?

He was told he didn’t make the cut but he didn’t understand how the process works he had the invitation and assumed it was a done deal that he was invited. He didn’t realize he needed to follow up invitation.

Not at all surprising. Disgusting behavior on the part of the Chevy Chase adults.

for the love of Pete. The invite says "DO NOT JUST SHOW UP". You must send in a check and wait for a confirmation email.
It isn't rocket science. If a kid does not do this and just shows up i hardly think it is in bad form of the club to turn him away.
You guys are really grasping at straws here.

It's like showing up at an Airbnb apartment without paying a deposit or getting a confirmation email from the host and then bad mouthing Airbnb for not having an apartment ready when you fly into town.

Come on. Get a grip. You are nuts.

According to 17:59, he had sent his check in. You don’t know that he just showed up.

You sound pretty vested in defending Chevy Chase. Maybe you should think about why? Sounds like you are an apologist for bad behavior.

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Anonymous wrote:Sadly not STA. It varies some by class but large population of mean girl moms who never mentally graduated from junior high.

This is sad to hear. I had hoped STA would figure this out. The Chevy crowd at STA (and NCS) is vicious. Hands down probably one of the worst crowds in the DMV.

We're a decidedly not fancy STA/NCS family.
A couple of things:

-there are countless parents who are not country club members. the vast majority.

-among the Chevy crowd (since that was brought up) I've found that (not surprisingly) that the wealthiest and most influential ones are generally the nicest. The mean ones are almost always the strivers OR the ones with kids who struggle socially. When people are secure in who they are, they're generally nice.

-I've also found that none of it matters during the high school years as kids make their own friends. If they're some combo of smart, funny, charismatic, interesting, athletic, kind, good looking, etc. they'll likely find themselves comfortably fitting into the social world even if they're the furthest thing from a Chevy member there is. My kids have been fully embraced by other kids. They've invited to a near constant stream of pre-parties, after parties, regular parties, golf outings, dinners, hang-outs, ski trips, vacations, etc. etc. They have many friends and will know these kids until for years to come. They feel fully part of the community. It's all good.

DP. I disagree parents of these kids are more involved with their kids social lives in highschool than other parents. Just ask the kid that was dressed for the Chevy dance with his invitation in hand and humiliated by adults at Chevy when he was told to leave and that he was not invited. How do you get over that public humiliation as a kid in highschool?

I have also heard the lower school at STA also has a group of these parents as well as highschool so I am not hopeful things will improve.

the christmas dance? He had the invite in hand (so he had been invited by the host families?) why was he asked to leave?

He was told he didn’t make the cut but he didn’t understand how the process works he had the invitation and assumed it was a done deal that he was invited. He didn’t realize he needed to follow up invitation.

Not at all surprising. Disgusting behavior on the part of the Chevy Chase adults.

for the love of Pete. The invite says "DO NOT JUST SHOW UP". You must send in a check and wait for a confirmation email.
It isn't rocket science. If a kid does not do this and just shows up i hardly think it is in bad form of the club to turn him away.
You guys are really grasping at straws here.

It's like showing up at an Airbnb apartment without paying a deposit or getting a confirmation email from the host and then bad mouthing Airbnb for not having an apartment ready when you fly into town.

Come on. Get a grip. You are nuts.

It’s in terrible form. You can always fit in one more person, especially a boy, at these events. This is in no way comparable to your ridiculous Airbnb analogy.

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Anonymous wrote:Sadly not STA. It varies some by class but large population of mean girl moms who never mentally graduated from junior high.

This is sad to hear. I had hoped STA would figure this out. The Chevy crowd at STA (and NCS) is vicious. Hands down probably one of the worst crowds in the DMV.

We're a decidedly not fancy STA/NCS family.
A couple of things:

-there are countless parents who are not country club members. the vast majority.

-among the Chevy crowd (since that was brought up) I've found that (not surprisingly) that the wealthiest and most influential ones are generally the nicest. The mean ones are almost always the strivers OR the ones with kids who struggle socially. When people are secure in who they are, they're generally nice.

-I've also found that none of it matters during the high school years as kids make their own friends. If they're some combo of smart, funny, charismatic, interesting, athletic, kind, good looking, etc. they'll likely find themselves comfortably fitting into the social world even if they're the furthest thing from a Chevy member there is. My kids have been fully embraced by other kids. They've invited to a near constant stream of pre-parties, after parties, regular parties, golf outings, dinners, hang-outs, ski trips, vacations, etc. etc. They have many friends and will know these kids until for years to come. They feel fully part of the community. It's all good.

DP. I disagree parents of these kids are more involved with their kids social lives in highschool than other parents. Just ask the kid that was dressed for the Chevy dance with his invitation in hand and humiliated by adults at Chevy when he was told to leave and that he was not invited. How do you get over that public humiliation as a kid in highschool?

I have also heard the lower school at STA also has a group of these parents as well as highschool so I am not hopeful things will improve.

the christmas dance? He had the invite in hand (so he had been invited by the host families?) why was he asked to leave?

He was told he didn’t make the cut but he didn’t understand how the process works he had the invitation and assumed it was a done deal that he was invited. He didn’t realize he needed to follow up invitation.

Not at all surprising. Disgusting behavior on the part of the Chevy Chase adults.

for the love of Pete. The invite says "DO NOT JUST SHOW UP". You must send in a check and wait for a confirmation email.
It isn't rocket science. If a kid does not do this and just shows up i hardly think it is in bad form of the club to turn him away.
You guys are really grasping at straws here.

It's like showing up at an Airbnb apartment without paying a deposit or getting a confirmation email from the host and then bad mouthing Airbnb for not having an apartment ready when you fly into town.

Come on. Get a grip. You are nuts.

According to 17:59, he had sent his check in. You don’t know that he just showed up.

You sound pretty vested in defending Chevy Chase. Maybe you should think about why? Sounds like you are an apologist for bad behavior.

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It’s probably the person who got a cheap thrill from turning this kid away.

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I personally think Connelly school of the holy child

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Anonymous wrote:Sadly not STA. It varies some by class but large population of mean girl moms who never mentally graduated from junior high.

This is sad to hear. I had hoped STA would figure this out. The Chevy crowd at STA (and NCS) is vicious. Hands down probably one of the worst crowds in the DMV.

We're a decidedly not fancy STA/NCS family.
A couple of things:

-there are countless parents who are not country club members. the vast majority.

-among the Chevy crowd (since that was brought up) I've found that (not surprisingly) that the wealthiest and most influential ones are generally the nicest. The mean ones are almost always the strivers OR the ones with kids who struggle socially. When people are secure in who they are, they're generally nice.

-I've also found that none of it matters during the high school years as kids make their own friends. If they're some combo of smart, funny, charismatic, interesting, athletic, kind, good looking, etc. they'll likely find themselves comfortably fitting into the social world even if they're the furthest thing from a Chevy member there is. My kids have been fully embraced by other kids. They've invited to a near constant stream of pre-parties, after parties, regular parties, golf outings, dinners, hang-outs, ski trips, vacations, etc. etc. They have many friends and will know these kids until for years to come. They feel fully part of the community. It's all good.

DP. I disagree parents of these kids are more involved with their kids social lives in highschool than other parents. Just ask the kid that was dressed for the Chevy dance with his invitation in hand and humiliated by adults at Chevy when he was told to leave and that he was not invited. How do you get over that public humiliation as a kid in highschool?

I have also heard the lower school at STA also has a group of these parents as well as highschool so I am not hopeful things will improve.

the christmas dance? He had the invite in hand (so he had been invited by the host families?) why was he asked to leave?

He was told he didn’t make the cut but he didn’t understand how the process works he had the invitation and assumed it was a done deal that he was invited. He didn’t realize he needed to follow up invitation.

Not at all surprising. Disgusting behavior on the part of the Chevy Chase adults.

for the love of Pete. The invite says "DO NOT JUST SHOW UP". You must send in a check and wait for a confirmation email.
It isn't rocket science. If a kid does not do this and just shows up i hardly think it is in bad form of the club to turn him away.
You guys are really grasping at straws here.

It's like showing up at an Airbnb apartment without paying a deposit or getting a confirmation email from the host and then bad mouthing Airbnb for not having an apartment ready when you fly into town.

Come on. Get a grip. You are nuts.

It’s in terrible form. You can always fit in one more person, especially a boy, at these events. This is in no way comparable to your ridiculous Airbnb analogy.

He did send in his check

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Anonymous wrote:Sadly not STA. It varies some by class but large population of mean girl moms who never mentally graduated from junior high.

This is sad to hear. I had hoped STA would figure this out. The Chevy crowd at STA (and NCS) is vicious. Hands down probably one of the worst crowds in the DMV.

We're a decidedly not fancy STA/NCS family.
A couple of things:

-there are countless parents who are not country club members. the vast majority.

-among the Chevy crowd (since that was brought up) I've found that (not surprisingly) that the wealthiest and most influential ones are generally the nicest. The mean ones are almost always the strivers OR the ones with kids who struggle socially. When people are secure in who they are, they're generally nice.

-I've also found that none of it matters during the high school years as kids make their own friends. If they're some combo of smart, funny, charismatic, interesting, athletic, kind, good looking, etc. they'll likely find themselves comfortably fitting into the social world even if they're the furthest thing from a Chevy member there is. My kids have been fully embraced by other kids. They've invited to a near constant stream of pre-parties, after parties, regular parties, golf outings, dinners, hang-outs, ski trips, vacations, etc. etc. They have many friends and will know these kids until for years to come. They feel fully part of the community. It's all good.

DP. I disagree parents of these kids are more involved with their kids social lives in highschool than other parents. Just ask the kid that was dressed for the Chevy dance with his invitation in hand and humiliated by adults at Chevy when he was told to leave and that he was not invited. How do you get over that public humiliation as a kid in highschool?

I have also heard the lower school at STA also has a group of these parents as well as highschool so I am not hopeful things will improve.

the christmas dance? He had the invite in hand (so he had been invited by the host families?) why was he asked to leave?

He was told he didn’t make the cut but he didn’t understand how the process works he had the invitation and assumed it was a done deal that he was invited. He didn’t realize he needed to follow up invitation.

Not at all surprising. Disgusting behavior on the part of the Chevy Chase adults.

for the love of Pete. The invite says "DO NOT JUST SHOW UP". You must send in a check and wait for a confirmation email.
It isn't rocket science. If a kid does not do this and just shows up i hardly think it is in bad form of the club to turn him away.
You guys are really grasping at straws here.

It's like showing up at an Airbnb apartment without paying a deposit or getting a confirmation email from the host and then bad mouthing Airbnb for not having an apartment ready when you fly into town.

Come on. Get a grip. You are nuts.

According to 17:59, he had sent his check in. You don’t know that he just showed up.

You sound pretty vested in defending Chevy Chase. Maybe you should think about why? Sounds like you are an apologist for bad behavior.

you know, I would actually call bad behavior on his behalf. I know a good number of kids who were on the waitlist. they wanted to go but they followed instructions and stayed home. He clearly just ignored the rules and came anyway. Because apparently rules did not apply to him.

I am by no means a Chevy Chase apologist. I'm not a member, will never be a member and have nothing invested in the club. But you are using some non-sensical example about the CCC to slam STA and that irritates me. This is a kid who did not follow the rules (while hundreds of other kids did) and yet you're implying that he is the victim. No, he's the entitled one that decided that rules were not for him.

I'm done here. Happy New Year to all.

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Anonymous wrote:Sadly not STA. It varies some by class but large population of mean girl moms who never mentally graduated from junior high.

This is sad to hear. I had hoped STA would figure this out. The Chevy crowd at STA (and NCS) is vicious. Hands down probably one of the worst crowds in the DMV.

We're a decidedly not fancy STA/NCS family.
A couple of things:

-there are countless parents who are not country club members. the vast majority.

-among the Chevy crowd (since that was brought up) I've found that (not surprisingly) that the wealthiest and most influential ones are generally the nicest. The mean ones are almost always the strivers OR the ones with kids who struggle socially. When people are secure in who they are, they're generally nice.

-I've also found that none of it matters during the high school years as kids make their own friends. If they're some combo of smart, funny, charismatic, interesting, athletic, kind, good looking, etc. they'll likely find themselves comfortably fitting into the social world even if they're the furthest thing from a Chevy member there is. My kids have been fully embraced by other kids. They've invited to a near constant stream of pre-parties, after parties, regular parties, golf outings, dinners, hang-outs, ski trips, vacations, etc. etc. They have many friends and will know these kids until for years to come. They feel fully part of the community. It's all good.

Oh, saying that the vast majority don’t belong is a bit of an exaggeration. In some classes 40% of the families belong to a country club.

There are kids and parents who can’t afford the clubs but who are hangers on/groupies. They ingratiate themselves to the country club crowd so they get invited to the “parties, golf outings, dinners, hang-outs, and ski trips.” Of course they say it’s all good.

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Anonymous wrote:Sadly not STA. It varies some by class but large population of mean girl moms who never mentally graduated from junior high.

This is sad to hear. I had hoped STA would figure this out. The Chevy crowd at STA (and NCS) is vicious. Hands down probably one of the worst crowds in the DMV.

We're a decidedly not fancy STA/NCS family.
A couple of things:

-there are countless parents who are not country club members. the vast majority.

-among the Chevy crowd (since that was brought up) I've found that (not surprisingly) that the wealthiest and most influential ones are generally the nicest. The mean ones are almost always the strivers OR the ones with kids who struggle socially. When people are secure in who they are, they're generally nice.

-I've also found that none of it matters during the high school years as kids make their own friends. If they're some combo of smart, funny, charismatic, interesting, athletic, kind, good looking, etc. they'll likely find themselves comfortably fitting into the social world even if they're the furthest thing from a Chevy member there is. My kids have been fully embraced by other kids. They've invited to a near constant stream of pre-parties, after parties, regular parties, golf outings, dinners, hang-outs, ski trips, vacations, etc. etc. They have many friends and will know these kids until for years to come. They feel fully part of the community. It's all good.

DP. I disagree parents of these kids are more involved with their kids social lives in highschool than other parents. Just ask the kid that was dressed for the Chevy dance with his invitation in hand and humiliated by adults at Chevy when he was told to leave and that he was not invited. How do you get over that public humiliation as a kid in highschool?

I have also heard the lower school at STA also has a group of these parents as well as highschool so I am not hopeful things will improve.

the christmas dance? He had the invite in hand (so he had been invited by the host families?) why was he asked to leave?

He was told he didn’t make the cut but he didn’t understand how the process works he had the invitation and assumed it was a done deal that he was invited. He didn’t realize he needed to follow up invitation.

Not at all surprising. Disgusting behavior on the part of the Chevy Chase adults.

for the love of Pete. The invite says "DO NOT JUST SHOW UP". You must send in a check and wait for a confirmation email.
It isn't rocket science. If a kid does not do this and just shows up i hardly think it is in bad form of the club to turn him away.
You guys are really grasping at straws here.

It's like showing up at an Airbnb apartment without paying a deposit or getting a confirmation email from the host and then bad mouthing Airbnb for not having an apartment ready when you fly into town.

Come on. Get a grip. You are nuts.

According to 17:59, he had sent his check in. You don’t know that he just showed up.

You sound pretty vested in defending Chevy Chase. Maybe you should think about why? Sounds like you are an apologist for bad behavior.

you know, I would actually call bad behavior on his behalf. I know a good number of kids who were on the waitlist. they wanted to go but they followed instructions and stayed home. He clearly just ignored the rules and came anyway. Because apparently rules did not apply to him.

I am by no means a Chevy Chase apologist. I'm not a member, will never be a member and have nothing invested in the club. But you are using some non-sensical example about the CCC to slam STA and that irritates me. This is a kid who did not follow the rules (while hundreds of other kids did) and yet you're implying that he is the victim. No, he's the entitled one that decided that rules were not for him.

I'm done here. Happy New Year to all.

something seriously wrong with someone who thinks it’s ok for adults at a country club to behave the way the CCC did to this boy.